I can't get motivated

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Your workout becomes so much more if you continue.
Do it for you, love who you are now and who you are as your goal weight.
Your mind is the only thing stopping you from becoming your dream.


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You have to decide to do it for your self. If you listen to your husband and what he wants, you wont want to displease him maybe, and so you stay fat. or maybe he's just being nice. then again, some guys dont obsess about our looks as we, and they really mean it.

So figure out if you want to keep being winded when you are on vacation and cant walk around without looking for a bench every 20 minutes. you can walk up steps. you cant walk down steps.

My freind at work who works in an office all the way on the other side so i dont see her much, but hte other day she saw me and said wow you look so good, and she said, dont get like me where you get so bad you get diabetes and heart problems. to think if you can avoid getting diabetes thats like giving me another new life.

so you can enjoy the pleasure of food, or the pleasure of the things you will have if you dont overeat. it may seem like your at the bottom of Mt Everest, and where do you begin? well one day at a time. folow the MFP numbers and eat that. soon you will see a change, it may take a month for others to notice and their compliments are worth it.. they are pretty cool to actually notice the new you.

but the best part,, you get your energy back and truly it feels like you've been raised from the dead.

being fat keeps you in the house, cant do much and you feel like you've just about died. who wants to live like that? you are still young, many years to live.. you want to be there for your kids. what if you cant go to your kids schoool events.. wont that feel bad?

so just lose the weight and watch for exciting changes to happen daily or weekly. you will begin to see the new you thats been covered up in fat. keeping you disabled. no way to live really.

amazing, when you go to Target, they now have rows of handicapped scooters for people who are fat or disabled to ride around the store, about 10 years ago, this was not so,, they only had a few. so do you want to have to ride that scooter around the store? if you dont do sometihng about it, it may happen.

so start somewhere and start seeing the exciting changes and your new energy and strength and that will motivate you. but it wont magically happen, you have to make some effort..

Start by logging your food just to get a picture of what you're actually eating. Statements like, "if anything, I'm eating less" are vague and tell me you don't know how much you're eating. It will be an exercise in honesty, too. Honesty with yourself. It's too easy to not count the odd cookie/biscuit etc, because it's just ONE.

In a way, I really wish I'd kept a food log before I changed my way of eating. I think it would have been a real eye opener.


I also believe that a lack of motivation comes from a sense of helplessness. What's the point of trying if it won't make any difference anyway, right? Knowledge is the first weapon in your armoury. You are not helpless. You are not doomed. You do not need a magic pill or to find that secret diet food. You don't even need to exercise!

You just need to start.

1. You can't depend on being motivated. That is a fleeting emotion that changes. You have to make a DECISION. Yes, it's literally that simple. When you made the decision to marry your husband, you commited to him, correct? It's the same principle. If you wouldn't quit on your marriage, then don't quit on yourself. Don't quit on what you want and what you deserve to have.

2. If you make the decision to start, commit, and finish what you started, then you can't allow yourself any excuses. Excuses are only an internal voice distracting you from your goal. Lose them. Find a way to make it happen.

3. If you are gaining weight and do not have some kind of hormonal/metabollic disease, then more than likely, you are eating more than you think. Period. The only way to know for sure is to measure your food and log EVERYTHING.

4. Want it more than anything else you want for yourself. If you have a husband who loves you no matter what, then that is all the more reason to do it for YOU. And that is all the support from him that you need. You are your own person responsible for your own decisions. You are strong and capable, and you don't need his OK or encouragement to be a better You.

5. Educate yourself. Read. Research. Ask questions. Weed out the extremes, and apply what you've learned.

6. Make little changes, and make them slowly. Don't try a complete lifestyle overhaul in one day. Make one little change that you can stick with. As that becomes habit, make another little change you can stick with. One day many weeks/months/years from now, you will wake up and realize how your life is completely different than it is now...and all for the better!

7. Lift heavy weights. Your body will thank you for it, and you will fall in love with yourself.

8. Set goals. ATTAINABLE goals. Working towards a goal makes this whole thing more than just about a number on the scale. It keeps you focused on something. Reaching goals is addictive, and you'll constantly be setting new ones, constantly working towards another achievement. ADDICTING, I tell you!!!!

