thanks for nothing hubby!

So at the moment I have a fractured elbow and scaphoid and numerous bruises including black eye having come off my bike last Friday so I'm not feeling my best. Telling hubby about a conversation with someone at school who's got a little about same age as the one we are hoping to adopt in a few weeks and we'd said we might try a few playdates. Thinking aloud I then said, "maybe we could walking or jogging together". DH says "Not likely, she's really fit, she wont want to be slowing down for you".
Way to make me feel good about myself, especially when I'm already feeling rough! Thank you and goodnight!
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  • sandytoshiko
    sandytoshiko Posts: 67 Member
    Proper response: gee honey, by that rationale .... I shouldn't be hanging out with you!
  • JewelsinBigD
    JewelsinBigD Posts: 661 Member
    Wow - sure you want to bring a child into that? Just saying -- not very supportive. Are you ready to go this alone (at least virtually)...
  • NinjadURbacon
    NinjadURbacon Posts: 395 Member
    well he could be telling the truth, just a little too blunt.
  • justwanderful
    justwanderful Posts: 142 Member
    He's being logical. You're being emotional.

    Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars.

    You're both right.
  • Well, guess I walked into that one - serves me right for posting! Normally I wouldn't get upset by it but as I said bit sore and sensitive, and my normal outlet for PMS (exercise) is not an option.
  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,474 Member
    I would have boxed his ears, good.!
  • TheSlorax
    TheSlorax Posts: 2,401 Member
    Well, guess I walked into that one - serves me right for posting! Normally I wouldn't get upset by it but as I said bit sore and sensitive, and my normal outlet for PMS (exercise) is not an option.

    the way he said it if that was truly his wording was not very nice. I don't blame you for being a little upset over it.
  • bloominheck
    bloominheck Posts: 869 Member
    Proper response: gee honey, by that rationale .... I shouldn't be hanging out with you!

    Absolutely.. no offense darling but he's a knob for saying that. Hope you are feeling better soon.:flowerforyou:
  • I really don't think his comment was necessary . . .
  • WhitneySheree88
    WhitneySheree88 Posts: 222 Member
    Sorry he made you upset. Men tend to just tell people the truth like is and when talking to other men, that isn't really a problem. Some/most of them have yet to realize the things they say can be hurtful to us. My husband does this, he uses his "man tone" in a lot of conversations with me and I end up all butt hurt over the situation then I have to tell him that sometimes he sounds like an a**hole and does it without realizing it.

    On another note, it must be freeing to say whatever you want whatever way you want and not care how others feel. Ahhh to have balls lol :laugh:
  • I would have boxed his ears, good.!

    If I had 2 good arms I would have done!
  • Melissa22G
    Melissa22G Posts: 847 Member
    Men are too logical for their own good.

    You should chop his balls off. After all, you are adopting and have no use for them.
  • People need to learn when the truth is valuable and when it will just get a boot lodged in their *kitten*.
  • astartig
    astartig Posts: 549 Member
    no, I don't think it's "truth" put in hurtful form. It's just a*hole.. If you've got little ones you're not going to be jogging high pace. There is a limit to how fast you can go with kids.
  • Mainebikerchick
    Mainebikerchick Posts: 1,573 Member
    Regardless of whether or not he feels it's true, it's really NOT nice to say something that blunt to you, let alone when you are already emotional and in pain. My hubby would NEVER say something like that to me, but if he did, like KangooJumps said, I'd box his ears! And maybe give him a swift kick where it counts for good measure!
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    Yeah, it happens in marriages. People say dumb things to their spouses all the time. Pretty sure you've said some dumb stuff to him :laugh:

    Eta, great job on your loss, that's fabulous!
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Wow - sure you want to bring a child into that? Just saying -- not very supportive. Are you ready to go this alone (at least virtually)...


    BWAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
  • iamanadult
    iamanadult Posts: 709 Member
    Are you really fit like the other woman you're talking about? If not, how can you get mad at him for saying that?
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    Firstly, he has foot in mouth disease...this can't have been the first time he's done this, sensitive or not, you pretty much knew what you were getting when you married him...right?

    Secondly, he can't read minds, the only one that can yea or nay this is her. So ask her. She may be really flattered. She may be too busy . But either way, ask her.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    Withhold sex until he remembers what he did wrong.
    You'll never have to sleep with him again!
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    Check his text messages.
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    Did you tell him that he upset you or did you come straight to the message boards?
  • Melissa22G
    Melissa22G Posts: 847 Member
    Did you tell him that he upset you or did you come straight to the message boards?


    Ugh. Another man and his stoopid logic.

    That's too easy!
  • MacInCali
    MacInCali Posts: 1,012 Member
    A few months ago I told my husband I was thinking about signing up for a Zombie Run.

    My husband's response: That's just stupid, you're too old to be doing stuff like that. (I'm 41)

    Result: I'm doing a Zombie Run on September 28th.

    My point: YOU know what YOU are capable of. Ask her.
  • Beeps2011
    Beeps2011 Posts: 12,160 Member
    eeeeekkkkk!!! Themz "fighting words", for sure!

    Surely there's a website out there, somewhere, called "A$$hat things my husband says...."

    Please add your blog to THAT website (too!).

    (((OP)))
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt your feelings, OP. It was just a comment that you were sensitive to. If the woman is actually more fit than you are, he might actually have a point, but you should ask her anyway. Maybe she would prefer having company.
  • lawkat
    lawkat Posts: 538 Member
    You did say you hurt yourself. Do you think that he was taking that into consideration and that he wasn't thinking that you can't keep up? Did you even ask him what he meant by that instead of storming off and posting on here? What ever happened to talking a person to sort things out instead of seething and getting upset over nothing? It is nothing. I guarantee he hasn't thought about what he said after he said it. Move on. It isn't worth it.
  • JewelsinBigD
    JewelsinBigD Posts: 661 Member
    I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt your feelings, OP. It was just a comment that you were sensitive to. If the woman is actually more fit than you are, he might actually have a point, but you should ask her anyway. Maybe she would prefer having company.
    Really? Have you ever as a fit person said to someone less fit "no - I don't want to go walking with you?" I have NEVER met someone who was into fitness not want to support someone else's fitness. He is jerk - bottom line. This is not a "does this dress make me look fat question" where you open yourself up for truth- this was a slap in the face. I stand by my original comment - NOT VERY SUPPORTIVE!
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    Men are too logical for their own good.

    You should chop his balls off. After all, you are adopting and have no use for them.

    :heart:
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    A few months ago I told my husband I was thinking about signing up for a Zombie Run.

    My husband's response: That's just stupid, you're too old to be doing stuff like that. (I'm 41)

    Result: I'm doing a Zombie Run on September 28th.

    My point: YOU know what YOU are capable of. Ask her.

    You get one, too! :heart: