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  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
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    Motivation is a by-product of determination.
  • Alliwan
    Alliwan Posts: 1,245 Member
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    I have MFP friends to tell about my fitness accomplishments, because IRL people don't want to hear about that shiz all the time. People that are already fit aren't impressed and unfit people feel like you're harassing them about their sedentary lives. Get with friends here, it will help your progress and your IRL relationships.

    ^this! I use mfp friends to say 'yay, go you!' cause everyone loves to hear it once in awhile. and IRL people just are like great, now can i haz dinner? or where are my work pants? etc

    so use mfp to get your accomplishments congratulated
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
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    Does anyone need more proof that patting kids on the head and saying "good job" for just showing up isn't working?

    You don't get to expect "good jobs" every time you do something right. Learn to find your motivation within.
  • rsalty
    rsalty Posts: 68 Member
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    I get a fair amount of "you're doing it wrong" as feedback. I keep records, and have graphs that make it pretty clear how right the path is, whether or not I'm doing steps heel-toe-toe-heel or heel-toe-heel-toe.

    Iron: make your hemoglobin *and* your willpower out of it.
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
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    I sort of assued from the beginning that no one except me would really care about my weight loss process, so I tend to be pleasantly surprised when anybody shows interest or compliments me. Idk, that's just me.
  • fitfreakymom
    fitfreakymom Posts: 1,400 Member
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    I kind of get where you're coming from. I get the same feeling when I go food shopping with my mom. I'm vegetarian and she gives me looks when I choose the organic things/meat substitute options to put into the cart, which I can understand. Yes they're more expensive, but I don't make them the primary thing that I eat because of this. I know we're on a budget, so I only get a few things, but I still wish that she wouldn't be a complete ***** in how she goes about doing things because honestly, I'm not going to change my eating habits. I'd rather just eat peanut butter and bread then go back.

    But like the others have said, you have to do this for yourself. If you continue to seek your families approval, you will continue to be unfulfilled.

    are you able to buy your own stuff?
  • JellyBeanQueen86
    JellyBeanQueen86 Posts: 670
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    I care!!!

    But you should really just be doing it for yourself!

    ^_^ keep up the good work and dont stop.... use your families "not caring" attitude as a push... a push to make yourself better so that soon they will go "Holy crap when did you get so fit??? WOW"

    You got this!
  • fitfreakymom
    fitfreakymom Posts: 1,400 Member
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    Just do it for you and pat yourself on the back, there are people like me out there that do not compliment people who are fishing for compliments, I will compliment people on stuff at times but not when they are fishing.
  • 2boned
    2boned Posts: 44
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    OP - Troll!
  • billievoyle
    billievoyle Posts: 8 Member
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    I think the main focus is that you are suppose to be doing this for yourself I know it would be nice to recieve some praise from those closest ie family and friends but you are not always going to get that. So don't be discouraged your doing a great job keep it up they will eventually notice. :)
  • Stage14
    Stage14 Posts: 1,046 Member
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    Does anyone need more proof that patting kids on the head and saying "good job" for just showing up isn't working?

    You don't get to expect "good jobs" every time you do something right. Learn to find your motivation within.

    Sadly, this is exactly what I was thinking.
  • scottkjar
    scottkjar Posts: 346 Member
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    You are unhappy that others are not emotionally invested in your journey. Have you been emotionally invested in their journeys? When they got a good grade, or a new certification, or a promotion, or accomplished something in their respective fields, or a new rare stamp, or a good fantasy football draft, or won $20 at the race track, were you excited for them? Or did you shrug it off because you were not emotionally invested in that outcome?

    Be sure you are not complaining about others not doing something for you if you are not doing it for them first.
  • MrsFowler1069
    MrsFowler1069 Posts: 657 Member
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    Personally I feel you are looking for motivation in the wrong places. I agree that its nice to get compliments about weight loss or acknowledgement from family members/friends when you accomplish something, but it shouldn't be expected or required to keep you going. It should just be bonus motivation. The real core motivation to keep you going should come from within, whatever that may be. You have to believe in yourself and that you can do it, because if you yourself don't believe, who else will?


    Yes.
  • amandatapar
    amandatapar Posts: 246 Member
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    I get the most support from here. I am losing weight because I want to and I want to be healthier. My family is happy for me of course but not near as excited as the people on here. Reward yourself once in a while with something non food related. I love new running shoes, new clothes, etc.
  • ellemuise
    ellemuise Posts: 34
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    You shouldn't be doing this for anyone else but yourself.


    This
  • teamAmelia
    teamAmelia Posts: 1,247 Member
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    Maybe they just don't understand how important it is for you. You even said that your whole family has no problem with exercising.

    And, like everyone else said, you shouldn't be exercising to get a reaction fro your family. You should be doing it because you want to. You can always get support from us. We're your fitness pals (couldn't resist).
  • OhDD65
    OhDD65 Posts: 178 Member
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    You have to do this just for yourself. Any family etc that already exercises I have found doesn't seem impressed or even half
    hardily interested. They seem totally into their own accomplishments. Like so many of us it is something that we have tried to do for many years. Stay with it..... every little bit of accomplishment adds up over time. Most of my support comes from my friends that I have made on MFP. We all have similar things we want to accomplish and I have found MFP has actually helped me lose for the 1st time in my life. Still have 25# to go, but I can do it and so can you...... Hang in there !
  • blah2989
    blah2989 Posts: 338 Member
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    Im lucky because my fiance will just randomly look at me and say you are doing so good. My friends are supportive and I do sharw my mile times with my bff, because she runs too and we motivate each other, but even if I never got a good job from them, that would be ok. Its me that should be proud of myself. Thats why I have mfp. I have friends that keep me on track. I do it for myself... no one else. But people have noticed, which is nice.
  • nelinelineli
    nelinelineli Posts: 330 Member
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    I couldn't agree more with the "do it for yourself mentality".

    I personally struggle with it, however. That's why I have MFP friends.:)

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