11 Reasons You’re Failing To Lose Fat

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  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    Blocking jonnythan does not make his responses (blunt as they may be) any less true or his advice any less valid.

    @likeaslidingrock - I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling with so much right now, but I would suggest that you begin to log your food and exercise accurately and consistently so that you can truly see how many calories you are taking in each day, every day. Once you have been logging accurately for one or two months, you will then be able to use the reports available here on MFP to find an average intake that you can then make adjustments from. I think you will find that your inconsistent logging (you said yourself that you had stopped logging for at least a month) of what is actually an INCREASED caloric intake is the culprit for you weight loss stalling out.

    If, however, you find that your caloric intake is as low as you state it to be (after logging accurately and consistently for a month or two), and you are still not losing weight, a visit to a physician is in order to find the underlying condition that has your metabolism so low.
    correct, or incorrect, his approach is....pragmatically off.
  • LiminalAscendance
    LiminalAscendance Posts: 489 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    Well, I'm certainly not pro-jonnythan, but it does get rather old when someone consistently states they can't lose weight, and the only "evidence" they have is half-completed food diaries (not that those are even any real proof).

    Maybe there are lurkers that can benefit from the advice of the "naysayers," since it often appears that the primary recipient is just looking for an excuse.
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    Well, I'm certainly not pro-jonnythan, but it does get rather old when someone consistently states they can't lose weight, and the only "evidence" they have is half-completed food diaries (not that those are even any real proof).

    Maybe there are lurkers that can benefit from the advice of the "naysayers," since it often appears that the primary recipient is just looking for an excuse.
    It does get old. So we take it out on the random user of the day?
    Perhaps we should skip it and move on if we're not in the mood to be politely, stubbornly supportive. People post here from a variety of life experiences. Jonnythan replies from HIS life experience. I see little evidence he considers where others are coming from in the slightest.
  • losingw8now
    losingw8now Posts: 105 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.


    You sure don't sound like you are trying to "help" - more like badger her and try to prove you are right by any means necessary.
    Weight loss is journey that is different for everyone. I strongly believe in certain types of diets that have worked well for me in the past, but some other people they didn't work for. Some made me feel great while they made others feel so bad they went to a different plan.
    Our bodies are all different and respond differently to medicines and different foods. Understanding and acknowledging that what works for some does not mean it will work for all will go a long way towards making comments that "help" others rather than bully them!!!
  • gingabebe
    gingabebe Posts: 165 Member
    likeaslidingrock deactivated their account

    Frustrating. If you see this please come back, there are people on MFP who don't see the world in all black or white. Send me a FR and I'll introduce to you to some great MFP'ers that I have as friends who are supportive.

    I have suffered from anxiety attacks for years and know what it takes to come forward and post on these sites. Some people on here adhere to the tough love method, but I think (most of them) have people's best interests in mind, they just go about it in funny ways and johnnythan was right in that the forums are not the best place for you to get help. The internet makes everyone braver, more outspoken, and some just plain rude but they would run if you said boo to them face to face!
  • Tobi1013
    Tobi1013 Posts: 732 Member
    This was the reply after jonnythan advised likeaslidingrock to log consistently and accurately after having a look at her diary:
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation, and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    The fact of the matter is that without an accurate daily log, none of us can provide her with any solid advice other than to log consistenetly and accurately. She seems unwilling to acknowledge that her failure to log her food accurately is likely keeping her from being successful because she has increased her intake and doesn't know it.
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    I wish blocking people made what they said somehow less correct. If only...

    Sorry, that was mean. Let's all strive to be more enabling and hand holdy and less honest.
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    I wish blocking people made what they said somehow less correct. If only...

    Sorry, that was mean. Let's all strive to be more enabling and hand holdy and less honest.
    Yes, badgering strangers on the internet is so admirable.
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    I wish blocking people made what they said somehow less correct. If only...

    Sorry, that was mean. Let's all strive to be more enabling and hand holdy and less honest.
    Yes, badgering strangers on the internet is so admirable.