Get started. Now. Just do it. I would say "good luck," but it has nothing to do with luck and everything to do with just making the decision to get it done.

:flowerforyou:

You said you talked to your doc about it but you didn't give specifics - like did you actually have tests done to check for things like insulin resistance, thyroid issues, hormone issues (like PCOS)?

If you did and everything was normal then it has to be what you're eating. It's really tough to say for sure how your calorie intake is if you're not logging consistently so that's the first logical step. Also make sure you're weighing and measuring your food and checking food labels to make sure you've picked the right listings from the food database - if not, you're just guesstimating which isn't going to help in the long run.

I also believe strongly in planning and preparing your meals in advance as much as possible. Every weekend I sit down and create a list of what I'm going to make for dinners and what I'm going to pack for breakfast, lunch and snack for the week. From that I create my grocery list. With a plan in place, there's no last minute guessing what's going to be for dinner and giving into temptations because there's no time or energy so pizza takeout wins. I even fight my husband's want for takeout this way. He'll say "hey, why don't we get chinese tonight" and I'll say "sorry honey, there's chicken (or pork chops or whatever) in the fridge that I need to cook or it'll go bad. How about we get chinese in a couple days?" and that way I can plan having Chinese into my day (cut down on snacks, get more exercise in, etc)

And don't feel like you have to do this all or nothing. Losing weight doesn't mean you have to eat like a rabbit and exercise 4 hours a day. Just cut down on your portions, make healthier choices (fresh is best) and try to get as much activity in as you can.

Best of luck to you!

1. You can't depend on being motivated. That is a fleeting emotion that changes. You have to make a DECISION. Yes, it's literally that simple. When you made the decision to marry your husband, you commited to him, correct? It's the same principle. If you wouldn't quit on your marriage, then don't quit on yourself. Don't quit on what you want and what you deserve to have.

2. If you make the decision to start, commit, and finish what you started, then you can't allow yourself any excuses. Excuses are only an internal voice distracting you from your goal. Lose them. Find a way to make it happen.

3. If you are gaining weight and do not have some kind of hormonal/metabollic disease, then more than likely, you are eating more than you think. Period. The only way to know for sure is to measure your food and log EVERYTHING.

4. Want it more than anything else you want for yourself. If you have a husband who loves you no matter what, then that is all the more reason to do it for YOU. And that is all the support from him that you need. You are your own person responsible for your own decisions. You are strong and capable, and you don't need his OK or encouragement to be a better You.

5. Educate yourself. Read. Research. Ask questions. Weed out the extremes, and apply what you've learned.

6. Make little changes, and make them slowly. Don't try a complete lifestyle overhaul in one day. Make one little change that you can stick with. As that becomes habit, make another little change you can stick with. One day many weeks/months/years from now, you will wake up and realize how your life is completely different than it is now...and all for the better!

7. Lift heavy weights. Your body will thank you for it, and you will fall in love with yourself.

8. Set goals. ATTAINABLE goals. Working towards a goal makes this whole thing more than just about a number on the scale. It keeps you focused on something. Reaching goals is addictive, and you'll constantly be setting new ones, constantly working towards another achievement. ADDICTING, I tell you!!!!

Get started. Now. Just do it. I would say "good luck," but it has nothing to do with luck and everything to do with just making the decision to get it done.

:flowerforyou:

^^^This!!!

Will power + small specific & measurable goals = Win
Set little things to get you started, and once you start seeing the success you will become addicted and the rest is easy.
Will power is the hardest part for most. You only need an hour a day. I am sure everyone watches TV or wastes an hour online doing something. Use that time for your health.

Good luck!
"You get what you tolerate" - Tony Robbins

Lots of good advice here. Have the doctor's run all the necessary tests? Thyroid, hormone imbalance? Maybe see a nutritionist to get you started and then come back here daily. Logging your food will really make you realize how many empty calories we all consume when not paying attention. Good luck to you. I will add you as a friend for support. You are taking the first step -- from there you just take one step at a time, one day at a time, one week at a time. It will all add up!