You're getting too thin comments?

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  • SouthernCountryGirl
    SouthernCountryGirl Posts: 195 Member
    leanneowens-I'm also 5'3" and right now, weigh about 126-128.

    I'm 5'2" and looking to get to 125. Your weight sounds fine. Currently at 154, don't have anyone telling me I'm losing too much lol, but I did have someone tell me I was anorexic and if I didn't believe her I needed counseling because I ate less than 1200 a few days (not a habit I promise you, not by a long shot), but it really shocked me that I had to believe her or get counseling and I've never ever been called anorexic!! I have a wonderful love affair with food :)
  • glowgirl14
    glowgirl14 Posts: 200 Member
    5'4, 121lbs. 14lbs from underweight.

    Have been getting "those" comments since I hit 140. (Which, oddly, is only 7lbs from overweight for my height...)

    My father is the worst.

    "You are too skinny"
    "You need to stop losing weight"
    "You're anorexic."
    "If you don't start eating, I'm going to make you go to the dr." (I eat 1800-2000 cals/day...)
    "I can't believe you don't care more about your kids than this. What's going to happen to them if you get sick?

    Others say I look like I'm going to blow away, and that I don't have anything left to lose.

    Seriously...I don't get it. There are plenty of people around that are waaaaaaaaay thinner than me, and they don't seem to get these comments. But maybe I just don't hear them.

    I'm healthy. Get over it...

    Although, side note...my 9-yr-old keeps my head from getting big. He is thoughtful enough to tell me about all the diet pills he sees commercials for. "Mom, do you have more than 50lbs to lose? You should try ______." He was complaining about PE the other day, saying that he didn't need to exercise because he's skinny. I told him that exercise is more about strong muscles and healthy hearts than weight loss, and asked the (I thought) rhetorical question - I run every day. Am I fat?...His reply - "Well, not as bad as you used to be, but yeah..."
  • pavrg
    pavrg Posts: 277 Member
    It's due to some combination of:

    1) The person feeling insecure about himself, e.g. he thinks you are skinnier than him so if you have to lose weight, then he has to lose weight. He doesn't want to admit that he has to lose weight, so he tells you that you don't have to lose weight.

    2) Responding "yea, you totally would look better if you dropped 20 lbs. Good luck!" would probably be taken as offensive by most people because they are implying you are overweight.

    Best to just avoid the subject altogether. Besides, there's no such thing as dieting. You're always on a diet because a diet is what you eat.
  • Zuhwut
    Zuhwut Posts: 8 Member
    Late reply, but I just had to respond.

    Obviously I haven't been getting 'you're too thin' comments, because I still have a ways to go. But when I do tell friends that my goal weight is 130lbs. the flip the hell out.

    'You'll be too thin at that weight!'

    'That would be unhealthy for you.'

    'That's too skinny!' yadda, yadda, yadda...

    I'm 5'6", for crying out loud. I was overweight at my smallest, which was 150lbs. None of my friends have ever seen me at that weight, so how the heck would they know what weight would like right on me? When did 130lbs. become an exclusive club to which I never belonged?
  • RonW956
    RonW956 Posts: 105 Member
    I've gotten a few comments before from friends & co-workers. I dont really care what others say, Im the one out there jogging & getting toned & buying smaller clothes, not them.... I'm doing this for myself and no one else...
  • rsalty
    rsalty Posts: 68 Member
    My son said "mom! stop, you're too thin now!" He says he feels guilty cause when he was 7, (he's 29 now), he made up a song about my fatness-it was called "Baby Beluga" as in whale.

    I've heard more than one elementary school talent show where a song called "Baby Beluga" was sung. Perhaps he can attend one and relieve his mind of the guilt? (And then go on to wondering why he thought he made it up... I had that problem with "Over the Rainbow" for a while in my youth. My final conclusion: Memory is weird.)
  • Jestinia
    Jestinia Posts: 1,153 Member
    Having no shame, I counter that comment by grabbing some belly fat and shaking it at the naysayer while shouting, "See? See this???!!! I am not just seeing a fat person in the mirror! I am grabbing a fat person's fat!"

    Works every time. I don't have much left to lose, but I definitely am not done and I will brook no argument on the subject until I have to struggle to pinch an inch.
  • 2013sk
    2013sk Posts: 1,318 Member
    Just ignore them, They are jealous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • annakow
    annakow Posts: 385 Member
    I am getting it too, from my daughter too, who is size 8 (english) 'mum don't lose more, you don't look like my mum anymore' etc people don't like changes, it may come from simply don't accepting changes, doesn't have to be nasty :)
  • Fozzi43
    Fozzi43 Posts: 2,984 Member
    My family tell me this all the time...along with the " why do you exercise" thing as well :noway:
  • pavrg
    pavrg Posts: 277 Member
    Late reply, but I just had to respond.

    Obviously I haven't been getting 'you're too thin' comments, because I still have a ways to go. But when I do tell friends that my goal weight is 130lbs. the flip the hell out.

    'You'll be too thin at that weight!'

    'That would be unhealthy for you.'

    'That's too skinny!' yadda, yadda, yadda...

    I'm 5'6", for crying out loud. I was overweight at my smallest, which was 150lbs. None of my friends have ever seen me at that weight, so how the heck would they know what weight would like right on me? When did 130lbs. become an exclusive club to which I never belonged?
    Yea, this goes back to people's own concept about their own weight, and in American society we don't have a good grasp of what a healthy weight actually is.

    I think that most people would be astonished to find my goal weight is what it is as a man, but that's what I have to get down to to be 12% bodyfat, which is my actual goal. It also falls almost directly in the middle of that outdated BMI range that people cling to.
  • bkw61
    bkw61 Posts: 29 Member
    I get told the same thin- why are you loosing weight you looked good before.. well thank you- but I am continuing my journey!

    I am 52 and my dad actually said today I am getting too thin! I had gone shopping for some new smaller :smile: size pants and he said should make sure I keep my old pants! Ugh!

    I maintained a 30 lb weight loss for 10 years before I decided to continue this... I've lost another 21 lbs since Sept. and I also just want to get to mid-BMI range. KIND OF hurt...:sad:

    Guess I needed to vent!

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