Wow. You look like *kitten*....

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  • sola24
    sola24 Posts: 334 Member
    I know what you mean.. Whenever I tell anyone I am losing weight by exercising and eating healthy people will just tell me dont lose weight.. you look better chubby.. or if I tell anyone I lost some weight.. they will be like.. dont lose much.. you will not look good.. and yeah.. I am 5ft tall too.. I am 55.5kgs now and still I am overweight..
  • rgagnon1
    rgagnon1 Posts: 59 Member
    Jealous people. Hold your head high and look for a new job. You are beautiful and fit.
  • CollieFit
    CollieFit Posts: 1,683 Member
    Jesus wept.

    It's terrifying to think you work in health care really.

    143lb at 5ft for a 27 yr old female is a BMI of 28 which is smack in the middle of the 'overweight' section for your height. I know BMI is controversial and perhaps you have a lot of muscle, but your colleagues must have a very warped idea of what is a healthy weight.
  • kbcara
    kbcara Posts: 105 Member
    Firstly from your pictures you look fabulous, from your height and weight you have nothing to worry about at all!

    This is 100% a case of needing to escalate this to HR regardless.

    However, you mention a nurse so this makes me wonder if there is another side (not one that negates anything I say above)...

    Are some trying to get you to pay attention because they care? It doesn't sound that way at all, I just struggle to understand such cruelty otherwise. What I'm wondering is... have you lost weight quickly?... have you lost weight healthily (if not maybe you don't look healthy and they're worrying for you?). Just a thought.

    Please take this as it's meant i.e. if people are trying to look out for/care for you, I don't want you to miss that point... but as I said you look great and their approach is so wrong, you must seek advise from HR.
  • tmpecus78
    tmpecus78 Posts: 1,206 Member
    A bunch of Jealous idiots. This calls for a harassment lawsuit. Need an attorney?
  • Morninglory81
    Morninglory81 Posts: 1,190 Member
    Stop avoiding eye contact! Be proud of your accomplishments. If they want to say something make them look you in the eye to say it. Claim power over your space. If they choose to make a comment make a point of looking them up and down and shake your head and walk away. Leave them feeling judged not the other way around.
  • pari_06
    pari_06 Posts: 109
    Let me tell you this.. You look BEAUTIFUL. N NOT A CORPSE.
    It doesnt matter what people around you say. They are just irritated that they cant call you fat anymore.. So to feed their bully nature they are saying that you look like a drug addict and all such nonsense. So now if you will listen to them and start gaining weight. They will start calling you fat again..even if u hav gained just 5-8 lbs..

    So ignore them. N do what you want.
  • _firecracker_
    _firecracker_ Posts: 185 Member
    If your after pic is the weight you're at now, you look fantastic. Unfortunately most people lack so much self control and determination these days that they can't relate to the fact you took the weight off by working hard, fair and square. So they make reasons. Haters gonna hate girl. Anytime I hang with my friends they try to shove cupcakes down my throat because its completely disturbing that I want abs or that I can live without consuming 800 calories worth of dessert every night. Build up your confidence and rise above.
  • 5ftnFun
    5ftnFun Posts: 948 Member
    I am five feet tall. Weigh 143lbs currently. That picture was taken after I completed insanity. I have facebook for anyone who believes I am a "troll." Geez.

    If this is correct, you need to ask them to stop the harassment, and complain to HR if they don't. I'm with the others on this one.
    My only other thought is, are your eating behaviors very peculiar? I don't know. I'm trying to imagine why so many are coming at you. It seems very odd.

    It doesn't matter what she weighs and how tall she is, nor her eating habits. Its harassment and no justification would change that by any means. I would file a formal complaint of harassment-no doctors note needed. You need not prove anything to anyone. End of story!

    Didn't say it was okay, only trying to figure out why they were doing it. :ohwell:
  • hsmaldo
    hsmaldo Posts: 115 Member
    Couldn't agree more with everyone who has suggested going to HR. Under the HIPPA laws, you don't need to provide ANYTHING medical to your supervisor--only HR in certain events.

    This is ridiculous to be brought into "meetings" regarding your weight. It's harassment, and the comments made to you are bullying. ALL are HR issues and part of the "hostile work environment"

    We have a girl in our office who is skinny and looks FABULOUS. One of ladies asked if I thought she was anorexic because she was getting so thin....WTH? I told my coworker that unless she had some other signs pointing to that than just her apparent loss of weight, then no, absolutely not!

    Document what has been said and by whom and when. The comments, the meetings and everything else in between. Then talk to HR. No need to deal with this hostility in the workplace.
  • CollieFit
    CollieFit Posts: 1,683 Member
    You've got to worry about our healthcare when someone is called a 'corpse' who isn't even in the healthy BMI range, never mind underweight!
  • grundylady
    grundylady Posts: 19 Member
    Stop avoiding eye contact! Be proud of your accomplishments. If they want to say something make them look you in the eye to say it. Claim power over your space.

