I can't help myself

Look if you can't help yourself. You will never reach your goals. Your problem is you just don't want it bad enough .. You want to sit on your comfy couch where its easy and safe. You are scared of the person you will be come..

The problem is you have the potential to be the best you you can ever be and you are rationalizing that away with excuses and fear.

You hate sweat ? I mean really? Sweat is one of the fundamental foundations of your weight loss recipe..

Look you need to get uncomfortable you need to shake things up a bit... You need to get out of your head about this and change your mind. Your body wont follow until you change your mindset.

Who cares you have gained weight .. You need to own it. You need to own up to the fact that you are in this position because of you and only you can change the position you are in.

SO you need to ask you self how bad do you want it ?

Because if you want it bad. you will make changes, you will make sacrifices and most importantly you will STOP making excuses and get out there on to the path of greatness...

Or you can sit here and whine about it..

I think the choice is pretty easy if you ask me...

How bad do you want it ?

Nowhere in there did you state a single reason why you want to change. Not one.

Why do you want to change? Is it because you're tired of feeling and looking the way you are? Is it because you feel like you "have" to because society says Americans are obese? What's the reason?

Until you own the reasons and take accountability for yourself, you're not going to be able to commit to a path. Maybe you really don't think there's a problem. I mean REALLY think there's a problem.

You have to make the decision to make the choice and own it. And you have to make that choice over and over and over again, 100 times a day. Until you can do that, you won't succeed.

Ultimately it's only going to work if you put forth the effort, it doesn't matter that you don't like it- you're going to have to do it if you want to lose the weight. I am glad to hear you have a medical support person on your side.

My only advice for you, since you seem to not want to hear what most people are going to say. Is to break down and buy a few items of clothes that fit. cramming yourself into uncomfortable clothes and not feeling good about yourself is only fueling your self hate. I know because I tried the same logic.

My guess is there isn't a moment during the day that you don't think about your weight- the tight band around your pants digging into your stomach, how your shirt rides up because of your gut, and darn it if the cuffs on the sleeve of your shirt just are a little too tight. That jacket in your closet would be cute with that outfit if only you could zip/button it. This never actually motivated me, it just made me sad and hate my body more. Why would I want to buy bigger clothes- I'm just going to lose the weight right? WRONG- once I started wearing clothes that fit me better I actually felt better, I was physically more comfortable, and my mind was a little more free to worry about other things.

Keep doing the calorie counting, it's only been a week- give it more time. And.. FWIW- you don't have to sweat to lose weight. Go out and go for a walk, just be active! Every bit helps!

When you want it bad enough, you will do anything you need to reach your goals. I spent years whining about wanting to lose weight, losing weight in unhealthy ways & then gaining it back. A friend once told me, when you are ready to lose the weight - you will.

That happened about 16 months ago. Now, I get up every day and eat healthy, work out hard (at things I enjoy) and most importantly, I have patience.

When you are ready, you will do it too!

Until you want to, you won't. Unfortunately, that's just the way it. Find what it is that makes you want to.

Want it more. Be willing to work for it. Take responsibility. Be creative with food choices and work outs. Start doing it now rather than saying you can't help yourself. You CAN help yourself. You just aren't doing so.

Yeah, I agree with those above... saying "I dont like it" and "I dont like to sweat" Just make you sound whiny... and shows you dont want it badly enough. You have to get up and make the decision every day... hell, multiple times a day, to be better and get better for YOU. Once you make the decision and decide you want to change and become a better you, youll LOVE to sweat lol.

nothign beats a good workout that leaves you covered in a sheen!! Yeah its hard, and YEAH sometimes it hurts... but doent it hurt your heart more to look in the mirror every day and know that its YOUR fault and youre the only one holding you back?
You can take 20 minutes a day and go for a walk, or lay on the ground and do some crunches and leg lifts... dont let the idea of a "BIG BAD WORKOUT" thats "lots of work and sweat" keep you planted on the couch... start small.

you can do this!

Go swimming.

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I find exercise is one of those things that feels great once you have been doing it a while. When I was out of the habit I hired a personal trainer once a week as I knew if I had someone holding me accountable then I'd have to go (as opposed to 'I'll go the gym tomorrow'). Did that a few months, started to enjoy it, got motivated and now I work out all the time because I start to crave it when I don't go. Don't have to have a personal trainer any more.

It might not be the cheapest option but a trainer also might be able to put together a program you like rather than you going into it blind. Good luck.

I'm sorry, but I asked for motivation and advice. Not people belittling me for being depressed (not sad, there's a difference) and lazy. I don't feel any more compelled to work out after hearing that I need to stop whining.

If you are actually depressed, get that managed first. However, everyone is correct. Until you want to do it you won't. Nothing any of us can say will get you to follow the program until you want to do it. I sat on my *kitten* on got bigger for 25 years. Pressure from people got me to do something for a month or two every couple years, but until I decided to do it for myself nothing really worked.

Besides, being dependent on an outside source for motivation can fail. What happens if that source goes away? Get your depression managed, try get a healthier relationship with food so you don't comfort eat, then work on the program.

I'm sorry, but I asked for motivation and advice. Not people belittling me for being depressed (not sad, there's a difference) and lazy. I don't feel any more compelled to work out after hearing that I need to stop whining.

But that's the point. There is nothing that we can say that is going to make you magically want to workout. Nothing in the world.

It has to come from within. That's how everyone here did it, and we can only advise you from our own experience.

No one I know gets up at the crack of dawn and runs 10k just because someone on their newsfeed will say 'great burn!' when they get back. They do it because they are disciplined, and they know that it's what's needed to reach their goal.

No one is trying to be mean. They are trying to get you to the point where you realize inside yourself what needs to be done, and you get out there and do it. Everyone on MFP wants to see everyone else succeed. No matter how mean they sometimes may sound.

My challenge to you is to prove people who have called you lazy wrong. Choose a day this week, schedule a workout (whatever you want to do as a workout, even a mile walk), and do it. Do it because you need to, not because it will make you happy.

You know what? I hated sweating in the beginning too. It meant I was working hard and put me outside of my confort zone. But you can't be comfortable and fit - it's one way or the other. You don't technicaly have to exercise to lose weight (you just have to eat at a calorie deficit) but you made a promise to your counselor that you would, and so you should. it's the right thing to do.

There has to be something that you would enjoy doing and that wouldn't make you sweat, or at least not much. How about turning some good music on and dancing around your house? Or go for a walk in the morning when it's nice and cool out - or walk indoors like on the treadmill at a nice air conditioned gym or at the mall?

No one is trying to belittle you or bully you - it's called tough love. Most of us have been in your shoes and have made every excuse in the world to avoid going outside our comfort zones to do what we knew needed to be done... (Hell, I even blamed my failures on my friend because she supposedly wasn't supportive enough. Come on now, that's just pure BS - it was never anyone's fault but my own, pure and simple!) But then we sucked it up and did it anyway and that's part of what leads to success. That's why the say if you want it bad enough, you'll do it. Really there's no other way. Either you want to lose the weight and you put forth the effort required to accomplish that or you keep doing what you've been doing and continue to drive everyone nuts (per your post).