People who request "motivated" friend.

nicely said

I don't know how to be motivational through words.
So I bought a cheerleading outfit and party favours.

I've had MFP for around 3 weeks now, and I am loving the few friends I have made and all the chat/support/motivations/congratulations but I do think the MFP is set up quite badly for the social stuff, especially the newsfeed. You get an email to say someone has commented but I don't usually have my emails open when checking in on MFP. Would be good to have a little notification icon like you have for messages and friends so you can see your interactions. Like I said, I'm pretty new so if there is something I'm missing I would love to know!

And I'm super active on here (but a bit shy about making friends) so also anyone please feel free to add me, I log everyday and reply to everything if I see it.

Sherry - One of the thing I have found keeps me going is making my Food Diary open (mine is public but you can make it friends only) so that I knew EVERYTHING I logged could be seen by my friends and anyone else who looked. I have found this a great way to make me think about everything I eat, I know it may not be for everyone but for me it has really worked.

Having lots of friends helps too, so even if it is just the fact you have logged in for a few days in a row, you get some support and 'well-dones'

Feel free to add me.

When I started, I thought I would try to make a bunch of friends the first week or so, but it didn't work out quite that way. The ones I made weren't the ones I had anything in common with. They're all gone, either having removed me because I offended them or they deactivated, or on the rare occasion, I deleted them.

Just like in real life, friend development takes time. Long gone are the days where, at 5, we could walk up to the nearest girl on the playground, extend a hand and say "hey, wanna be best friends forever?" then skip off hand-in-hand to the swing set.

I was a full 2 months in before I started adding people I actually like and interact with on a regular basis.

I've had great luck adding people I interact with on forums or through other people's news feeds. I get to know them a little and realize we have things in common and we click. I don't just randomly add people who ask for it.

Or what Ginger up there said. :-)

She and her husband are two of the wonderful people on my FL.

Feel free to add me. I provide encouragement regularly, and love getting it back!

SOOOOOOOO did you delete them before you wrote this or do they get to see how you feel about them?

@cranquistador ...oooh, ouch! Nice.

YES! Thank you, this p!$$es me off beyond belief. I've got rid of a whole page and a half of unsupportive friends.

i actually do not friend anyone, and i prefer to not have friends at all, even in real life,,, however, things never go my way that being said, i dont have time, personally, to root on or critique other peoples diaries and what not, however, if one of my friends posts a concern or question, i will always do my best to answer it.

I feel bad when people say they are "friending" me for motivation. I joke most of the time and am not very supportive in regards to commenting on food diaries and exercise posts....

I find the extremely risqué photography that you share with us in your news feeds incredibly motivational. And your policy of accepting all friend requests . . . too great.

I feel bad when people say they are "friending" me for motivation. I joke most of the time and am not very supportive in regards to commenting on food diaries and exercise posts....

I find the extremely risqué photography that you share with us in your news feeds incredibly motivational. And your policy of accepting all friend requests . . . too great.

shhhh, you weren't supposed to tell anyone else!

Motivation is a two way street.... I have had so many friend requests saying how they've seen me support/encourage their friends and want me to do the same for them and then give nothing in return. I love to support/encourage people who do the same for me but if you're not going to give back then don't add me. I'm not your effing cheerleader!

I actually had one friend post a comment saying that she was going to delete all the 'friends' who were not supporting her... 'so if you want to keep me as a friend, tell me why I should keep you.' I supported her day in and day out for 3 months and because I didn't beg her to keep me, she deleted me, yet kept people who have not logged in for over 3 months. This 'social media has made me a rock star and you are all my minions' attitude irks me to no end.

I'm rather new the the message boards here but I've seen several threads asking people to friend them because they need inspirational or motivated friends or they need people to help them stay on track. I have added several people because I feel like I am a very motivated person or we have soem of the same interests and I was hoping that if I would be motivating these "new" friends, they'd do the same in return. That is not the case.

I guess what I'm getting at is if you are asking for motivation and friends to cheer you on and tell you how great and awesome you are, expect your friends would like the same in return. Just saying....

lol i completely agree wit u