    I wasn't aware anyone here was striving to be 'admirable'.

    It's certainly not one of my priorities at least.
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    I wish blocking people made what they said somehow less correct. If only...

    Sorry, that was mean. Let's all strive to be more enabling and hand holdy and less honest.
    Yes, badgering strangers on the internet is so admirable.

    I wasn't aware anyone here was striving to be 'admirable'.
    Or helpful in many cases, it seems. Just..."better", and "right".
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    I wish blocking people made what they said somehow less correct. If only...

    Sorry, that was mean. Let's all strive to be more enabling and hand holdy and less honest.
    Yes, badgering strangers on the internet is so admirable.

    I wasn't aware anyone here was striving to be 'admirable'.
    Or helpful, it seems in many cases. Just...better, and "right".

    I happen to find many people who are accused of badgering very helpful.

    By contrast I find those who insist that things must be stated nicer or with some degree of handholding, as if we aren't all adults and must be cuddled when told the truth, to be very unhelpful.
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    I wish blocking people made what they said somehow less correct. If only...

    Sorry, that was mean. Let's all strive to be more enabling and hand holdy and less honest.
    Yes, badgering strangers on the internet is so admirable.

    I wasn't aware anyone here was striving to be 'admirable'.
    Or helpful, it seems in many cases. Just...better, and "right".

    I happen to find many people who are accused of badgering very helpful.
    I'm sure you do.

    I'm done here.

    but for the sake of tuesday levity:

    http://www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/badgers
  • RivenV
    RivenV Posts: 1,667 Member
    Appreciate the interesting article. Spent some time reading other articles there. Feel like I learned some things.
  • losingw8now
    losingw8now Posts: 105 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    I wish blocking people made what they said somehow less correct. If only...

    Sorry, that was mean. Let's all strive to be more enabling and hand holdy and less honest.
    Yes, badgering strangers on the internet is so admirable.

    I wasn't aware anyone here was striving to be 'admirable'.

    It's certainly not one of my priorities at least.

    Then you have achieved it!! These forums are to help each other out - which is admirable. Putting them down for asking for help is not!!
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    I wish blocking people made what they said somehow less correct. If only...

    Sorry, that was mean. Let's all strive to be more enabling and hand holdy and less honest.
    Yes, badgering strangers on the internet is so admirable.

    I wasn't aware anyone here was striving to be 'admirable'.

    It's certainly not one of my priorities at least.

    Then you have achieved it!! These forums are to help each other out - which is admirable. Putting them down for asking for help is not!!

    It's always nice to have my achievements acknowledged.
  • magerum
    magerum Posts: 12,589 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    I wish blocking people made what they said somehow less correct. If only...

    Sorry, that was mean. Let's all strive to be more enabling and hand holdy and less honest.
    Yes, badgering strangers on the internet is so admirable.

    I wasn't aware anyone here was striving to be 'admirable'.

    It's certainly not one of my priorities at least.

    Then you have achieved it!! These forums are to help each other out - which is admirable. Putting them down for asking for help is not!!

    It's always nice to have my achievements acknowledged.

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  • bethedney
    bethedney Posts: 2 Member
    Are you drinking enough water? (You need to drink between 1/2 -1 oz per pound of your ideal weight)
    Also calorie cycling might help your situation. One day a week have what you want to eat. Just make sure you don't forget the water and exercise that day.
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    I wish blocking people made what they said somehow less correct. If only...

    Sorry, that was mean. Let's all strive to be more enabling and hand holdy and less honest.
    Yes, badgering strangers on the internet is so admirable.

    I wasn't aware anyone here was striving to be 'admirable'.

    It's certainly not one of my priorities at least.

    Then you have achieved it!! These forums are to help each other out - which is admirable. Putting them down for asking for help is not!!

    Is that truly the only reason these forums exist? No mention of education or betterment or sharing of ideas (to name just a few of dozens of other possibilities)? Just a vague "to help each other out"?

