Stupid question, probably best answered by the guys

Dont discount the possibility that he knows you have gained weight and just doesnt care. You're still the same person. Skinny does not equal friend-worthy... or more.

I dated a girl once, super petite and sexy. We went a few years without seeing each other, without the benefit of FB to show us. One night when she moved back to town we decided to get back together to catch up. When she came to the door she had gained 30 pounds or so.

Know how I reacted? Ask her... she and our three kids are asleep upstairs.

You, sir, are the winner of this thread. Best thing I've read all day

AGREED! This guy deserves an award! Take note all you other shallow people... THIS is how it's done!

Dont discount the possibility that he knows you have gained weight and just doesnt care. You're still the same person. Skinny does not equal friend-worthy... or more.

I dated a girl once, super petite and sexy. We went a few years without seeing each other, without the benefit of FB to show us. One night when she moved back to town we decided to get back together to catch up. When she came to the door she had gained 30 pounds or so.

Know how I reacted? Ask her... she and our three kids are asleep upstairs.

Excellent. I love this post.

OP, not all guys are fixated on the physical, especially since the physical can be changed with dedication and effort.

hoookay there Henry Higgins, lol first, yes they are, just like everyone else. physical attraction totally matters (whatever the preferred form is). second, nonono, men, ladies, people, do not get into a thing already thinking of an upgrade. if you don't like what's in the box as is, do not purchase.

Of course physical attraction has a bearing, but not all guys base their dating decisions solely on that factor.

When someone is attracted to an individual that happens to carry a few extra pounds, I don't think it's a matter of not basing their attraction on the "physical."

I think, in most cases, they like what they see, despite cultural norms.

I am in no way trying to be mean or rude. Blunt maybe?

"Any suggestions? Serious and helpful answers only please and thank you."....Stupid question, to me. So you're not skinny anymore. If he, you know him, is a friend, you're weight shouldn't come in to play. If so, well, he'd seem shallow to me.

I have a lady friend I see from time to time, and like she say's, "I'm obese", she is 5'4", weight unknown, and I'm not asking, but by observation, I'd say minimum 100 lbs over. No matter to me, she's a great friend/woman.

Just my $.02. Oh, I do hope it all turns out fine.

Dont discount the possibility that he knows you have gained weight and just doesnt care. You're still the same person. Skinny does not equal friend-worthy... or more.

I dated a girl once, super petite and sexy. We went a few years without seeing each other, without the benefit of FB to show us. One night when she moved back to town we decided to get back together to catch up. When she came to the door she had gained 30 pounds or so.

Know how I reacted? Ask her... she and our three kids are asleep upstairs.

Awesome!