Bad Dates!

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  • alliemarie77
    alliemarie77 Posts: 378 Member
    Ugh!! I think mine was the WORST!!!

    A friend decided to set me up on a date with one of her friends friends.... Apparently she would go out with this guy, but she was in a relationship at the moment. I only agreed because we were going to go on a double date.

    We get ready and her guy shows up. So she calls "the prize" and he says he is on the way. He was leaving his house right then.
    About 1.5 hrs later he shows up DRUNK as he'll.

    They introduce us an he hugs me. Ugh... I could smell the booze, and it smelled like he hadn't showered in days. Immediately I refused to leave the house with him like that. So we all sit down and start talking. All of a sudden he pushed me down and climbed on top of me trying to make out. I start yelling for them to get him off me, and knee him in the crotch. He is mad that I hurt him. I am mad that he was on top of me....

    I open the door and tell him to leave! My friend and her boyfriend are just sitting there looking at me. So I get the guys keys off the coffee table and tell him to get in the car, because I was going to have a good time. He gets in the passenger side, my friend and her boyfriend are in the back. I drive up to the nearest bar, and get him to Finnish his bottle that was in the floor board by pretending to take shots with him. My friend and her boyfriend are laughing and carrying on.

    I wait patiently, and toss the keys out his window. As he is fumbling to open his door to get the keys I run around the car and open his door. I find the keys and run back around. Before he could shut the door I push him out of the car and take off.

    I parked his car behind the bar and got out. My friend and her boyfriend wanted to take his car, but I kept the keys and told them we were walking home. I went around the building to make sure "the prize" was safe, and tossed his keys beside him.

    I walked to my house, and my friend and her boyfriend went to hers. I never seen "the prize" or my friend and her boyfriend again. With friends like that you don't need enemies!
  • beniky
    beniky Posts: 24 Member
    Many moons ago...2nd date with a guy...1st date was kinda blah - but gave it another shot. Between school, work and kids - I was jam packed schedule wise, but I rearranged a few things, called in a few favors and managed to get a free evening. We met for dinner, and he proceeded to "dazzle" me with a non-stop diatribe about his past year or 2 in life. Each time I attempted to comment or interject, he shushed me! Excuse me??? Finally after an hour in, I got a text from my classmate asking a question about a project we had completed and she was handing in at that point (hence the free evening), I politely excused myself to answer the text...he gave me a scolding look and proceeded to continue his dissertation on the wonders of his last doctors appointment. The classmate texted me back to let me know that she had handed the project in and all looked good to the professor. I looked back up in less than 2 seconds and he proceeded to lash out at me for being so rude as to even bring my cell on a date, and that I lacked even basic manners. The man actually lectured me for almost 10 minutes, before I could get the waitress to read my signal that I needed the bill so I could escape. He had the gall to look surprised when I said i was leaving. I firmly told him that I was missing class so I could fit the date in, and that text he scolded me about was for a project i had worked on for 4 months for a final grade - and I also had to leave because i wanted to call my kids before they went to bed and I wouldn't want to "offend" him any further by wishing them goodnight. I politely wished him well on his next dr's appointment and latest stool sample thingy (seriously???!!!), turned on my heel and exited...he caught up to me in the parking lot and asked for a goodnight kiss (huh???), he had the audacity to look floored when I choked and no thank you.

    2nd place would have to be the guy (30 mins into a first date) who offered to buy me an apartment in the city - so he could visit me anytime he wanted...it took me second for me to wrap my brain around that one...and to realize he was dead serious. Then in case I didn't catch on fast enough...he proceeded to detail everything he would expect from me should he "fund my relocation". I stood up, placed my napkin on table, said "Thank you for the date"...and walked out of the restaurant. Again - he had the gall to call up and ask for a 2nd date....(again...seriously!!???)....
  • Beckboo0912
    Beckboo0912 Posts: 447 Member
    Oh man! I love them and mine aren't nearly as bad, but I'll tell anyway. I went out with this guy a few months ago and he gave me directions, from the exit ramp of the mall even though I said I had a gps. So I followed his directions from the exit ramp and got lost. I put the address into my gps and found out where I went wrong, texting him that I would be a few minutes late, that I had gotten lost. He called yelling at me that with his directions I shouldn't have gotten lost. When I got there he got out of his car not mentioning his pictures were a few years ago, 30lbs lighter and more hair. Not that it matters but be up front. Then while sitting at the bar he keeps going on and berating me for not knowing which exit he was talking about. At the end he goes the least I can do is pay for everything since I won't be seeing you again...I insisted. The next day I got a message from him about how sorry he was things didn't work out better but I should have followed his directions better it would have been a better date...yup buddy that's why it went wrong.:noway:
  • Adw7677
    Adw7677 Posts: 201 Member
    i prefer raisins over dates.