    If that's truly the case, I need to find a different forum in which to post.
  • magerum
    magerum Posts: 12,589 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    I wish blocking people made what they said somehow less correct. If only...

    Sorry, that was mean. Let's all strive to be more enabling and hand holdy and less honest.
    Yes, badgering strangers on the internet is so admirable.

    I wasn't aware anyone here was striving to be 'admirable'.

    It's certainly not one of my priorities at least.

    Then you have achieved it!! These forums are to help each other out - which is admirable. Putting them down for asking for help is not!!

    Is that truly the only reason these forums exist? No mention of education or betterment or sharing of ideas (to name just a few of dozens of other possibilities)? Just a vague "to help each other out"?

    If that's truly the case, I need to find a different forum in which to post.

    We're all here for the same reason!
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    I wish blocking people made what they said somehow less correct. If only...

    Sorry, that was mean. Let's all strive to be more enabling and hand holdy and less honest.
    Yes, badgering strangers on the internet is so admirable.

    I wasn't aware anyone here was striving to be 'admirable'.

    It's certainly not one of my priorities at least.

    Then you have achieved it!! These forums are to help each other out - which is admirable. Putting them down for asking for help is not!!

    Is that truly the only reason these forums exist? No mention of education or betterment or sharing of ideas (to name just a few of dozens of other possibilities)? Just a vague "to help each other out"?

    If that's truly the case, I need to find a different forum in which to post.

    We're all here for the same reason!

    Dancing badgers?
  • RivenV
    RivenV Posts: 1,667 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    I wish blocking people made what they said somehow less correct. If only...

    Sorry, that was mean. Let's all strive to be more enabling and hand holdy and less honest.
    Yes, badgering strangers on the internet is so admirable.

    I wasn't aware anyone here was striving to be 'admirable'.

    It's certainly not one of my priorities at least.

    Then you have achieved it!! These forums are to help each other out - which is admirable. Putting them down for asking for help is not!!

    Is that truly the only reason these forums exist? No mention of education or betterment or sharing of ideas (to name just a few of dozens of other possibilities)? Just a vague "to help each other out"?

    If that's truly the case, I need to find a different forum in which to post.

    We're all here for the same reason!

    We're all here for the same different reasons! :P
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member

    We're all here for the same reason!

    Dancing badgers?
    yes
  • gingabebe
    gingabebe Posts: 165 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    I wish blocking people made what they said somehow less correct. If only...

    Sorry, that was mean. Let's all strive to be more enabling and hand holdy and less honest.
    Yes, badgering strangers on the internet is so admirable.

    I wasn't aware anyone here was striving to be 'admirable'.
    Or helpful, it seems in many cases. Just...better, and "right".

    I happen to find many people who are accused of badgering very helpful.

    By contrast I find those who insist that things must be stated nicer or with some degree of handholding, as if we aren't all adults and must be cuddled when told the truth, to be very unhelpful.

    Well bless your little heart. Let me badger to you to show some compassion.
    Obviously the person we are talking about has more issues than weight, instead of backing off some people turn into wolves on here. Dancing badgers are so much nicer. Everyone is different, and everyone learns and comes to realizations differently. Can't we all just get along? I wish I knew how to do gif's, imagine an image of a dancing badger and big wolf doing the cha cha here. :happy:
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    I believe I do count calories with a good approximation

    No, you don't. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining of zero progress.
    and I know I'm eating much less than moths ago, when I was actually losing weight and having the same life, same workout. But I guess these are useless information, if I can't prove it with an accurate daily log on My Fitness Pal.

    By all means, continue with the "I'm doing everything right and still not losing" attitude that's been so successful for you. Admitting you messed up would be tough on the ego, so don't bother. Just tell yourself we're all wrong and stupid and Just Don't Understand and continue to fail.