    THIS
  • PaulHalicki
    PaulHalicki Posts: 576 Member
    I am five feet tall. Weigh 143lbs currently. That picture was taken after I completed insanity. I have facebook for anyone who believes I am a "troll." Geez.

    Interesting. We have about the same BMI and I have to say that the pic in your avatar you look a lot slimmer than I feel.

    But that's not any of your workplace's business anyway. Are any of these people that are criticizing, well, fat? If they are, tell them you are just as concerned for their health because they're too heavy, and there's a lot more science pointing to health issues for them than for people with your BMI.
  • Fitfully_me
    Fitfully_me Posts: 647 Member
    Wow! I grew angry reading your story. I can't believe the nerve of some people. You've gotten some great advice here. You definitely don't have to sit back and take this sort of treatment in the workplace.

    My two cents... Remember that your goals were made by you, for you, and YOU are doing what it takes to make them happen. Don't let other people's comments affect how you feel about you.

    You look great!
  • tlou5
    tlou5 Posts: 497 Member
    First, get a letter from your doctor saying that your weight and fitness goals are healthy, then take that letter to whoever called you in to a meeting (I presume it was your supervisor/line manager) and say that you are not happy with the constant harassment based on how you look, that you find it hurtful and offensive, and that it must stop. If that doesn't make it stop, or your supervisor/line manager doesn't accept the note from your doctor, then go above his/her head and complain, saying that you consider it to be harassment based on how you look, and highly unprofessional.

    There's a line between ignorant people being concerned (e.g. people worrying about eating disorders because they're not used to seeing you at a healthy weight and think you're too thin now) and bullying, and this seems to have crossed that line, based on what you typed, as it includes name calling and telling you you look like *kitten* and it seems to be happening on a regular basis from a few different people. Maybe they're jealous or maybe whatever, but you need to take a stand and let your line manager/supervisor know that you won't put up with this kind of unprofessional behaviour. Also, there are resources online for workplace bullying.

    ETA: you look fantastic in your after pic in your profile, extremely healthy and you look amazing. Not even remotely corpse like!!!! I can't see where they got that from at all!!

    This
  • lauraleighsm
    lauraleighsm Posts: 167
    I am five feet tall. Weigh 143lbs currently. That picture was taken after I completed insanity. I have facebook for anyone who believes I am a "troll." Geez.

    I'm 5'0 as well, and I went to school in WV and lived there for a few years bc my husband is from fairmont. Most definitely, a cultural thing. Without a doubt.

    You look ahhhhhhhmazing!
  • redheaddee
    redheaddee Posts: 2,005 Member
    First, get a letter from your doctor saying that your weight and fitness goals are healthy, then take that letter to whoever called you in to a meeting (I presume it was your supervisor/line manager) and say that you are not happy with the constant harassment based on how you look, that you find it hurtful and offensive, and that it must stop. If that doesn't make it stop, or your supervisor/line manager doesn't accept the note from your doctor, then go above his/her head and complain, saying that you consider it to be harassment based on how you look, and highly unprofessional.

    There's a line between ignorant people being concerned (e.g. people worrying about eating disorders because they're not used to seeing you at a healthy weight and think you're too thin now) and bullying, and this seems to have crossed that line, based on what you typed, as it includes name calling and telling you you look like *kitten* and it seems to be happening on a regular basis from a few different people. Maybe they're jealous or maybe whatever, but you need to take a stand and let your line manager/supervisor know that you won't put up with this kind of unprofessional behaviour. Also, there are resources online for workplace bullying.

    ETA: you look fantastic in your after pic in your profile, extremely healthy and you look amazing. Not even remotely corpse like!!!! I can't see where they got that from at all!!

    This. Plus start looking for a new job because apparently you work with idiots.
  • MyaPapaya75
    MyaPapaya75 Posts: 3,143 Member
    1. take control of the situation or expect to find new employment
    2. personally I would light fire under their butts, I would get a note from my physician stating my healthy state..and the correct weight for me and my body structure etc....then I would have a lawyer contact the HR department...you cant half do stuff you either do it or you don't...take it all the way for harassment.
  • ChristineDiet
    ChristineDiet Posts: 719 Member
    These comments come from my director of nursing, her assistant, my immediate supervisor, and a few fellow co-workers. I even told my supervisor I felt like everyone was ganging up on me, and although I appreciated their "concern," that I was pretty sure telling someone they look awful wasn't the right way to go about anything. I realize no one has ever seen me at this weight. I didn't even weigh this when I first started 8 years ago. I just want to be happy. And I want people to support me. I feel like I have no one except the amazing people I have met on here.

    I think you look amazing and I think you nailed it on the head perhaps why they think you look ill! they have seen you at the 'before' size and when you look at the comparison it is huge, I mean your less than half the size you were. If they remember you for the size you were then they will probably perceive you to be even smaller than you are. You do look amazing and you need to be confident in yourself. this may be something that will take time for people to get used to if they've seen the old you for 8 years! x
  • Yanicka1
    Yanicka1 Posts: 4,564 Member
    I am about the same height and more than 20 pounds lighter than you are. My coworker, family and friends never said anything like that to me. Tell them to mind their own business
  • amd724
    amd724 Posts: 6
    I understand completely how you feel.