    LMAO! That's awesome.
  • Adw7677
    Adw7677 Posts: 201 Member
    Oh man! I love them and mine aren't nearly as bad, but I'll tell anyway. I went out with this guy a few months ago and he gave me directions, from the exit ramp of the mall even though I said I had a gps. So I followed his directions from the exit ramp and got lost. I put the address into my gps and found out where I went wrong, texting him that I would be a few minutes late, that I had gotten lost. He called yelling at me that with his directions I shouldn't have gotten lost. When I got there he got out of his car not mentioning his pictures were a few years ago, 30lbs lighter and more hair. Not that it matters but be up front. Then while sitting at the bar he keeps going on and berating me for not knowing which exit he was talking about. At the end he goes the least I can do is pay for everything since I won't be seeing you again...I insisted. The next day I got a message from him about how sorry he was things didn't work out better but I should have followed his directions better it would have been a better date...yup buddy that's why it went wrong.:noway:

    WOW!!!!! Good thing you found out on Day 1! You can thank him for not being fake! :tongue:
  • Had a guy pick me up 3 hours late (11PM) in his grandma's car. He told me he wanted to get tacos so we drove around looking for a spot and ended up at a Taco Bell drive through, where he ordered 2 bean burritos (and didn't ask if I wanted anything)... He then parked in a bank parking lot, ate his burritos, leaned over me and pulled the handle on my car seat to make me drop back where he tried to climb on me and make out with me, complete with burrito/onion breath.

    I protested and he took me home, what a douche.
    Going to be hard to top that!
  • Step 1: Meet date at set location
    Step 2: Get super drunk and go to Perkins at 3 am
    Step 3: Let your date drive your car and he backs into another car
    Step 4: Finally get back to your place to "hang out" and date pukes all over the floor from being so drunk
    Step 5: Marry said "bad date" 4 years later (still married 15 years) :laugh:

    What can I say, I know how to pick them and I believe in 2nd chances for those that make me laugh.
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    One guy, whom I had already been out with once, came to my house to have lunch and watch a movie. I really liked him, so I wasn't trying to jump into bed with him right away. We were standing in the hallway making out, and apparently "he" was ready to jump into bed. I was wearing yoga pants and flip flops, and he was wearing shorts. While he was leaning into me, I felt something wet plop on top of my right foot. I pretended not to notice, because I didn't know what to say, but I was freaking out a little as I felt it soaking into the bottom of my pants. When I said something about him changing before he went to work, he asked why, and I was dumbfounded, so I didn't say anything. That was the last time I heard from him.

    ETA that my ex had come in earlier while we were eating, because he had a habit of coming in without notice for the first few months. That could very well be why I never heard from him again, and not the embarrassment of coming early to the party. :ohwell:
  • digitalbill
    digitalbill Posts: 1,410 Member
    I went on a blind date with this girl. She attended Palm Beach Atlantic College (Christian College) and, the date started off nice enough.
    I think I was 19 at the time so, still pretty stupid.
    Anyway, we had dinner and then ice cream and she decided she wanted to go for a moonlight walk on the beach.
    I parked and she grabbed the towel from my back seat.
    Obviously I am thinking this is going to be a REALLY good first date.
    So, we walked down the beach and it was getting really secluded. Away from any people, hotels, ect. I stopped to take off my shoes (this is Florida) when she suddenly totally and completly flipped out. I mean, she was full on terrified of me. I tried to calm her down and asked her what was wrong. She started to cry and shake and begging me not to rape her.
    I promised I wouldn't touch her at all and lets just go back to the car and I would take her home.
    She stayed about 20 feet behind me the entire time, just crying her eyes out.
    We finally got to my car and she wouldn't get in it.
    I finally put my keys on the hood and said "Look, just drive the car home. leave the keys under the seat. I will catch a ride and get it later".
    Somehow that convinced her enough to let me drive her home.
    We got to her dorm and she bolted out of the car.
    I reached over, closed the door and drove away as fast as I could.

