Wow. You look like *kitten*....

Do you know what it is specifically that is causing them to be concerned? Have they said?

You might find that they're trying to be nice and are concerned because you lost weight quickly, because you seem tired, weak, don't fit their model of healthy etc?

I think what they've done is inappropriate and if it were me I'd go to management and HR but then I'd be happy to rock the boat, I don't know your situation. It might be worth trying to resolve it informally first.

These comments come from my director of nursing, her assistant, my immediate supervisor, and a few fellow co-workers. I even told my supervisor I felt like everyone was ganging up on me, and although I appreciated their "concern," that I was pretty sure telling someone they look awful wasn't the right way to go about anything. I realize no one has ever seen me at this weight. I didn't even weigh this when I first started 8 years ago. I just want to be happy. And I want people to support me. I feel like I have no one except the amazing people I have met on here.

I'd be on a trip to HR to file a complaint if I was you.

I wouldn't give them any note from my doctor.

I wouldn't give them any information about my health.

I'd tell them matter of factly that it is not only completely inappropriate to make comments about someone else's body, it is highly unprofessional and in direct violation of company policy (regardless of where you work, there will be a policy in place protecting you from sexual harassment... and comments about your desirability like saying you look like a corpse is indeed a comment on your desirability...).

I would tell them that if you hear one more of their negative thoughts or opinions even in passing, you will file a formal complaint with human resources but that if they are interested in learning about health and fitness you'd be happy to help them get started on their journey.

It really stinks that you're dealing with that at work... especially in what should be a supportive environment for weight loss and health. It's wonderful that you've found this place and some support here.

(I'm also originally from West Virginia... it is absolutely a cultural thing there. It doesn't make it okay. We can and should fight back.)

Isn't West Virginia one of the fattest states in the country? They are concerned that you are sabotaging the image that everyone else has overate so much to achieve!

You look good, btw. Not underweight. Healthy actually.

Enough with the WV bashing! :mad: :explode:

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I cannot believe this. I think it's terrible that those people are so judgmental. From your picture, you look happy and healthy. I think it's great you lost as much as you did. I agree with everyone else, get a note from your doctor stating that your weight is fine, and not to prove anything, but to keep your manager or supervisor from doing something illegal. Keep focused on you. If you look in the mirror and like what you see, take that feeling and role with it. Don't let other people bring you down because they all have their own insecurities.

Wow. What kind of nurses act like that?

Nurses eat their own. Don't listen to them, you're doing great.

Well first off you need to get a new job. Secondly, you look fantastic. Don't listen to the haters.

Let me tell you this.. You look BEAUTIFUL. N NOT A CORPSE.
It doesnt matter what people around you say. They are just irritated that they cant call you fat anymore.. So to feed their bully nature they are saying that you look like a drug addict and all such nonsense. So now if you will listen to them and start gaining weight. They will start calling you fat again..even if u hav gained just 5-8 lbs..

So ignore them. N do what you want.

This ^^ these workmates are rats. Slimy little rats. You're in a toxic place socially. some places that aren't managed correctly from above get like this and it just becomes a runaway train. Like primary school. All these socially retarded little hitlers have their stupid gossips, their stupid backbiting, their stupid storytelling and to entertain themselves the make up whatever nasty thing they can about whoever they can make it up about. They're filth. If you dob on them they just make up the next *****fest about that, and ostracise you.

They'll needle you till you stop losing weight, and then they'll sneer down on you for failing. Honestly, in some workplaces the culture is totally evil and the only cure is getting out of there.

You're losing weight. Soon you will look a million bucks in an interview suit. And then they can all just go stuff it where the sun don't shine, can't they.

Don't get depressed. Get even. Don't let them get you down. Keep doing what you're doing and then get the hell out of there.

I had the same thing happen to me, I was doing great on Dukan two years ago. Started getting the "you must be at goal now - don't Lose any more will you?" Followed by. "You look gaunt, your face is so thin. You've gone too far!". I'm 5ft 8 and a healthy weight for me is 11 stone. I was 13 stone at that point. I spooked and ate my way back up to 15 stone again.

