Question for the fellas...

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  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    Lucky wifes! Obviously marriages work out best when sex drive and compliments are equal and balanced for both partners. Any advice on how to "train" my hubby?

    I'm not a fella and I don't want to stir anything up, but when was the last time you made a solid effort to do something sexy for your husband? When was the last time you told him he was sexy?

    boom goes the dynamite.
  • TheBitSlinger
    TheBitSlinger Posts: 621 Member
    1 When is the last time you thought your wife was sexy?

    2 When is the last time you told her?

    1. Last night...

    2. While she was climbing on top of me... "My exact words were, 'You just don't understand how awesome you are.'"
  • JasonT1973
    JasonT1973 Posts: 229 Member
    Don't have one...

    But letting your S.O. know they are attractive is important.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    My husband tells me I'm "hot" several times a day. I am convinced he's telling me the truth because I get A LOT of positive attention. :wink: The feeling is mutual. You gotta give love to get it. :love:


    ETA: By "telling" me, I mean verbally, physically, or maybe even just a wink. There are many ways to communicate attraction.
  • TheBitSlinger
    TheBitSlinger Posts: 621 Member
    Typically (emphasis on typically) women trend towards having strong emotional needs and men trend towards having strong physical needs. If the emotional needs of a woman are met, they often explode into physical demonstration of that met need. Conversely, if a man's physical needs are met, they tend to be a helluva lot more emotionally connected.

    DING! DING! DING!
  • Mguilmot
    Mguilmot Posts: 232 Member
    1 Multiple times, every single day, today was no exception.
    2 Two hours ago.
  • usernameMAMA
    usernameMAMA Posts: 681 Member
    Not a fella but my hubby is up my *kitten* all day.

    Hmmmm. You're a great wife.

    LOL! Not literally! I'm a special occasion kind of girl:)
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  • xapril77x
    xapril77x Posts: 248 Member
    I'm a wife & my husband is VERY busy with work & stressed but he tells & shows me often! I never doubt his attraction towards me... Now, as far as being emotionally "constipated" as u put it, ya! My husband doesn't express luv & care very well or any of those types of things... :ohwell: I think it's just his personality... nothing personal 2 do with me...
  • SkinnyFatAlbert
    SkinnyFatAlbert Posts: 482 Member
    Not a fella but my hubby is up my *kitten* all day.

    Hmmmm. You're a great wife.

    LOL! Not literally! I'm a special occasion kind of girl:)


    WHAT?!

    What does that mean?

    Like u only do it on special occasions?

    I get cranky if we miss one day a week!

    I think she's referring specifically to the pooper. Or are you also?
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    This weekend for sure.
    Told and showed.
    Done and done.
  • Tmbecker27
    Tmbecker27 Posts: 10 Member
    Every DAY!!!
  • usernameMAMA
    usernameMAMA Posts: 681 Member
    Not a fella but my hubby is up my *kitten* all day.

    Hmmmm. You're a great wife.

    LOL! Not literally! I'm a special occasion kind of girl:)


    WHAT?!

    What does that mean?

    Like u only do it on special occasions?

    I get cranky if we miss one day a week!

    Ummmm, special occasions when deliveries are made in the rear....TMI, I know, but you did ask.
  • bcweisen
    bcweisen Posts: 118 Member
    Now I'm not saying that every time I get a compliment we are going to have sex. BUT more compliments would more likely mean more sex. I actually have tried giving him compliments but he brushes me off and then doesn't reciprocate.
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
    Now I'm not saying that every time I get a compliment we are going to have sex. BUT more compliments would more likely mean more sex. I actually have tried giving him compliments but he brushes me off and then doesn't reciprocate.

    ok, so maybe he doesn't like compliments... what DOES he like? What is important to him?

    When you get a person a present for Christmas, do you buy them what you want, or what they want?
    And when you give them the present, is it solely because you want one in return?

    The act of giving should not be tied to the act of receiving.
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  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    And.... this thread JUST got good.
  • bcweisen
    bcweisen Posts: 118 Member
    Now I'm not saying that every time I get a compliment we are going to have sex. BUT more compliments would more likely mean more sex. I actually have tried giving him compliments but he brushes me off and then doesn't reciprocate.

    ok, so maybe he doesn't like compliments... what DOES he like? What is important to him?

    When you get a person a present for Christmas, do you buy them what you want, or what they want?
    And when you give them the present, is it solely because you want one in return?

    The act of giving should not be tied to the act of receiving.

    His love language is acts of service. So I clean and cook meals and such. Making stuffed peppers from scratch right now and I don't even like green peppers. It's hard to continue to meet someone else's needs when your needs aren't being met. The problem with your spouse speaking a different love language is that you don't really get a charge out of meeting their needs. Your spouse needs to reciprocate in your love language or there is a break down.
  • doorki
    doorki Posts: 2,576 Member
    And.... this thread JUST got good.

    meh.....

    the-dar-6.jpg?w=500&h=375


    I just really wanted to use this lol.
  • Dbchristensen
    Dbchristensen Posts: 11 Member
    Sounds like room mates more than marriage. Cute baby, btw.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    And.... this thread JUST got good.

    meh.....

    the-dar-6.jpg?w=500&h=375


    I just really wanted to use this lol.

    That was spectacular. Well done, darlin.
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
    Now I'm not saying that every time I get a compliment we are going to have sex. BUT more compliments would more likely mean more sex. I actually have tried giving him compliments but he brushes me off and then doesn't reciprocate.

    ok, so maybe he doesn't like compliments... what DOES he like? What is important to him?

    When you get a person a present for Christmas, do you buy them what you want, or what they want?
    And when you give them the present, is it solely because you want one in return?

    The act of giving should not be tied to the act of receiving.

    His love language is acts of service. So I clean and cook meals and such. Making stuffed peppers from scratch right now and I don't even like green peppers. It's hard to continue to meet someone else's needs when your needs aren't being met. The problem with your spouse speaking a different love language is that you don't really get a charge out of meeting their needs. Your spouse needs to reciprocate in your love language or there is a break down.

    been there, done that... filing for divorce (but not just because of that)
  • pain_is_weakness
    pain_is_weakness Posts: 798 Member
    mine is all over my *kitten* all day every day. after 7 years of marriage and deployments he still calls me like 15 times a day while working and stops by to see me weekly

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