    Looking back, She might have had some issues I was not aware of.
  • bluesy8899
    bluesy8899 Posts: 68 Member
    While this was not a date, it made a great story for friends, and now for my MFP friends. I arranged to meet a tutor at a local restaurant. He showed up and I pulled out my papers and assignments to get started. He excused himself to go get something to eat, which is fine, we are at a restaurant. He comes back with soup, sandwich and a cinnamon roll. As he begins to eat, I start asking the questions I had about my subject. He answers me first with his mouth full, and then with food falling out of his mouth. He tucks a napkin into the top of his shirt and continues to eat large bites of the tuna salad sandwich and talks to me, with tuna salad falling onto the napkin and his shirt. Big gobs of it falling out of his mouth and his shirt and napkin are stained and greasy. I'm becoming more horrified by the moment as are people around us. Then I realize that people think we are on a date, that I was WITH him. He has to move to a chair at the end of the booth as he was uncomfortable, and as he does this, a part of his sweater rides up his gut. He is sitting there with his stomach hanging out and a greasy, stained sweated bunched up, continuing to dig into that cinnamon roll. I gathered my things and thanked him for his time. I still shudder whenever I drive by that restaurant.
  • AverageUkDude
    AverageUkDude Posts: 371 Member
    I had met this guy at a bar and we were going to go for coffee afterwards.
    I had my car with me so I offered to drive us.
    On our way I got a flat tire. I thought men liked cars and doing these types of things...apparently not this guy!
    I changed the tire while he sat in the car the entire time.. he never offered to help or to see if I was ok!!
    When I was done I got back in the car, started it and told him to get out. I made him walk home!

    I went out on a date with a girl, and she didn't bring me a ready made sandwich or wash the dishes, I thought women liked to do these things. Made her walk home.
  • Beckboo0912
    Beckboo0912 Posts: 447 Member
    Step 1: Meet date at set location
    Step 2: Get super drunk and go to Perkins at 3 am
    Step 3: Let your date drive your car and he backs into another car
    Step 4: Finally get back to your place to "hang out" and date pukes all over the floor from being so drunk
    Step 5: Marry said "bad date" 4 years later (still married 15 years) :laugh:

    What can I say, I know how to pick them and I believe in 2nd chances for those that make me laugh.

    I will say my friend had a terrible first date. The guy got so drunk he couldn't tell her how to get home, she had to drive his truck and he threw up in the truck. They finally made it to his house and as she was waiting for her ride he asked her to fold his laundry on the couch. They got married 4/13/14...she is also my sister in law now and have been together for 9 years.
  • Sierra_christine89
    Sierra_christine89 Posts: 156 Member
    Wow..what a loser.
    I'm apologizing for the idiot, I'm SO sorry you had to go through that torture..haha
    So, how much shorter was he anyways?
    Better luck with future dates lmao
  • SkimFlatWhite68
    SkimFlatWhite68 Posts: 1,254 Member
    I've had plenty of bad dates. One that pops into mind was a few years ago.

    A nice (so I thought) man asked me out for dinner to an expensive restaurant. I got really dressed up and he was wearing jeans and a t-shirt. That should have been my first clue. Conversation over dinner was BORING, I did contemplate leaving half way through... Then when the bill came, he didn't have enough money and no credit card, which ended up with me paying for the entire dinner. Of course, by the end of the dinner I had worked out that I wasn't really into him, and if I'd known I was going to be down $200 I would have left after the entree...
    THEN he rang me the next morning and said he had such a great time and really had feelings for me and asked me out again.
    Ah, no.
  • moonmistmm
    moonmistmm Posts: 178 Member
    So I asked out a friend of a friend after I thought we hit it off at a party. My friend warns me that he broke up with his ex a couple months ago. But I figure, how bad can it be? We text back and forth before the date and he even suggests that I come visit him that summer during his internship in Seattle (this five months away). I'm excited, he must like me, right?

