Boy trouble!!! I need advice!
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Summer is in the hiz-ouse!!!!
Yeah, I know. Bringing topics like this to a fitness forum is kind of weird, but I've observed that there are a lot of helpful people here, so I'll give it a shot.
Within the last year, I've been having problems with specific guys. I've been having to fend off a handful of them who are either creepy-lookers, weirdos, socially-awkward nightmares or all of the above.
I asked my friend why this is happening to me and she said, "Because you're a nice girl, and you look like a nice girl. Weird guys will go after nice girls because they don't have to worry about being turned down harshly, sneered at, etc."
Well, I don't want to stop being a nice girl, but I also don't want to keep attracting weirdos.
Some of you may be asking, "Why don't you take a chance and go out with them?" While I am completely willing to be friendly if they just want to talk to me, I would never pursue a long-term relationship with any of them (which is what they want, and these are the types of guys who think that one date means, "OH MY GOSH SHE'S MY GIRLFRIEND NOW!").
I'm kind of tired of all the hurt feelings, so how can I make myself less desirable to the weird boys so that they don't even bother with me? And how do I do so without becoming a jerk? Is that even possible? =(
Yeah, I know. Bringing topics like this to a fitness forum is kind of weird, but I've observed that there are a lot of helpful people here, so I'll give it a shot.
Within the last year, I've been having problems with specific guys. I've been having to fend off a handful of them who are either creepy-lookers, weirdos, socially-awkward nightmares or all of the above.
I asked my friend why this is happening to me and she said, "Because you're a nice girl, and you look like a nice girl. Weird guys will go after nice girls because they don't have to worry about being turned down harshly, sneered at, etc."
Well, I don't want to stop being a nice girl, but I also don't want to keep attracting weirdos.
Some of you may be asking, "Why don't you take a chance and go out with them?" While I am completely willing to be friendly if they just want to talk to me, I would never pursue a long-term relationship with any of them (which is what they want, and these are the types of guys who think that one date means, "OH MY GOSH SHE'S MY GIRLFRIEND NOW!").
I'm kind of tired of all the hurt feelings, so how can I make myself less desirable to the weird boys so that they don't even bother with me? And how do I do so without becoming a jerk? Is that even possible? =(
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say "summer is in the "hiz-house" around them & they'll lose interest immediately.
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Summer is in the hiz-ouse!!!!
Yeah, I know. Bringing topics like this to a fitness forum is kind of weird, but I've observed that there are a lot of helpful people here, so I'll give it a shot.
Within the last year, I've been having problems with specific guys. I've been having to fend off a handful of them who are either creepy-lookers, weirdos, socially-awkward nightmares or all of the above.
I asked my friend why this is happening to me and she said, "Because you're a nice girl, and you look like a nice girl. Weird guys will go after nice girls because they don't have to worry about being turned down harshly, sneered at, etc."
Well, I don't want to stop being a nice girl, but I also don't want to keep attracting weirdos.
Some of you may be asking, "Why don't you take a chance and go out with them?" While I am completely willing to be friendly if they just want to talk to me, I would never pursue a long-term relationship with any of them (which is what they want, and these are the types of guys who think that one date means, "OH MY GOSH SHE'S MY GIRLFRIEND NOW!").
I'm kind of tired of all the hurt feelings, so how can I make myself less desirable to the weird boys so that they don't even bother with me? And how do I do so without becoming a jerk? Is that even possible? =(
Unfortunately you already are one. You're complaining about guys, whom you describe as weird or creepy, swallowing their insecurities because you are approachable, and having the nerve to ask you out. And then you go on an internet forum and ask for advice on how to make yourself less desirable to a certain type of guy.
You are not a nice girl, you only appear to be.0 -
Summer is in the hiz-ouse!!!!
Yeah, I know. Bringing topics like this to a fitness forum is kind of weird, but I've observed that there are a lot of helpful people here, so I'll give it a shot.
Within the last year, I've been having problems with specific guys. I've been having to fend off a handful of them who are either creepy-lookers, weirdos, socially-awkward nightmares or all of the above.
I asked my friend why this is happening to me and she said, "Because you're a nice girl, and you look like a nice girl. Weird guys will go after nice girls because they don't have to worry about being turned down harshly, sneered at, etc."
Well, I don't want to stop being a nice girl, but I also don't want to keep attracting weirdos.
Some of you may be asking, "Why don't you take a chance and go out with them?" While I am completely willing to be friendly if they just want to talk to me, I would never pursue a long-term relationship with any of them (which is what they want, and these are the types of guys who think that one date means, "OH MY GOSH SHE'S MY GIRLFRIEND NOW!").
I'm kind of tired of all the hurt feelings, so how can I make myself less desirable to the weird boys so that they don't even bother with me? And how do I do so without becoming a jerk? Is that even possible? =(
Unfortunately you already are one. You're complaining about guys, whom you describe as weird or creepy, swallowing their insecurities because you are approachable, and having the nerve to ask you out. And then you go on an internet forum and ask for advice on how to make yourself less desirable to a certain type of guy.
You are not a nice girl, you only appear to be.
^This
and how old are you OP?0 -
Within the last year, I've been having problems with specific guys. I've been having to fend off a handful of them who are either creepy-lookers, weirdos, socially-awkward nightmares or all of the above.
Says the girl.. signing up on a fitness site to ask about boys with her first post.0 -
Why is this a problem? They find you attractive, that's a compliment. If you aren't interested, say thank you but I'm seeing someone.
You don't have to be rude turning them down. They have feelings too.0 -
say "summer is in the "hiz-house" around them & they'll lose interest immediately.
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If you are so repulsed by them, why even be friends? Or maybe you could actually take time to know them and give them a chance.0
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say "summer is in the "hiz-house" around them & they'll lose interest immediately.
muahahaha, isn't that the truth0 -
say "summer is in the "hiz-house" around them & they'll lose interest immediately.
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Don't worry, once they hear you talk they won't think you're nice. :flowerforyou:0
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Be completely honest with them and tell them from the beginning that you are NOT looking for a long term relationship. Honesty is the best policy- but if every "weirdo" is trying to make you his girlfriend- then it's something you are leading them to believe.0
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say "summer is in the "hiz-house" around them & they'll lose interest immediately.
Omg, I'm still laughing at this0 -
Lol that was funny.0
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Don't worry, once they hear you talk they won't think you're nice. :flowerforyou:
That is a great idea. Instead of waiting for them to come up to talk to you, just go talk to them. They won't bother.0 -
Stop showering.0
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And...she's gone.0
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Just be yourself, the same way you are on this thread. Also, when on a date hit on the server (doesn't matter what gender).0
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I married one of those socially, awkward weirdos
Best. Sex. Ever.
all my friends who are socially awkward too...I think you're awesome!! 0 -
Should have hooked her up with that moreabs/pinktilebathroom guy. She'd learn more about disappointment in a week or two.0
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Should have hooked her up with that moreabs/pinktilebathroom guy. She'd learn more about disappointment in a week or two.
I'm about 80% sure he's either married or lives with his parents. Because those pink tile have no other explanation.0
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