Getting tired all the comments

greattimes
greattimes Posts: 123 Member
in Motivation and Support
Why can't people mind their own business. My boss had to defend me the other day because someone said I could not have lost all the weight by not eating and exercising. He swore I had to have had surgery. She told him I couldn't have had because I had not missed a day of work. I am so sick of hearing that I am too skinny I need to gain weight. This coming from people who I don't even know. I have been told they are going to buy me a sack of potatoes so I will gain I look like a Q tip. I am the one that lost the weight with the help of no one. it was my diet my exercise plan and its my success. I have had a lot of positive comments but it gets tiring to constantly be told negative things especially from people that need to do what I have done. The benefits have been great no more medications with all the bad that comes with them. A new wardrobe and self esteem.
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  • DianneP6772
    DianneP6772 Posts: 272 Member
    Small minds, jealous people. Take it as an extreme compliment! I can't wait until people start telling me i am too skinny! Thats my goal! Never been there - but am on the train........
  • trisH_7183
    trisH_7183 Posts: 1,486 Member
    Give them a big smile & walk away.Let them stay where they are weight wise.You are a big winner,so why care?
  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
    This coming from people who I don't even know.

    Who cares? Screw em.
  • Trechechus
    Trechechus Posts: 2,819 Member
    Jealousy is quite loud sometimes. Also, take the potatoes. Free food is awesome.
  • aquarabbit
    aquarabbit Posts: 1,622 Member
    Yeah, but you'd get a free sack of potatoes! That would make so much vegetable soup! In all seriousness, it's better to just brush it off. It's not an easy thing to just let it go, but it's worth getting into a different mindset. No point in packing on new emotional baggage after losing the old physical baggage! I like to have little sayings for those times. It depends on what inspires you, but just something that will be able to give it a positive spin. And of course, this is a great place to vent and get reassurance that you're on the right path and not alone!
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    No one is jealous, they are just shocked at the change. There are so many misconceptions about weight loss and nutrition that people assume that unless you're eating salads for 3 years you cannot lose. And when they see someone successfully lose, especially if they are still enjoying food, they feel insecure about their own inability to manage their fitness.
  • AllonsYtotheTardis
    AllonsYtotheTardis Posts: 16,947 Member
    If it was someone I didn't even know, I would tell them to STFU.

    If it was someone I knew being like that, I would pat them on the shoulder, give them the most condescending look I could muster, and say "Bless your heart, you poor thing. You really think that's how it works?" Then walk away before they could respond.
  • rhondamik
    rhondamik Posts: 21 Member
    Jealousy is quite loud sometimes. Also, take the potatoes. Free food is awesome.
    Funny!!
  • geebusuk
    geebusuk Posts: 3,348 Member
    It's natural for people to have got used to you looking larger to think you look 'too thin' as their mental image of you is much larger.

    It doesn't mean they're being nasty, jealous or any other 'bad' emotions people like to superimpose on such situations to justify the receiver being angry about it.

    When I've had that, I've just it off with a 'thank you', including to things like "you look ill" (I was healthier than I'd ever been and still had body fat probably in the very low teens - way more gut than most movie stars and the like.)
  • PiercedLibrarian
    PiercedLibrarian Posts: 7 Member
    LOVE IT!
    "Bless your heart.." the Southern equivalent of STFU:)
    Thanks for the serious giggle.
  • kowajenn
    kowajenn Posts: 274 Member
    Are people really flipping over 27 pounds or is your counter inaccurate?
  • StheK
    StheK Posts: 443 Member
    I hate the comments too. Pretty much anything other than, "hey, you look good!" is unwelcome. I also hate how some people treat me differently. I am really struggling to not let it all sabotage my efforts so far. It's one thing to know that you should be flattered and that they are out of line, but it's another to realize that emotionally.
  • _EndGame_
    _EndGame_ Posts: 770 Member
    Why can't people mind their own business. My boss had to defend me the other day because someone said I could not have lost all the weight by not eating and exercising. He swore I had to have had surgery. She told him I couldn't have had because I had not missed a day of work. I am so sick of hearing that I am too skinny I need to gain weight. This coming from people who I don't even know. I have been told they are going to buy me a sack of potatoes so I will gain I look like a Q tip. I am the one that lost the weight with the help of no one. it was my diet my exercise plan and its my success. I have had a lot of positive comments but it gets tiring to constantly be told negative things especially from people that need to do what I have done. The benefits have been great no more medications with all the bad that comes with them. A new wardrobe and self esteem.

