Help! Peer pressure to eat poorly

^ But those aren't real burgers. Those are veggie patties. Burgers are beef.

Thanks, guys! Of course I said no, but I relented when the "But it's my birthday" "But it's a wedding" comments came in.

Of course, I wasn't there- so I can't say for sure HOW exactly you were saying "no".

But I find when I say no with a more unsure tone, even SLIGHTLY, the person offering attacks as if they know you'll give in if they persist.

When I decline in a strong 'matter of fact' tone, I find they leave me alone.

Still, if they persist... Then a talking-to is in order, as has already been stated. Just tell her the truth, but know in advance what you're going to say so you don't sound like you're unsure of yourself (this happens to me a lot, hah). Be very direct, and don't stand down on your points. If it's something you feel strongly about, then it's something worth standing up for.

Good luck! I know these situations are never fun.

But I find when I say no with a more unsure tone, even SLIGHTLY, the person offering attacks as if they know you'll give in if they persist.

When I decline in a strong 'matter of fact' tone, I find they leave me alone.

I was thinking this too. You gotta talk like you mean business. People nag pushovers because they know they'll win. Even if they persist, if you know what you want then it shouldn't matter what they say.

I feel for you! Been in that situation a few times myself, often with a different angle: the stupid "real men eat a lot" / "big guy, big appetite" idea. Wish I could say that never worked on me.

Your cousin knows that you're making better choices than she is. She knows it whether or not you make a big deal about it. But for her to tear you down just so she feels better about herself is very selfish. You should never be ashamed of making healthy choices just because someone else isn't.

Love, acceptance, and humor may help, depending on the situation and the person. Assure the other person they can eat whatever they like, no big deal - really! Change the subject. Or say you have an upset stomach. You don't feel like cake right now, but that fruit salad looks good and you haven't had any in a long time. "Maybe later." Or take small portions. Or make sure that you spend too much time talking and doing other things to eat a lot.

Good luck!

NOBODY can guilt me into eating how i don't want to. i don't care who they are. nobody should EVER have that much power over you and what goes in your body.

Don't give in to peer pressure.


My family is like, the worse at that. sometimes you just have to suck it up and be direct to them.

My reply is "no thanks, I'll pass this time". I don't feel like I owe anyone an explanation.

I'm reminded of the time when I was in college and some friends were trying to get me to drink. They kept pressuring and I kept saying no. Finally, I said, ok I will take a beer. They all cheered like they had just got something grand to happen. Then I poured the beer on the ground.

They were PISSED. I said it was my beer, they gave it to me, and I could do what I wanted with it. I told them that if they ever offered me another, I would do the same thing.

Now, when somebody is pressuring me to do something I don't want I tell them this story. Then I say, "So, are you sure you wanna give me those fries?"

I don't typically have to keep fighting the comments after that.

This is sooo annoying...I have friends that kind do the same thing. Except in your case it seems like your cousin wants you to eat food that you would never eat by yourself. Whereas with my friends its usually eating (especially drinking) unhealthy things that I've consumed in the past and would still consume now but in moderation.

I recently went on a wknd trip with these friends and I had a few drinks. But one of my friends kept trying to pressure me to drink more until I directly told him (in a mean way) to stop telling me to drink. For some reason he felt that him buying the drinks meant that I had to drink them, even when I told him no beforehand.

Now i don't have the strictest of diets, I try to stay within my macros on here, but calories is the most important to me. So what i do is, if I know a few days in advance that I'm going to be around these friends or I'll be going out to a restaurant I'll do what i can to plan ahead by maybe increasing my deficit on the days leading up to it in order to minimize the effects of possibly going over my calories for the day. It's worked okay so far. I feel it would be very useful for you in dealing with waffle fries

The people who posted before me have given some pretty great advice that you should follow, and I'm gonna follow as well. Thanks everyone.

eat
drink
be merry
people say this for a reason.