I've got my act together and am back down to 13 stone again now. Nothing will stop me this time. The sabotage has already started again around me but I am simply deaf to it. I am getting to my goal no matter what.

And they go on about me needing new clothes - there's no point wasting money on clothes that will soon be huge on me. My old clothes are just baggy!

I'm convinced they are feeling guilty that they are not getting healthy themselves and don't want me to remind them how lazy they are!

You look great! I know people give me crap for being overweight. Being healthy and people are giving you rude comments. Can't we ever win? As long as your DR says you are healthy screw what they say and shove the clean bill of health in their face!

These comments come from my director of nursing, her assistant, my immediate supervisor, and a few fellow co-workers.

I bet they're either all jealous women, or men who find you attractive but realise that the better looking you get, the less chance they have.

I've gotten some really negative comments from some of the RN's I work with. Thankfully most don't comment at all and some are great cheerleaders. What I do is turn the conversation around to focus back on them. People love to talk about themselves and their families. Works for all kinds of situations. When I get asked if I'm still losing weight - I'll answer a really quick no and then follow up with something like, Hey, how's Colby/Kristin doing at college? before they get a chance to ask/say anything else. Works every time against the negative Nellies.

Definitely this. And thank you for posting, OP. Serves as a warning for all of us - be on guard for anyone that wants to sabotage your efforts just to make themselves feel better!

143 is not skinny at all! That's the weight I'm trying to get and I'm 5.10!

You don't look neither sick, nor like a drag addict. Not at least judging by your body.

I honestly can't believe anything like that happen especially in the USA considering people and employees are so careful of any possible egalitarian troubles. Maybe you misunderstood and there's some confusion between you guys?

Maybe those comments were regarding your overall look, not your weight, when you were actually sick or very tired, and didn't look well? Maybe they were concerned not about your weight much but about your health and thought you losing weight is an additional indication of depression r some sickness? Just thought.

My coworkers once told me I look bad, and suggested to take a rest and go to a spa, but I really looked like ****, lol, finishing important project and not sleeping for days.

I'm sorry you work with such a despicable group of people.

Lots of suggestions have already been made on handling them, so I won't repeat them.

What I do want you to do though is go back and read the "why I want to get in shape" part of your profile, and remember how you felt when you typed it.

You have worked hard, and you look fantastic. You should feel it too. :flowerforyou:

First, get a letter from your doctor saying that your weight and fitness goals are healthy, then take that letter to whoever called you in to a meeting (I presume it was your supervisor/line manager) and say that you are not happy with the constant harassment based on how you look, that you find it hurtful and offensive, and that it must stop. If that doesn't make it stop, or your supervisor/line manager doesn't accept the note from your doctor, then go above his/her head and complain, saying that you consider it to be harassment based on how you look, and highly unprofessional.

This. As long as your goals are healthy, then everyone else can just go pound sand. I REALLY hope the meetings you talk about are with peers, because if a supervisor brought you in and said "you look like *kitten*", they need a smack upside the head. There are much more productive ways to address such issues, and if you really did have a problem, that approach would not be the way to open up a supportive path to a solution. (And I'm no stranger to leading the "You look like you're hurting, what's up", "You need to stand closer to your razor next time", or "You look like you slept in that uniform" discussions.)

Unfortunately, it often happens that people who are unfamiliar with a process will mis-diagnose things. If they're not familiar with successful weight loss, they may simply assume that you've got a problem because you're actually losing weight.

I once had a supervisor who really angered me when he got on my case because I put on weight. Knowing that I was someone who enjoyed cooking, he simply assumed I was over-eating. Not once did he notice that my waist size hadn't gone up. He also didn't notice that, in the eighteen months after the time they'd taken my first weight measurement, on which he'd based the "you're packing on fat" argument, I'd gone from doing 80 pounds on a hack squat machine to 450 and from bench pressing perhaps 120 pounds, total, to 110 in each hand. I'd also gone from someone whose only running experience was around a track to someone who could sling a fully-grown man over his shoulders and sprint uphill. So he completely ignored the possibility my weight could have come from something other than fat because that wasn't in his experience.