Things People Say When You've Lost Weight

My one boss told me today she hated me for being so thin. She is like a size 2. She is telling me all the time how wrong it is and it must be nice and I shouldn't lose anymore. I have also had a co worker ask me what I am taking. Its called busting my butt and I am still considered overweight and I am 5'2 at 140 pounds

Usually that mean," I wish I could lose weight" " I want to lose weight, too"
I got that after I lost 10 lbs.
That is better than the ones that sabotage you, ( I have been both of those people, and did not mean to harm or sabotage. it is just a mindset that you have to break off.)
We all have them, things our parents say, that we will NEVER say, and then we do.
Maybe say something light and friendly like, "wanna 'waste away with me?'
Or " If being healthy is 'wasting away' then, YES, I think I'll go for it"
Congrats! and
Go for it!

You are 100% of the Ann you use to be.
Losing weight and getting healthy, does not mean losing yourself.

I have been guilty of using some of those comments. A friend of mine said this, 'you are not identified by how
much weight you lose, or don't lose. Stop answering the numbers game."
Anybody had success with that? People mean well, but after awhile, you get tired of answering that.
A lady at work would just say, I haven't reached my goal yet. Or I am halfway there.
My daughter is 3 months in from have Gastric By pass and has moved quickly, but is afraid of hitting a
plateau. She needs some light, fun comebacks, so she can enjoy the ride.

that is because Everyone wants a quick fix.
I had that happen to me and when I told him eating
healthy and exercising, he said,
" I was afraid of that!"
It isn't about you, it is about them.
Congrats! You have amazed people, beyond belief!

I lost 25kgs twice in my time - both times I was asked how much I lost & I got 'wow, as if you needed to lose that much' Well, clearly, I did!

My Dad always used to tell me I was getting to thin & now it's I'm too fat. Can't win!

mouth filters. I like that!

So,.....what IS your secret?

I don't know if this counts or not... but I moved away for a year and lost a lot of weight.. so when I came back, neither one of my parents recognized me. They thought I was one of my sisters friends and took a good while to figure out that it was me. lol

I haven't had too many comments. A friend jokingly said the other day that if I turned sideways she wouldn't be able to see me It was meant as a joke and I took it as such - she's seen me demolish half a pizza in a sitting (plus garlic bread and wine lol) and knows how hard I work.

Other than a shocked and quickly muted gasp from my MIL, that's about it My Mum was concerned, but she's since stayed with us and seen how much I eat and workout, so she's happy that I'm doing it right.

Actual conversation:

"Whoa, you lost weight. You look SO much better."

"Thanks, I was really sick for a long time and very scared for my health."

"Well not sick enough. You still have a long ways to go."

I had my family AND my boss say this to me when I was once very sick for a few months. Thanks for the support guys! Lol

Yes, people do want a magic answer, so they ask "How did you do it?". I tell those who ask, "Sadly, the answer is very boring: A healthy diet and exercise!"

A gentleman that I used to work with said that he noticed I'd been losing weight but didn't want to say anything in case I had cancer. :noway:

When I lost weight the first time I worked in a mall. I'd been running, lifting weights, eating at a deficit, etc. I heard through the mall grapevine that the manager at the GNC was telling people that he'd sold me diet pills and that was the reason that I'd lost weight. :explode: I haven't shopped at a GNC since. :laugh:

Oh goodness, I hate when people tell me that i'm "wasting away" or that i "need to stop now". Its so rude. I know a lot of it stems from their own insecurities but I do think some of it is just because they aren't use to seeing me at a normal weight.

Worst comment was from a friends boyfriend who told her "Don't believe her, Casey, she definitely did some drugs no matter what she tells you." Uhhh, okay then.

I haven't got to that point yet, but I have had two friends tell me that to get to what would be a normal weight for someone my height (depending on the chart, it's 100 to 150 lbs! so 125 isn't unreasonable!) I would be far too thin! One of them even told me that when she was younger, she was about 120 and she was in really good shape... uh, she's two or three inches taller than me, go figure. I pointed that out to her and she did allow as how maybe that wouldn't be so bad then. The other person was formerly a nurse, and she's four or five inches taller than me, so I really don't get how she thinks that's too low. She must really not be taking into account the fact that I am that much shorter. People just have NO concept of what a healthy weight looks like any more. They also don't really know just how much people really do weigh according to what they look like. I have gotten a couple of friends to tell me what they thought I weighed, and they were way low, bless 'em!

On the side of people saying or not saying anything about my weight loss, a male friend who knows I am going to the gym and working hard, mentioned to a mutual male friend (one of my best-friends-that's-like-a-sister's husband) that he thought I was losing and didn't know if he should say anything! The husband (who is like a brother to me too!) encouraged him to but he still didn't feel comfortable about it until I told him I had lost 40 lbs (he had been away for a month and asked what was new.)

As far as people asking for numbers, I have said to one person "I'll let you know when I get there!" Not to be rude, but I didn't really want to tell her, and certainly not in a room with others present. And when asked what weight I want to get to, partly because of my two above noted friends, I usually say I am not sure yet, I will have to decide when I get a lot closer. Luckily, I haven't had any people who have pressed me because I am storing up some of your replies in case they do! LOL! Not really... I am like most of you, usually too astonished when people are that pushy and can't think of my perfect replies.

The "What's your secret?" really bugs me too. When I tell them that it was cutting back on calories, eating healthier, and exercising, they're totally disappointed and change the subject or move on. Everybody wants a magic pill that works overnight with no changes in their eating habits or activity level.

If I played along and told them the secret is Greek yogurt, along with cutting back on calories, eating healthier, and exercising,
then they'd just hear the yogurt part and add it to their sucky diet and sedentary lifestyle and wonder why that alone wasn't working miracles for them. They'd be eating a quart a day figuring the more they ate, the faster they'd lose the weight. People hear what they want and the commitment and effort required to get fit clearly isn't what they want to hear.