All 5'3-5'4 ladies! Needing Motivation & Support

Don't burn me at the steak, and if you do please let it be a nice filet with bleu cheese on it.

I'm a guy. I'm 5'10" or 5'11". I saw this thread on the side of my page under the list of links that might be interesting, for some reason. I have been heavy since..well..since I can remember anything. the chubby kid, but as i got older it just got worse and worse. I am also working on becoming a psychologist, I have my bachelors completed thus far.

I just wanted to say a few things. First off many guys are not obsessed with a woman's weight. I have seen guys heavier then me with model like girlfriends. I have seen women that are much heavier then what I have seen mentioned in this thread with boyfriends that most women would find rather attractive. The most important things are personality, confidence, and self worth. The key is to find such without relying upon hitting your target weight, or fitting into a particular type of dress, or having a certain kind of body.

That is not to suggest that anyone here is losing weight because they are lonely, or that they need someone in their life. However, social interaction is a significant part of our lives. So it makes sense that many people are looking to lose weight because they want to increase their social acceptance. There is nothing wrong with that, so long as one understands that it is part of the reason why. I know many of you are doing it for yourself because you feel better when you weigh less. But I also see comments suggesting that it is hard to lose weight, not just the actual execution of a meal plan, or exercise, but the overall process can be difficult. It is made harder when we are feeling negative about ourselves with regard to our level of social acceptance.

What I am trying to say is for everyone who is having a hard time, who is frustrated with the process to take a step back. Take that step back and look at the rest of your life and realize that weight loss is not a cure all. Also, there are things that are worth far more then seeing -1 pound on the scale. So if you are stressed out, or find yourself hitting that point even for a moment, take a look at the big picture of your life and hopefully the stress you are feeling seems like but a joke because of how small the issue is. When you remove the stress and the urgency you can see that losing the desired amount of weight is not the most important thing in your life. When that happens the process becomes smaller, less stressful, less urgent, less defining of who you are. Hopefully you will feel as though you dropped some heavy weight that was mentally keeping you back that was making the transition from your high weight to your target weight much smoother and gentler. If you eat a bit more then you planned, it will be nothing to stress about, just something to factor into your math and adjust to compensate.

I'm a guy, but I know at times I have blown my diet and then got frustrated and just said the heck with it and scarfed down a bit more then I should have. Then getting lax on what i was supposed to be doing because ...well, who the heck cared? I know what it is like to have women flirting with me, feeling my arms out of nowhere, or putting their hands on my shoulders as they pass by and far more direct actions, it is far better then wondering if I'm to fat for a girl to even consider talking to me as more then a friend. I know what it is like to be in a room full of gym rats with a negative body fat rating and feeling out of place. I've been through all the negative. Taking things serious but not elevating it to a life or death scenario without a real reason is the best way to go about things. Stressing over little mistakes won't help, but learning from them will.

Hi, this is my first ever post here but I've been lurking ever since I restarted MPF 6 weeks ago. The success stories keep me motivated and I have a peek everyday to see the photos and the stories. Now when I saw this thread I couldn't just read and run.

I'm 5'4" and, at my heaviest, I was about 230lb. That was when I decided enough is enough - around July last year. I slowly reduced portions and dropped slowly but then stopped for some reason. Then, again, around the same time this year, I decided to rejoin MPF - as in, start logging. Since the 1st August I have been logging everything that goes into my mouth. I have played with calorie intake, bringing it up and down and found that around 1800 is best for me at the moment - even though I rarely go that high. On my first check-in I was 212lb and I am so happy that this week I dropped to just below 200 - 199.7, hurrah! My goal weight is 141lb so a long way to go but I'm not giving up this time! I'll keep watching this thread with interest.

Highest weight: 230
Starting weight: 212
Current weight: 199.7 (I could say 200 but I'm so happy to be under that I won't!)
Goal weight: 141

Edited to add: my ticker has my highest weight as starting weight. Sorry I'm a metric person and work in kg

I'm 5'3, 122 pounds. My goal weight was 115 but I've been lifting heavy and realized as of yesterday that if it into a size 2 so I'm thinking perhaps I'm done. Years ago I was 192. I am very accustomed to being the fat girl even after so much time has gone by. I'm more than happy to help anyone who has questions or needs support. My two tips for today:

1. Don't wait to " tone up". Pick up the weights NOW. And make sure you get someone to show you proper form.

2. Figure out a diet you can live with forever. Because thats what you are going to have to do.

Your so similar to me!
I weighed in in April at my heaviest ever at 154.5lbs, I am currently hovering around 135lbs so a 20lb loss so far but want to be around 112lbs.
I am 5"4 and from the UK too.
I have lost inches but have hit a bit of a slump at the moment not lost anything for a month not sure why not really doing anything differently!
Walking and swimming are my main exercise things, I have that workout dvd but not used it for ages also got Davina and a yogalates one too. Just finding the time.
Determined to get to goal by Christmas though!
Feel free to add me as a friend on here keep each other going!