    Don't worry, my ego is doing great. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for the past 25 years. I haven't left the house for 4 years (or maybe 5). I've never had friends and my parents pay for the food I eat and weight. I'm not doing anything right. Nothing at all. I'm the stupid one, I'm actually much worse than that: I'm weird, broken and a loser. There are so many wrong things with me. You have no idea how I regret writing here, I never write anywhere and don't talk to anyone, execpt my sister, because I have social anxiety and I'm sure I'll regret this response.
    Block jonnythan and be done with it.

    I wish blocking people made what they said somehow less correct. If only...

    Sorry, that was mean. Let's all strive to be more enabling and hand holdy and less honest.
    Yes, badgering strangers on the internet is so admirable.

    I wasn't aware anyone here was striving to be 'admirable'.
    Or helpful, it seems in many cases. Just...better, and "right".

    I happen to find many people who are accused of badgering very helpful.

    By contrast I find those who insist that things must be stated nicer or with some degree of handholding, as if we aren't all adults and must be cuddled when told the truth, to be very unhelpful.

    Well bless your little heart. Let me badger to you to show some compassion.
    Obviously the person we are talking about has more issues than weight, instead of backing off some people turn into wolves on here. Dancing badgers are so much nicer. Everyone is different, and everyone learns and comes to realizations differently. Can't we all just get along? I wish I knew how to do gif's, imagine an image of a dancing badger and big wolf doing the cha cha here. :happy:

    Be my guest. I would like to forewarn you that I don't ask questions about my intake (I actually picked a number then then lowered/raised it until I found a point that worked for me on a consistent basis) I don't overestimate my burns, and I lose weight/inches on a consistent basis. When I do ask for advice I don't argue with the people who give it to me, but rather I take it in the spirit it was given and don't imagine tones that I can't hear or motives that I can't prove. Even if I don't take the advice I appreciate what has been given and am grateful for every person who takes time out to answer my question. Most of the advice I've received here hasn't been 'nice' or 'kind' but it's been honest, to the point, and based not in someone's desire to make me happy/tell me what I want to hear, but to tell me what I need to hear.

    it isn't the well meaning "OMG you guise are so meannn" people on MFP who helped me get on and then stay on track, it's the people who tell me the simple truth who have done so.

    With that in mind if you think you have something to badger me about, go for it.
  • __Di__
    __Di__ Posts: 1,659 Member
    I've been eating around 900 calories (sometimes less) for almost a month, I've done 40 minutes (sometimes up to an hour) of stationary bike every morning before breakfast and in the last week I've done 4 days of the 30 day shred.
    I'm also 40 kg overweight.
    Haven't lost a pound. So, I guess I'm still eating too much. Will 800 calories do it?

    Actually, you aren't eating enough...

    lol you didn't read that article did you.

    On 900 calories you will lose weight, you are miscalculating your intake.
  • whitebalance
    whitebalance Posts: 1,654 Member
    Not in for thread drama, just in because I want to save the link in my recent posts for future citation. Thanks to the OP for posting! :flowerforyou:
  • __Di__
    __Di__ Posts: 1,659 Member
    What a silly thing to write. Surely if your using My Fitness it tells you when you complete your diary that your consuming to few calories. By eating such a minimal amount your actually putting your body into starvation mode which is why your probably putting on weight. Before you start dieting maybe you should do research rather than asking silly questions. Faddy diets don't help all you need to acheive the best results is a well balanced nutrional and exercise plan.

    you don't put on weight by eating too little, it is against the laws of physics.
  • NavyKnightAh13
    NavyKnightAh13 Posts: 1,394 Member
    dancing badgers I saw.....
  • rm7161
    rm7161 Posts: 505
    You people are exactly as I remember you months ago. So cute.

    Thanks for the article... exactly my experience. Me, my hypothyroid and my Mirena IUD... still lost weight being meticulous about measuring and counting calories, and simply exercising more.

    I went on maintenance during the summer, had a blast dating new people who probably would have never taken a second look at me when I was 70 lbs heavier, and back again to get to goal weight.

    **wave**
  • sk_pirate
    sk_pirate Posts: 282 Member
    In for the calolories