Things People Say When You've Lost Weight

It bugs me too when people say I'm wasting away.
I just smile at them.

But usually these thoughts cross my mind during the smile.
-Yeah, my fats are wasting away.
-Yeah right, why don't you & me go shirtless in front of a mirror & see who's wasting away.
-Really now?! Why don't you match my pull ups & pistols rep per rep.
-Wanna see my abs?

hahaha... love the abs comment.

But on another note. I'm not where I'm getting comments anymore, but I was between child #1 and child#2. A hard pregnancy and some injuries have not helped my mostly sedentary lifestyle and somewhat bad eating habits, so I'm right back to where I was before.

Anyway... My mom told me something the other day... she said: 'Back in her day, you saw a sea of people and the fat person always stood out...now, in a sea of people, it's the skinny ones that stand out.'

I think she made a good point. So many people are unhealthy and have sitting jobs that we don't know what healthy looks like anymore. With my one son's anxiety issues, I've also learned that a lot of people don't like change, to be out of their comfort zone.

So yes, some people say things to be mean, but for most, I think it's just insecurities and not knowing how to express themselves well that make them sound rude. I think that hte tone in which is said makes all the difference too, so if you say something, make sure to weight the way you say it. I've felt embarrassed when people put too much emphasis on my weight loss and I know that I might have said things that came out wrong in the past not knowing how it would affect people. I now don't say anything about others body images unless it's something they hint at or mention first... then you might offend people that want you to say something... either way, you can't win at that, but you can win at letting things roll of your shoulders and at feeling great!

I get 'OMG, did you mean to lose it or did you get cancer or something'?.....and i get the ole 'what kinda pills did you take'?....so I'm either dying of cancer or a druggie!.... I just smile and say..watching my calories and having the strength to pass the junk food up...then they ask what i eat and when i say cut your portions they lose interest, lol

I get 'OMG, did you mean to lose it or did you get cancer or something'?.....and i get the ole 'what kinda pills did you take'?....so I'm either dying of cancer or a druggie!.... I just smile and say..watching my calories and having the strength to pass the junk food up...then they ask what i eat and when i say cut your portions they lose interest, lol

lol... I get the pill one & you're right as soon as you say exercise & portion control their eyes glaze over.

"What's your secret?!"

Urgh. And after telling them that it is all dedication, healthy eating and exercise, they just raise their brows in disbelief.

oh yes - this one. They say - have you not tried Raspberry Ketone tea - or the 5/2 diet - then? When I say no, I just ate less and moved more - they sigh - people just want a quick fix (I know I used to!). They have to be at the right place in their lives to realise that it may take a bit of time and a bit of work to do 'this'.

When I was fat, and got skinnier, they said I wasn't eating. Then, when I got jacked, they said I was eating...steroids. There's no winning with some people.

My daughter was up visiting our family in another state. None of my family have seen me in a number of years. When she showed them pictures of me the first thing out of their mouths was asking her if I was on drugs. :huh:
I mean really :grumble:
I have worked hard for over a year to get this weight off me.
She was irritated by them and their comments and told them that she was offended by the question and that I had worked really hard to get the weight off.

Is it any wonder I haven't been up to visit in almost 10 years?!
My daughter is the best!:flowerforyou:

my favorite so far has been the whispered "are you sick?" because yeah...if i was...i would want to talk to you about it weirdo nosey person at work!!!

My mother-in-law, with whom I have a very pleasant though periodically sitcom-esque relationship, has taken to complimenting my husband on his weight loss every time she sees him and saying nothing to me other than a standard greeting. That’s just fine. The problem is that he hasn't lost any weight. In fact, he’s put on weight. I’m not offended; I’m just…perplexed. I will, however, take this over her previous response, which was to congratulate me on my weight loss then use that as a segue to bemoan her own weight issues. I’m beginning to suspect that people are weirdies.

Don't you know that this is the olden days when wives were their husbands possessions?

So therefore, if you lose weight, it means he lost weight, as long as he doesn't put more on than you lose, you're golden!

People always stay stupid things. I was at my goal weight and some skinny snot told me to keep working because the last 10 pounds are the hardest. I was so offended, I guess I wasn't thin enough for her. BTW she was not all that.

That doesn't sound snotty at all, sounds like she was trying to be encouraging. You sound a bit jealous there seeing as how you called her a skinny snot and then saying she's not all that. Don't let people get to you so much.

When she showed them pictures of me the first thing out of their mouths was asking her if I was on drugs.

Now THAT'S offensive....lol

Some people just don't think before they speak. And I agree that they are jealous/envious of our change for the better because deep down they know they should do it too.
I don't give too many details and try to stay positive.

Wow!

My favorite has been "What the h*ll did you do?"

I can kind of understand this - she is either unhappy that you are starting to look "as good as her" or when she looks in the mirror she sees a big person looking back at her. I suffer from that still - even after shedding 112 pounds.

When I was NOT on any sort of diet, people would say, "You look like you've lost weight."
Isn't there any other other topic they can introduce?
Now, when I see these folks in December, will they notice the absence of 30+ pounds?