    You're happy with your results and you worked hard to achieve them. Why should you care what negative BS other people have to say?

    Clearly they're jealous of your success.
  • trevebyn
    trevebyn Posts: 26 Member
    If you had had surgery, so what? It's none of their business. If you feel good and are healthy thats all that matters.

    Love the comment of 'bless you'
  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
    Are people really flipping over 27 pounds or is your counter inaccurate?

    27 pounds is pretty significant. At my highest weight, I was only about 20 pounds overweight, yet it made a MAJOR difference in my appearance. Just because some people don't start out "obese" doesn't mean their results don't have a significant impact in their appearance or that they have any less reason to be proud of their accomplishments.
  • janegalt37
    janegalt37 Posts: 270 Member
    People are weird. And too often act like 15 year old girls. Just remember ** it will eventually stop!**
    You're looking svelte and sexy. You're obviously healthy and happy. And you can still enjoy your favorite foods. As soon as people get used to that, they'll revert to their normal, broadly catty selves instead of their temporarily specific catty selves.

    No worries!

    Plus, you've always got us, hon. :flowerforyou: :drinker:
  • HeidiCooksSupper
    HeidiCooksSupper Posts: 3,839 Member
    Pity the poor fools. They are beneath contempt.
  • LoreleiEvil
    LoreleiEvil Posts: 65 Member

    "Bless your heart.." the Southern equivalent of STFU:)

    This would make an awesome Woot shirt design.
  • britfout
    britfout Posts: 86 Member
    That happened to me last time I lost the weight (before I got pregnant again).

    But it was coworkers and customers that I knew. The comments were irritating but I think it's just the shock of such a huge drop in weight even though I was the same size before I got pregnant the first time... I guess people just expected me to stay big? SMH.

    Just brush it off, i'd rather have comments on how thin I am than people thinking i'm still pregnant.
  • kowajenn
    kowajenn Posts: 274 Member
    Are people really flipping over 27 pounds or is your counter inaccurate?

    27 pounds is pretty significant. At my highest weight, I was only about 20 pounds overweight, yet it made a MAJOR difference in my appearance. Just because some people don't start out "obese" doesn't mean their results don't have a significant impact in their appearance or that they have any less reason to be proud of their accomplishments.

    Point taken, but if someone starts at 20 or 30 pounds overweight, no one is going to assume they had surgery to lose it. When someone starts at 100 pounds overweight, surgery is the first assumption.
  • Rosplosion
    Rosplosion Posts: 739 Member
    If it was someone I didn't even know, I would tell them to STFU.

    If it was someone I knew being like that, I would pat them on the shoulder, give them the most condescending look I could muster, and say "Bless your heart, you poor thing. You really think that's how it works?" Then walk away before they could respond.

    Love you!
  • melinda189
    melinda189 Posts: 48
    Just agree w/them. then they won't have a comeback. they're just looking for someone to argue w/& every time u respond u give them what they want. Next time somebody says something about u having surgery just say you know what i can't hide it anymore you're right. i've been going to the dr every day during my lunch breaks to have weight loss surgery done- please don't tell anybody else. then just walk away. They're already talking about u behind ur back anyway- give them something good to run with!
  • p4ulmiller
    p4ulmiller Posts: 588 Member
    No one is jealous, they are just shocked at the change. There are so many misconceptions about weight loss and nutrition that people assume that unless you're eating salads for 3 years you cannot lose. And when they see someone successfully lose, especially if they are still enjoying food, they feel insecure about their own inability to manage their fitness.

