Polite response to a situation at the gym...Help
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I am normally a polite but out spoken person, just a little confused on how to deal with a particular situation that I keep running into at my Gym.
When I am strength training, I use certain machines. I really like the thigh (the one you squeeze and hip-abductor machine, I understand sharing and am normally patient, BUT whenever I go lately there is this one woman who takes up the machine for at least 30 mins. She just sits there texting and moving 10lbs non-stop. She is probably a little overweight, with large (not toned) thighs. I work on the machine with 180lbs. and am over and done very quickly (high weight/low rep). How would you guys handle the situation? I do not want to be rude and say "obviously this is not helping try doing sets with a heavier weight", ok maybe part of me wants to be rude. She is aware people are waiting for the machine and just has no regard for them. I have thought about asking if I could jump on for a few minutes, but I do not think that would go over well. Any ideas? I have already had 3 times I had to skip the machine because she was on it my whole workout.
Any ideas to get to use the machine with out being a total B****.
When I am strength training, I use certain machines. I really like the thigh (the one you squeeze and hip-abductor machine, I understand sharing and am normally patient, BUT whenever I go lately there is this one woman who takes up the machine for at least 30 mins. She just sits there texting and moving 10lbs non-stop. She is probably a little overweight, with large (not toned) thighs. I work on the machine with 180lbs. and am over and done very quickly (high weight/low rep). How would you guys handle the situation? I do not want to be rude and say "obviously this is not helping try doing sets with a heavier weight", ok maybe part of me wants to be rude. She is aware people are waiting for the machine and just has no regard for them. I have thought about asking if I could jump on for a few minutes, but I do not think that would go over well. Any ideas? I have already had 3 times I had to skip the machine because she was on it my whole workout.
Any ideas to get to use the machine with out being a total B****.
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Do not make any comments about her appearance at all. Next time, smile and say "mind if I work in with you?" That is all.0
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She is aware people are waiting for the machine and just has no regard for them.
Why are you assuming she can read your mind?
Just ask her - politely, and with a smile - if you can work/share with her.0 -
Don't be rude. But I see no harm in being friendly and asking if you mind if you could have just a few minutes to share the machine with her. If she has a problem with that, then I would discuss it with one of the managers at the gym (trainers/people at the desk, etc.)
There's no reason why someone should be allowed to take a piece of weight equipment for 30 minutes straight without letting someone else use it.0 -
As a poster said above, don't make comment on her appearance and just ask if you can squeeze a set while she rests.
There is no reason she would be using the machine for 30 minutes non stop anyways. It ain't a treadmill afterall lol0 -
Usually guys just say "how many more sets do you have?"
It's code for "hurry the f*k up" lol0 -
Yeah I would just ask. Sounds like you're making it a bigger deal in your head than she probably is even aware of. People do that with the squat racks all the time. Just gotta say something!
Oh and ps- I don't think I would recommend doing high weights on the abductor. That's a spot on a ladies body you really don't want to make bigger with muscle. I usually do 50 lbs 20X3.0 -
Usually guys just say "how many more sets do you have?"
It's code for "hurry the f*k up" lol
This!0 -
Thanks, I will try asking next time. I sorta did the first time after 20 mins. I asked how many more sets she had and if I could jump on when she was done. She just looked at me with a dirty look and kept texting. Asking this way always works with the teens that seem to play with the machines, but it didn't with her.0
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walk away, & go do squats,deadlifts, & lunges:D0
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Do not make any comments about her appearance at all. Next time, smile and say "mind if I work in with you?" That is all.
This.0 -
She has no doubt had to wait for her turn. I'd talk with the gym about getting another machine installed.
Either that, or change your schedule. She has her chosen workout... and you have yours!0 -
go at a different time..?0
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Usually guys just say "how many more sets do you have?"