Yeah, I've hit a bit of a slump as well, but mostly because we went on holiday to Barcelona a couple of weeks ago.

For social setting change what you drink, when I go out I drink Rum and Diet Coke or Red Wine. Lowest in carbs and calories. I try and eat extra healthy and low carb that day to compensate. I have a happy hour once or twice a week. Just plan for the calories, and try not to get to out of control, and you will be just fine! Make it part of your life that you can live with. Cheers.

I'm just under 5'3, I think my highest weight was around 172lbs (78kg), maybe even a bit moe. I am about 144lbs (65.5kg) now. The biggest change has definitely been moving to another country, starting University and living on my own (= cooking my own meals!). I started dancing for the sheer joy of it. I go to the gym a couple of times a week during term time, now about 6 times a week (since I have no dance classes to keep me busy when Uni's not on). Hoping to get down to about 132lbs (60kg). I stopped keeping a food diary after a few months because it didn't feel like it helped anymore, but do watch what I eat. I've been on a plateau for a fair while now, but I think it was mostly due to being at home during summer (mum's and grandma's cooking, you know what I mean? :P), travelling all over the place, going through hard time emotionally and being sick. Hoping that the last 5.5kg will drop now that I'm back to my routine though!

Good luck to everyone in reaching their goals!

I'm 5'3" and weigh 135. I started a month ago but didn't weigh myself. I'm not so fixated on the weight, but my size. I started at a tight 10 and want to get back down to (my normal size) 4. I just started weighing myself a couple weeks ago and have lost 2 lbs. It isn't going to be fast!

I'm 5' 3" and started at 207.8 a month ago and now at 198.2. A long way to go but at least going the right way (:

I'm 5'3.5" and 143lbs. I started out at 209 after my back to back pregnancies. I'd like to be between 110 and 120lbs so I don't have much more to go considering!

I'm 36..5'2 and 142lbs..i started march 1st at 171.. My goal is 130 lbs.. I have always been overweight my whole life that I can remember... always a size 13..and occasionally a size 9. I started to take my life seriously this year..and started a regular exercise routine..first with DVDs at home (jillian michaels kicks butt) and now I've taken on running/jogging intervals at 4am! I used to keep track of my calories to the T..but I kind of stopped doing it.. I know what I should and shouldn't eat by now..and kind of take it on a whim.. It got too trying and frustrating to account for everything to not see a single lb drop. I have been on a plateau since June1st.. up and down 5 lbs. NEVER dropping below 142..EVER and its frustrating! I am now between a size 6-8 and my chest and waist have dropped DRAMATICALLY.. I take a more natural approach of eating now, no white wasteful starches..no candy bars and junk..an occasional treat..but not 2 to 3 candy bars a day!! tons of water..fish..egg whites..flax and chia seeds! Hopefully I can break this 142..and get to where I want.. but I am in it for the long haul so I am learning to be patient and just keep challenging myself! Good luck! if I can do it..i know ANYONE can!

Hello everyone! I'm 5'3" , my highest ever was near 200 in 2003. I dropped 50 pounds and kept it off since 2005, but have been struggling with the last 15-20 pounds. I would like to stay around 120-130, but want to lose the body fat. I would like to look and feel strong! I just added my progress pics from 140-128, and there isn't much difference in my opinion.

My thing is emotional eating. I always ate for comfort when i was growing up, and continued into adulthood. I'm in this crappy cycle where if i feel bad about myself, i eat, then i feel worse about myself, so i eat some more.... -_-

No more! I can use all the support and encouragement of you ladies! Rock on, sistas!!

I am 5'3" and currently I weigh 142.
I am trying to focus on lowering my body fat percentage and building lean muscle mass.
I would like to be in the 130-135 range.
Feel free to add me!

i'm 5'3".....43 years old.....I started at 172lb and at my lowest I was 116lb.......I've starting lifting and I also let things slide just a little and now i'm at 126.8 as of this morning.......the muscle I've been building accounts for a bit of the gain but I also know that I need to get back into the "teens" with the weight....my ultimate goal is to be around 115lb with quite a bit of lean muscle.....my profile pic was taken yesterday.....so if you need inspiration, there it is.....you can do it!!!!!:)....feel free to add me.....i'm on here every single day!!!!

I am 5'3 and currently way roughly 60kg (132lb). I started at at 74kg (162) last may. It took me a while to get to my goal weight as I am 41 so the metabolism has slowed down a bit and I have lots of distractions going on in my life so I don't tend to focus closely on weight and exercise.

What I did do is lift weights at least twice a week for the past year which has totally transformed my body composition and body confidence.

Im 5'3 1/2. Way back in the day i don't even know my highest wight. I think it was about 175-180. Then i went all the way down to 105 a few years ago. Then up to 129. Now i'm 116 (as of this morning!) heading for 113. I have a somewhat small frame though. But its totally possible. And 10 times easier with MFP. I pretty new but its making my wight loss this time around just a tad bit easier.