    Instead of it being at work, for me its family. I recently decided to eat a vegetarian diet and my family was downright rude. I mean, condescending and rude. While at the same time calling me overweight and fat, telling me that I should still eat meat and that I ate fine.

    Told me I would be okay as the fat friend. I mean, who says this. I would say to you, don't mind them, if it gets worse, you should come with a doctors note and a note from your lawyer stating that this is harassment. Because this is definitely a form of harassment. I'm a bit disgusted that these are trained nurses treating someone like this because they're losing weight. They should know better.

    On a bit of a side note, how do you like insanity? I'm thinking of starting it at the end of the month, I need to buy all the equipment and videos. Keep your head up, you're doing fine.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    I would start making rude comments back and when they look aghast and offended say

    "Oh I'm sorry I thought it was give out rude comments day to people who didn't ask for it??" I guess I must have mis-read the memo

    or "I'm sorry- I thought it was be rude to people for no reason today... guess I missed the memo"

    Or "I'm sorry... I don't recall asking for your opinion or approval regarding my personal wellness and fitness"


    or I'm sorry- I can dead lift 250 lbs... can you? no? Oh okay- maybe you shouldn't make comments about people appearances when you clearly have no idea what fitness looks like.


    There are plenty of ways to handle it.

    Be rude back. If it keeps up- go to HR. Document.

    And stop slouching and avoiding eye contact. If you truly are a healthy weight for your height (I'm guessing- I couldn't' tell you- from the picture- you appear to be) then you shouldn't' have to put up this and you definitely shouldn't' feel bad or retreat because of it.

    I would also suggest weight lifting if you aren't. Nothing staves off bad comments than pretty muscles. :D people are too scared to comment to me LMAO
  • thepetiterunner
    thepetiterunner Posts: 1,238 Member
    People have a hard time with change and sometimes it manifests itself in unpleasant ways, such as this. I'm sorry your coworkers are being so negative.

    You're doing what's best for you. No one else can make those decisions for you. No one else SHOULD. You must live with the consequences of your actions, so who are others to judge? (Including those of us here on MFP.)

    If YOU are happy with your progress and your goals, then keep at it! Don't let others bring you down because of THEIR issues. Make this about YOU. You don't need to prove anything to anyone or explain yourself. Do they explain why they want to eat a donut or half a pizza for lunch? No? Then you don't need to explain why you workout and eat healthy things.

    Tune it out. It's nothing but white noise. Keep on, keepin' on.
  • mmouse90
    mmouse90 Posts: 83
    What they are doing at work is harassment. You don't need a doctors note to file a complaint or anything however it is a subtle way of telling them that they don't know ****, are idiots and that they can take their opinions and harassment and shove it up their *kitten*. I am 5'3" and 143 is considered overweight for me so I am sure it can be over weight for you too HOWEVER you are building muscles so I would look at your body fat percentage (do an actual body fat test) instead of your weight or BMI. Good look
  • Fozzi43
    Fozzi43 Posts: 2,984 Member
    Flick the middle finger and tell them to swivel on it.
  • missfabulous
    missfabulous Posts: 5 Member
    I understand what your dealing with. Misery loves company. They are unhappy and miserable and they want you there also. They cant pull from down deep what you can to accomplish their own goals. Id say if you have a problem with my job performance, then document it and lets work together to improve. If your being unprofessional and bringing personal feelings into the equation, then ya'll can personally **** off!
  • Melissa22G
    Melissa22G Posts: 847 Member
    Screw em, I think you look rather awesome!
  • FourIsCompany
    FourIsCompany Posts: 269 Member
    I am five feet tall. Weigh 143lbs currently. That picture was taken after I completed insanity. I have facebook for anyone who believes I am a "troll." Geez.

    I certainly wasn't implying that you are a troll. I was just gathering the information because it doesn't make sense that so many people are harassing you. You look perfectly healthy.

    I would tell the people to stop commenting on your body. If they don't, I'd go straight to HR.
  • MiloBloom83
    MiloBloom83 Posts: 2,724 Member
    Isn't West Virginia one of the fattest states in the country? They are concerned that you are sabotaging the image that everyone else has overate so much to achieve!

    You look good, btw. Not underweight. Healthy actually.
  • rhileyschubbygranny
    rhileyschubbygranny Posts: 145 Member
    I would be 1) filing a complaint with my union rep, assuming you are in a nuses union and 2) filing an official complaint with Human Resouces immediately for harrasment/bullying. Don't worry about getting in trouble with your supervisors for getting them in trouble. They deserve it and if they start treating you like dirt for it (nitpicking about how you do your job, etc) just tell them that they are setting themselves and the hospital up for a really nice lawsuit.

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