It's code for "hurry the f*k up" lol
I'll have to remember that one lol0 -
Like was already said, just ask if you can work in a few sets. I have never been told no, and I have never told someone no. If she cops an attitude feel free to unload both barrels on her weight. :devil:
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Tell the supervisor of the gym that she hogs the machine. Gyms usually have rules about such stuff.0
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I too would politely ask if you could use the machine for a few minutes if she's been on it a while. Let her know you'll let her back on quickly. I def would not criticize her workout.0
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Usually guys just say "how many more sets do you have?"
It's code for "hurry the f*k up" lol
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I agree with everyone...just politely ask if you can work in your sets. She probably is totally oblivious to people waiting.0
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If this is a membership gym rather than a public one, I would be inclined to mention her inactivity to one of the staff. She might have all day to play at exercise but the equipment is for all. Let someone else take any flack. Sounds as if she needs a review.
hope you get this resolved soon0 -
Why the **** is she texting at the gym anyways .. I would be pissed.0
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walk away, & go do squats,deadlifts, & lunges:D
^^^ THIS WORKS ^^^0 -
walk away, & go do squats,deadlifts, & lunges:D
Ditto.0 -
If this is a membership gym rather than a public one, I would be inclined to mention her inactivity to one of the staff. She might have all day to play at exercise but the equipment is for all. Let someone else take any flack. Sounds as if she needs a review.
hope you get this resolved soon
Yes it is membership. Thanks for all the reply's.0 -
I am normally a polite but out spoken person, just a little confused on how to deal with a particular situation that I keep running into at my Gym.
When I am strength training, I use certain machines. I really like the thigh (the one you squeeze and hip-abductor machine, I understand sharing and am normally patient, BUT whenever I go lately there is this one woman who takes up the machine for at least 30 mins. She just sits there texting and moving 10lbs non-stop. She is probably a little overweight, with large (not toned) thighs. I work on the machine with 180lbs. and am over and done very quickly (high weight/low rep). How would you guys handle the situation? I do not want to be rude and say "obviously this is not helping try doing sets with a heavier weight", ok maybe part of me wants to be rude. She is aware people are waiting for the machine and just has no regard for them. I have thought about asking if I could jump on for a few minutes, but I do not think that would go over well. Any ideas? I have already had 3 times I had to skip the machine because she was on it my whole workout.
Any ideas to get to use the machine with out being a total B****.
You could be passive like me and just do sumo deadlifts and "*kitten* to the grass" squats... those should clear up those muscle groups and then some 0 -
"There's a squat rack over there that you could text in. And do curls."0
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I don't really know what her weight or appearance has to do with the situation - so definitely don't mention it. Just ask if you can use the machine after her so she knows that you're waiting for it. If she is non responsive and still hogs the machine, talk to the management. (Though there's not much they do really, other than reinforce that she needs to mosey on along.)0
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So interesting that you include information about the size of her thighs and your thoughts that the machine must not be working for her. Has NOTHING AT ALL to do with the issue of her hogging the machine.
Yes, just find a polite way to ask if you can jump in...no need to try to "fat shame" her. That would be unnecessary and rude on your part.0 -
Thanks, I will try asking next time. I sorta did the first time after 20 mins. I asked how many more sets she had and if I could jump on when she was done. She just looked at me with a dirty look and kept texting. Asking this way always works with the teens that seem to play with the machines, but it didn't with her.
No one should be allowed to play on the machines this long. Why is there not trainers/managers walking the floor at your gym? Don't be afraid to discuss with them. It's true she may not know what she's doing and that gives the trainers an oppertunity to work with her and get her off the machine. That is insane amount of time.0 -
walk away, & go do squats,deadlifts, & lunges:D
^^^ THIS WORKS ^^^
QFT.0 -
She's on it for 30 minutes?
Yeah, regardless of any defenders she may have, that's beyond ridiculous. She needs to be educated (not necessarily by you, but someone).
Just ask if you can work in with her. If she's too dense to get the hint, you might need to sit down in front of her, and stare, until she finishes.0
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