I am beggin, help me lose weight.

OP - you sound like you have depression issues

I'm not trying to be critical, but I've read the whole thread through page three. And you sound depressed and struggling with feeling helpless, like you're trapped in your house, have nothing for yourself, and all you can do to self-sooth is eat. And that your parents enforced this learned helplessness state.

I know it's mean and nasty, but sometimes parental units, unconsciously, want to keep a child at home to take care of them and so they sabotage independence or reinforce dependency. My parents were passive-aggressive monsters when I moved out. There were literal temper tantrums directed at me for leaving.

I know you don't have a job, but you said you are in college, are there any student services available for counseling? I think you have much more going on here than wanting to eat too much food. I think you're feeding sadness, anger, and resentment and your young adult growing pains.

Just a total outside observation, but emotional eating is my opinion.

Please do not try to be my therapist on here, I'm(thank God) far far faaaaar from depressed. I go out, I have fun, it's just that it's rare. I'm pretty happy person. Have no pains, sadness, or worse anger. Peace, love , steaks lol.:)

you're in denial

Don't put your 5 cents in and do not diagnose me over the internet. Have you had psychology classes?I bet not, I did! Depression is way different than what I've said on here. Unless you know me from REAL life keep your irrelevant judgments and observations to yourself.

I have a degree in psychology and I'm getting my masters...

I will break it down for you:

Eat less, move more.

Just cut your portion sizes down and walk everywhere you can. Take stairs in buildings instead of lifts/elevators/escalators/etc. That alone will get you kick-started.

I'll ignore all the bollocks psycho-babble spouted in this thread. Everything has to be a condition or a syndrome or a complex nowadays.

That's a bunch of bullsh!t.

Stop being a baby.

Take ownership of yourself.

Stop making excuses.

Get it done.

OP, you can do this. And you do have friends who can motivate you. That is why we are here.
Do you eat three meals a day? If so, you can probably control what you eat for breakfast and lunch a little more easily than dinner. I personally eat most of my calories at dinner so I am not as restricted and can have a "full" meal. It's a myth that meal timing (ie, don't eat late, or you have to eat six small meals a day) means all that much. So if that works for you, try it.
Dinner's not such a tough fix; steak and potatoes are actually OK. Subbing in some frozen veg or your own salad dressing isn't *that* different. What does matter is having a good -- but not too aggressive -- calorie goal and sticking with it. And yes, I eat all kinds of stuff...steak...ice cream....and I have lost 26 pounds in 6-7 months. Is it better to make it all "healthy"? Sure. But do what you can do.
As far as exercise, what you are doing is good and working up on the elliptical is fine. You could add a 30 or 45 minute walk though, and a little more strength work. When you are ready for more, we can give you lots of suggestions.
We could all give much more specific advice, but I think the important message now is -- you can do this. Feel free to send me a friend request if you like

I do workout, I've been working out 5 days a week on elliptical. To start out I did 3 mins a day, then in a week 6 mins, now im at 15 plus squats and dumbells for arms. This is no problem, but the food...it's just impossible. I'm one of those people that doesn't do what preaches. I KNOW how to...I just need some sort of kick or some advise...I don't know,.

Ok, you say you need some sort of kick, so here is some honest tough love-

You are pre-diabetic. At only 20 yrs old. And weigh twice as much as you should at your height. At this rate, you may not live to see 30, much less 40. And your quality of life will be very low.

Spend a day at a dialysis clinic and see all the Diabetics that are blind, missing feet or legs, and must be hooked up to a machine that filters out their blood for 4 hours, 3 days a week. They are lined up in chairs like cattle.

THIS is your future if you do not change.

I watched my mother die a slow and painful death for 3 yrs after her kidneys failed. It was not fun for any of us. She also ended up with bladder and kidney cancer, and was gutted like a pig so the dr could remove the cancerous kidney and half her bladder. She had strokes that left her partially paralyzed and unable to get out of bed.

ALL of this could have been avoided if she had listened to her drs and done something about her health 20 yrs before, when she was only PRE diabetic.

Do you hope to be married and have kids some day? The odds of either of these things happening are greatly reduced when you are morbidly obese. And yes, you ARE morbidly obese. Morbidly means that you are at risk for DYING.

If you do not change your thinking, you will continue to gain weight, and your health will continue to deteriorate. You are at high risk for heart attack, stroke, cancer, and losing your sight and limbs due to Diabetic neuropathy.

How many men want to date, or marry a 20 something girl that is pushing 300 pounds? Your choices are severely limited. Not being rude, just honest.
You are probably already infertile to some extent. Being that much over weight and pre-diabetic puts you at super high risk for PCOS.
If you DO manage to get pregnant at some point, your odds of miscarriage and pregnancy complications are very high. You also put your unborn baby at risk because of gestational diabetes and other issues.

I know that this post sounds extremely rude and judgmental. I have never posted something this straight-forward and blunt on here. I generally do not like to read the honestly blunt posts like this.

But you asked for a wake up call and begged for help. So here it is.

You are only 20 years old. I cannot imagine being at your weight at such a young age. I have no idea how society has reached a point where this is ok and even normal.

But you have a great opportunity to change your path NOW, while you are still young and your health has not been adversely affected too much. You CAN reverse pre-diabetes before you end up taking insulin shots every day. Once you get to that point, weight loss becomes twice as hard.
You might even be able to lose the weight and have most, if not all of your skin shrink back to normal.

That WILL NOT happen if you wait until you are 40s to 50s. By that time you will have to spend tons of cash to have skin removal surgery, plus going thru the severely painful healing and recovery process. DO THIS NOW!

Yeah, sounds like you are in a family where everyone eats tons of food and are severely overweight. That is THEIR normal. But it does not have to be YOUR normal.

Do whatever it takes to first, get your mind set changed to where you no longer accept this lifestyle.
EXPECT MORE for yourself, because you deserve better.

If this means moving out on your own, or getting a healthy roommate to help with rent and your goals, then DO IT!

It is time to grow up, take a good look at your life and your future, and accept responsibility for your life and your future.

No one else can do it for you. But you can find people on here, around your age, who have succeeded in taking back their life. Friend them and find out how they did it.

Get out of your comfort zone and into a different way of living, and you will begin to make changes.

It will not always be easy. Sometimes it will be the hardest thing you have ever done. But YOU CAN DO IT!

Making the decision and commitment is the first step.

You DESERVE a better life. But only YOU can create it.

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