Ever been described as "stocky"? How about "chubby"?

5'6" 158 lbs. I don't get stocky or chubby. I get "When are you expecting?"

I'm always called "big Mike". I'm only 5' 9" so clearly my bigness isn't from height. What really gets me is that these are total strangers saying it. So it's not like its a close friend or relative who I know and trust. On the good side though I plan on losing my weight and getting ripped so at that point "big Mike" will be a good thing.

An ex used to call it my "winterness".. like I was building up fat to hibernate. He said it while we were alone and I repeated it to our gang of friends one night when we were all out for coffee, he got all red and told me I wasn't supposed to repeat it. He knew it was wrong to say it, but he didn't know how ok I was with my body at the time. I thought it was pretty creative and didn't take offense, at the time I was around 40 lbs overweight and okay with it. 15 years later and I'm topping 250 at 5"7' and was just recommended MyFitnessPal, it's shed a lot of light over the week I've used it... hopefully I can shed a few pounds too.

The worst was a friend, or so I thought. She always wanted to get fast food when I was around and would call me just for that reason. I was hurt when I realized it, she'd made assumptions about me and my weight and used it to make herself feel better when she wanted to eat fast food. I'm a night eater and that what gets me in trouble.

Oh yeah, I've been called chubby and fat a lot of times. I am 5'7" tall and weigh 170 lbs but i am now classified as overweight. It hurts me that even people I care about call me those names "matter-of-factly". My mom does that often to push me to start losing weight. I have called her off more than once for it, telling her that her words offend me. It's the same in my workplace, my co-workers would make me the butt of several jokes and it hurts. Sometimes, I show them that I don't mind, I just laugh along. But you see, reality really hurts and I only have myself to turn that around. So here I am, hoping to lose 40 lbs because I wanna prove to everyone, including myself, that I can win this journey.

Good luck to us all.

With an open Asian family, commenting on other peoples weight and body shape is generally accepted and even seen as showing concern about someone else. (Tho I'm sometimes skeptical)
(Please read the following with a bit of humor)

'Woah, you've put on sooooooo much weight'

(calls over other family members) 'Look at big she's grown'

'How big is your thigh? If we cooked you up, we could eat for months!'

'Give me some of your fat to put onto my boobs'

'You don't need this.' (steals best part of meal from my plate) 'Here, I'll help you'

'Move dat fat *kitten*' (Goes on to accompany me on a walk or exercise routine)

What they say may sometimes sound harsh, I still really love them. We're a close knit family, and I know they've got my back (except when it comes to food.)

I only get annoyed when other Asians/people outside my family or close friends comment on my weight. :grumble:

Even now some people still call me plump, chubby, etc...

I used to walk dogs in DC. One day I was out with Charlie (an awesome labradoodle), minding my own business, when a lady a block away flags me down. She walks towards me and starts yelling at me that I'm fat, ugly, pasty, and "a chubby *****" among other really hurtful things. I just stood there in shock. At the end I said, "What did I do to you?" and she said, "You exist." After she walked away I literally cried all the way back to Charlie's home and sporadically for the next couple of days. It was one of the most random, hurtful events to happen to me and it only lasted 5 minutes. I've been overweight all of my life but I'm a genuinely nice, caring, and funny person and have never really been made fun of, or picked on for it. This stranger, out of the blue, truly despised me. It's been years and it still sticks with me --- "you exist".

Sorry to make the post kinda dark, but It feels good to get this off my chest. I've been too embarrassed about the event to tell anyone but my mom.

What a nasty thing to do! People are just vile sometimes.

I've had them all over the years but I've always had a go back at the person giving it, because they are usually good at dishing it out but can't take it when it's directed at them.

that is the most horrible thing I have ever heard! that is weightism (I think I just invented that one) and is as bad as true racism! surely she was mentally ill!? or maybe just pure evil walking!

When I married the DH 40 years ago I was already just a little OW. Gained 10lbs during the honey moon! The hubby liked it. After all he had been feeding me chocolate and taking me out for meals and acting all wounded if I didn't eat it all for three years before. ( And before any one judges me for "taking it" and I was responsible for what I put in my mouth, please know, I started dating him at 14 and came from a home with a control freak father and a passive, oppressed mother.) ANYWAY, the DH's new form of endearment was "Chunky Honey" even in front of his family. Why the hell I stayed married to him after that can only be explained by the previous comment about my parents I guess. He is always miserable when I take charge of my weight and health but I keep trying. This time I WILL DO IT. And he can just pout!

Wow that women has some serious issues.. I am so sorry you had to ever go thru sometime like that..

God bless

i'm 5'3" my highest weight was 234lbs. I've been called thick.. in my own mind I look at that comment like:ohwell: . But to be honest, you gotta love the comments from kids because they will not lie to you about your size. They will flat out tell you that you're fat. lol. I remember my fiancé's son flat out telling me, "You're Fat!" Of course my fiancé was a little mad at him for saying so but I was like, "Hey, maybe he's onto something!" lol

I went to pick up a part for one of the ex-boyfriends and when I walked in they knew who I was because he told them to look for the fluffy one and my grandmother always told me I had breeder hips and would not have any problems in childbirth and while she was right that one stung a little

the most hurtful one I have had was from my dear foster mother. Sometimes she will speak without filters on and one day said to me that I need to do something about my weight or I will soon end up the size of the mother from the movie "What's Eating Gilbert Grape".

One of the most hurtful comments happened when I was in my mid-twenties. I arrived at a family party and my uncle shouted out LOUDLY "Hey your *kitten* is getting bigger every time I see you!"
The next morning I left the house crying, at 6 am to go see a doctor for a referral to a dietician. (Unfortunately, that was not the beginning nor the end of my weight loss journey)

I've had comments from strangers about my appearance on the bus or while shopping. But that also happened to me when I was a slim teenager. These people have an antenna for those with low self-esteem and they think it's okay to boost their own confidence at someone else's expense.

My EX girlfriend called me 'dumpy' once............... :huh:

There are soooo many names I've been called throughout my life. I have been heavy, chubby, chunky, plump, fat, overweight, big boned for the majority of my life.

I remember when I was in grade 4, i was walking home from school and I thought it started to rain, but no...a boy behind me that didn't like how fat I was, started to spit on me.
Needless to say, I have pretty thick skin nowadays and look better than I ever have!
Now it turns out, he's the chubbier one.

One of the most hurtful comments happened when I was in my mid-twenties. I arrived at a family party and my uncle shouted out LOUDLY "Hey your *kitten* is getting bigger every time I see you!"
The next morning I left the house crying, at 6 am to go see a doctor for a referral to a dietician. (Unfortunately, that was not the beginning nor the end of my weight loss journey)

I've had comments from strangers about my appearance on the bus or while shopping. But that also happened to me when I was a slim teenager. These people have an antenna for those with low self-esteem and they think it's okay to boost their own confidence at someone else's expense.

I'm sorry to hear that! It can be really hard sometimes when everyone seems to want to make comments about you or think they have the right to judge you.

I was once walking, up a very steep hill mind- not even out of breath, when this guy walked past me, put his hand on my shoulder and said 'you need to lose weight love'. I was livid! It's not for other people to make judgments and tell you how to live your life!