I can't get motivated

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  • Bekahmardis
    Bekahmardis Posts: 602 Member
    I look at them and think, "Wow, I want to be like them! I want to be 45 and have people look at me and think, "I want to date that person so hard! " (that's a joke - I'm married).

    Doesn't matter if you're married or not - it's still nice to have someone think that of you, isn't it? *big grin*
  • dunge0n
    dunge0n Posts: 29 Member
    34 yr old mother of 2. I really want to lose weight but I have trouble getting started. I think it's because I have so much to lose , in fact in the last 5 months I have actually gained 25 lbs. I haven't changed anything in my diet or exercise, if anything i have decreased my intake. I can't figure out what I am doing to cause the gain. I am 100+ pounds overweight. My doctors don't seem to want to figure out why...I feel annoyed. They only say diet and exercise. Duh! I know this, don't keep saying it...tell me why I am gaining when I am obviously trying to...I have cut calories substantially and I am trying to excercise, I have gained so much that I become winded easily. I sound whiny I know..I know I am morbidly obese if I don't do something I am not going to be around too long. I live away from my family and friends and don't really know people here well enough to have any support system. Sad to say this but my husband as sweet as he sounds saying it loves me no matter what and has said frequently he dont like skinny..so home support is not there either..what can I do to get motivated when it seems I just keep failing?

    I am in the same boat as you. I keep losing track. Thankfully I haven't gained any. I have now stopped thinking about the end goal. I gave myself a goal of losing 10lbs by halloween. That's 2 month and since I am obese it should come off in 2 months easy. If and when I accomplish that, my next goal is to lost another 10lbs by the end of the year. The other thing I did was to hide my scale. that thing was making me depressed. I took measurements and I would recommend taking weekly pictures. Hope this helps. I will take the scale out on halloween and hopefully scare myself in a good way! :) I am also going to rely on my clothes to see how they fit. My other goal is to fit comfortably in a size 18 pants by then. Right now I can barely button one up. Point is small changes, small goals.
  • maillemaker
    maillemaker Posts: 1,253 Member
    Doesn't matter if you're married or not - it's still nice to have someone think that of you, isn't it? *big grin*

    Watch out I'm going to start flipping through your pictures again! :)
  • _HeartsOnFire_
    _HeartsOnFire_ Posts: 5,304 Member
    I recently read a book called "Wheat Belly". Its a real eye opener as far as how wheat has been genetically altered over the years and one of the MANY things it causes is for your appetite to be out of control.

    Really? That's the best advice you could come up with for someone who says they need motivation? Of all the things!

    no need to be rude. would you say that if this person were standing in front of you? ...something to think about maybe.

    And pointing out that YOU thought she was rude is what? Not rude? It's the internet, things can be perceived different ways and she's dead on with what she said. That wasn't even what the OP was asking for.
  • Skrib69
    Skrib69 Posts: 687 Member
    Motivation can be the hardest thing...... I can only say what has worked for me.....

    Surround yourself with LOTS of friends on MFP, and weed out those you don't find helpful
    Get the MFP app on your phone
    If you eat it, log it!
    If you exercise it, log it!
    Set small goals, even if it is to walk for 5 minutes a day or to lose 1/2lb a day or give up regular soda for diet soda.
    Use your friends for help and advice
    Tackle one issue at a time
    Remember that by not doing anything, you are deciding to fail - yes it is obvious, but often gets ignored

    Lastly, do it for yourself and ENJOY it! This is not a diet, it is a change in lifestyle and if you don't enjoy it then you have failed before you start!
  • NonnyMary
    NonnyMary Posts: 982 Member
    You gotta want losing weight MORE than the pleasure of food that is only temporary.
  • MFitzRN
    MFitzRN Posts: 4
    Thank you, makes a lot sense. I just never thought about things that way=)
  • MFitzRN
    MFitzRN Posts: 4
    Thank you, your posts are really encouraging. I appreciate it very much.
  • NonnyMary
    NonnyMary Posts: 982 Member
    Thank you, your posts are really encouraging. I appreciate it very much.

    :) You know what else is so fabulous? When you start to see progress on your own, and that you finally did it!

    totally worth it! that old food you laid aside does not taste as good as accomplishment :)

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