Wish people would just leave me alone!!

Just brush it off. It's common actually.

I honestly don't listen anymore lol

Also keep in mind the only person that can sabotage you is yourself, no one esle unless they tie you down and shove food down your throat!

Sharon,

You are absolutely beautiful and perfect the way you are. Don't ever let anyone tell you different.

However, I know where you are coming from. When I lost all my weight before, people told me I was too thin. Now that I've dropped most of the weight I gained back, people are telling me I'm skinny. It really irritates the heck out of me because it's my journey and my process and I get to say when I've reached my goal. Maybe I look thin to them because they have some pounds to lose. :laugh: :ohwell:

How about this: my grandpa, who was 5 ft 5 in tall and 135 pounds most of his entire life, used to say, "I'm right for my weight and tall for my height." Dare you to try that sometime. Bet that would make those jealous people back off. :bigsmile:

Hang in there in be proud of your accomplishment.

Be PROUD of what you are doing for your body.
Dont listen to them, this sounds fairly common around, people cant handle the change and that you are doing it, it intimidates them perhaps, and it might be a deep down reaction. People puh!

you look great. I would listen to yourself and not other people.others can always say anything but you can chose to ignore it.

I hate compliments, too. Jerks!

I've had this from my younger sister (who is used to be the thin sister) and from my elderly neighbours. One colleague did say I needed to stop but most have said nothing but positive things. My sister is trying to tell me that aiming for a BMI of 22 is too low at 45 and you need to have the extra lbs as you get older. I think she's just trying to justify her extra lbs.

I've had this from my younger sister (who is used to be the thin sister) and from my elderly neighbours. One colleague did say I needed to stop but most have said nothing but positive things. My sister is trying to tell me that aiming for a BMI of 22 is too low at 45 and you need to have the extra lbs as you get older. I think she's just trying to justify her extra lbs.

LOL. I have told some geriatric patients that I would like to see a few extra pounds on them so when they are sick they have a few pounds of "backup padding" to help carry them through an illness. Is she thinking you are geriatric? I'll be 45 next year - I sure hope not! 22 is a pretty tight BMI IMO but why is it not okay at 45? Seriously. Do it. Show her. She's just justifying some issue of her own.

I have read through the comments here, and notice that it is a common theme! I have had people say the same to me as well, my sisters ex-boyfriend one time said that "if I got any skinnier, I would fall through the cracks in the sidewalks" (and that was 10 pounds ago!) He is overweight and so are the women he dates (including my sister), so his perception of an average normal weight is clearly different than mine.

My response to him, and I would encourage some of you to say the same, was that I was not doing this to be "skinny," that it was to be healthy! I want to be healthy to live a long life and be active for my future children. He never said anything back to me after that response!

I think part of it could be that in society today, more and more people are overweight. I challenge you to go to the mall or the movies some day and take a look around. Being over weight is the new normal. With fast food being so convenient and cheap, and with all of the technology that allows people to be lazy, society is basically encouraging people to become overweight. Skip the gym, stay home and order pizza instead.. you can even save your order online for 'fast' re-ordering! Because of this, people that are actually in a healthy range seem really skinny. A lot of people on here have mentioned perception, and I completely agree. Not only their perception of you has been larger and now you are getting smaller, but their perception of what is an AVERAGE person is warped. We are now seen as below average, even though in our eyes we are merely in the healthy range.

Just blow off their condescending comments.. you will live a much happier and longer life than them because you are conscious of your health!

My mom was always 5'4", and maintained a weight of 105#'s. She ate normal healthy meals, was active, and wasn't afraid of indulging every now and then. She had discipline. She looked good--not like a stick.

Do these people have a little extra weight they need to lose themselves? Some people are just haters. If you've passed them by in getting to your goal, they may be feeling jealous. Ignore it--your weight loss is new to them. Hopefully they'll get used to the new you and stop bringing it up all the time. If there is one person in particular who won't let up, have a serious talk with them. You're on track, you've got goals; you're doing great!

I will admit, at first I loved getting attention from family & friends about my weight loss. I even started getting complements from strangers, for example people that work at the gym I go to or workers at the grocery store I shop at. But now these family, friends & strangers are now telling me Im to skinny. I mean they won't shut up!! They make comments like your so tiny, your going to blow away, you need to eat something. I feel like they are trying to sabotage me. I am no where near too skinny. Im 5'4 & 123 pounds. A healthy weight range for someone my height can be anywhere between 105 - 135. And even that can very depending on what website you go to. I just wish people would leave me alone already!!

Ugg vent over

OMG lol, don't listen to them!! I am currently 142lbs and I started at 155lbs on here (I was actually 158lbs at biggest) and I am the same height as you 5'4". My goal is 125 but if I can get to 120-123ish that would be amazing! I feel for you because I know the way my friends and family and coworkers are, they will tell you how good you look when your losing but the closer you get to your goal they will think your too thin or in my case my sis will come to me saying shes worried about me... lol. About 7 years ago I got to 127 and this happened and I know it will happen again...sooo weird because it's not too thin, it's skinny but not TOO THIN.
Again don't listen to them, good on ya for getting there girl!

Isn't it funny how there is a fuzzy line between "Oh My God...you look great and have lost a lot of weight" (said with a smile) and then the "Um...you are going to blow away...eat a cheeseburger" (said with a wrinkled brow)................I think the biggest thing is that if people have seen us heavy for a while then when we no longer carry that weight we do look "too thin" because in their mind's eye they see what we used to be. I hope to come up with a standard response to use....maybe someone will help us find a good reply In the meantime, smile because they are really acknowledging what you've worked so hard for.....

^ totally! And because they haven't seen us or what we've done every day for the past few months, they assume we did something drastic or unhealthy to get slimmer. I've simply responded by saying I'm almost to my goal, and my doctor says I could stand to go a little further with the weight loss (truth) and that usually ends it. I know some are jealous of my success and hate the reminder when they see it that it's time they do something about their health as well.

You're looking fantastic...keep doing what you're doing.

I get similar comments. I'm 5'4" and average between 119-122. I hear "I hope you're not still trying to lose." Of course at this point I'm not, my goal is to lower my bf% not my weight.