    Yes!
  • Dixie2111
    Dixie2111 Posts: 30 Member
    Hi hello, please know that it's fear of failure that makes them nasty, theirs not yours; your's is not a failure its a story of success and they are the losers, not you, well no int their way anyhow! Well done - I bet you look fabulous! I'm trying to reverse type 2 diabetes and come off the metformin medication I've been on for the last four years and so far my glucose reading have improved and are very very good and although I have only lost just over a stone, I am very small at 4ft 10 so for me its like losing three! I get weird looks from my work colleagues and no one so far has asked me how I am doing it because they are all struggling with their own weights. I get filthy looks from one or two of the overweight women in the office since I have gone down two dress sizes, have boundless energy and look younger than ever for my 61 years, but I have a secret pal in myfitnesspal, So, don't let these people get you down sweetie...just look at what you have achieved and like me you have done it all on your own (well, with this wonderful site too haha!) You have given me hope and inspiration I can tell you. Well done and don't let the b's get you down! :flowerforyou:
  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
    Are people really flipping over 27 pounds or is your counter inaccurate?

    27 pounds is pretty significant. At my highest weight, I was only about 20 pounds overweight, yet it made a MAJOR difference in my appearance. Just because some people don't start out "obese" doesn't mean their results don't have a significant impact in their appearance or that they have any less reason to be proud of their accomplishments.

    Point taken, but if someone starts at 20 or 30 pounds overweight, no one is going to assume they had surgery to lose it. When someone starts at 100 pounds overweight, surgery is the first assumption.

    You're assuming that the general populace is educated enough about weight loss surgery to know that. They aren't. People are, generally, morons and will tend to assume someone took the easy way out as it's what much of the population would do themselves in the same situation.
  • alliemarie77
    alliemarie77 Posts: 378 Member
    Jealousy is a disease, and misery loves company....
    Keep your head up, and be proud of your own accomplishments.
    Next time someone says some thing ask them, "Jealous much?" Or give them a smile, and a wink and walk away.
  • Morninglory81
    Morninglory81 Posts: 1,190 Member
    Are people really flipping over 27 pounds or is your counter inaccurate?

    27 pounds is pretty significant. At my highest weight, I was only about 20 pounds overweight, yet it made a MAJOR difference in my appearance. Just because some people don't start out "obese" doesn't mean their results don't have a significant impact in their appearance or that they have any less reason to be proud of their accomplishments.

    Point taken, but if someone starts at 20 or 30 pounds overweight, no one is going to assume they had surgery to lose it. When someone starts at 100 pounds overweight, surgery is the first assumption.
    I am amazed at the way you are belittling the amazing accomplishment the op has made! And how can you say no one would assume surgery, do you know EVERYOnE?

    Op there is an adjustment period as others have stated. It takes time for people to see you as you are now and not as you were then.
  • TheFitHooker
    TheFitHooker Posts: 3,357 Member
    Yup I've heard it all myself. I have an uncle who hasn't seen me since I was at my biggest, he got on facebook and seen a photo of me and told my cousin I'm pretty good with photoshop. Really? There is no way I could photoshop myself on every photo lol. He finally realized I wasn't photoshopping when my mom started to also lose weight and that's his sister, she made comments of how I inspired her to better herself and he shut up.

    I've been accused of having surgery, been told there is no way I could not have loose skin for as much weight as I've lost, but I'm a poor girl, can't afford surgery.
  • itsjustdawn
    itsjustdawn Posts: 1,073 Member
    If it was someone I didn't even know, I would tell them to STFU.

    If it was someone I knew being like that, I would pat them on the shoulder, give them the most condescending look I could muster, and say "Bless your heart, you poor thing. You really think that's how it works?" Then walk away before they could respond.

    Dammit. I want to do this.
  • hannahpistolas
    hannahpistolas Posts: 290 Member
    "A wolf does not concern herself with the opinion of sheep."

    Take it, embrace it, live it.

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