    We met at his apartment (I had to drive to his college) and then went out to dinner. We talked about a couple mutual friends and got along well. There is minor mention of his ex, who dropped out of NYU to work on her start up. But we also talk about things a little into the future, and how because he is Catholic, he might wait until marriage. Then we go back to his apartment to watch a movie. We cuddle and eventually start making out during the movie. His hand is sliding mine towards his crotch. After a few seconds of this, I pull away and explain that I don't know him well enough yet. I also find it odd for someone 'waiting until marriage' to move this quickly.

    He soon apologies and tears up, explaining that he misses his ex. He doesn't think can do this. So much for this being a good date!

    We did part on good terms, but I was disappointed. :(
  • pobalita
    pobalita Posts: 741 Member
    I met him from an online site. He told me he was 45. When I showed up to meet him I thought "man, this guy is in bad shape for 45." Then he proceeded to tell me that he is 55 "but all his friends say he looks younger". As we were talking, there was something off-putting about him but i couldn't tell exactly what it was -- until he leaned over and said "I like it when girls call me Daddy." At that point, I was done - date over.

    When I got home, I searched his name online and his picture came up on the registered sex offenders list. He was a convicted pedophile and had served time in prison for it.

    I had another date where the guy who showed up had no front teeth. As hard as I tried to ignore it, I couldn't stop staring, nor did I want to kiss him.

    Not a bad date but I am not even sure that the last guy I went out with was the same guy as in his profile picture. The one that showed up was much older, heavier, and balder. I still have the original profile picture he sent me and and another from after we met. Looking at them side by side, I'm pretty sure the first picture is not him.
  • ihad
    ihad Posts: 7,463 Member
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    Oh, wait... never mind.
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member
    i totally admit im more an "acquired taste" so me and dating doesnt happen all that often. think haleys comet.

    in college a girl in my english class told me we should go out. i get her number and make plans for the next day. that night i go to a mall about an hour away with a buddy (this is around xmas time) we werent to go out till later and this was late afternoon we are at the mall. we go to leave and he cant find his car. so we go looking for it and i end up late. call her from a pay phone (for those youngins who think cellphones have always been the way......no)

    i explain whats happening and ask if we can go tomorrow. she agrees. i call her the next day to go out and one of her friends is in town and they want to spend some time together. i tell her no problem and tell her we will do this tomorrow.

    tomorrow i go to the very same mall with other friend cause she needs to shop for her brother. on the way home i tell her about my date and how forward i am looking towards it. i get home and call on the rotary phone and she tells me how she literally just got home from working a double and asked if id mind another night.

    sure why not, everything seems to be going well in class. so the next night she calls ME. my brother answers the phone and assumes its the friend i went to the mall with so she can shop with her brother. he then grills her why shes calling so late (7pm) and that good girls do not call so late and she must have nefarious plans with me. mind you my brother is good friends with the shopping girl so this is nothing that is vulgar or out of line. I am laying on the couch laughing and then realize its my date.

    just then my brother says, oh this isnt tisha? errrr jerry...phones for you. i get on the phone and apologize profusely that my brother is a d!ck and say so where do you want to go? oh youre going to take a bath, ok, later.

    never talked again. flash forward a month and i am out a local bar with my friends. dont ask me how but my friends were all very very attractive. 2 years removed from being highschool cheerleaders hot. my friend tisha was the capt of the squad and we are drinking and joking and what not. my date from college sees me and approaches me, asks how im doing, i tell her fine . i tell her im glad to see shes done with her bath and i just get this look. tisha sees whats going on and gathers all our friends and they swarm me. begging me to take them back to my place so we can all drink and fool around back there.

    i never felt so happy to have awesome friends like that ever. i shrug my shoulders and say i have go and entertain these gals and i hope she has a good holiday (it was xmas time). she asks a couple of my friends who those girls were and they replied, oh he's always with them, drinking and all that kinds stuff.
  • bookworm_847
    bookworm_847 Posts: 1,903 Member
    Yikes! OP, your story is way worse than the one I was going to post!

    I had been talking to this guy online, and we seemed to have a lot in common. We'd chat online and on the phone for hours, so I was really excited when we decided to finally go on a date.

    At 7:00, we met at the previously agreed location, Jamba Juice, greeted each other, and got in line to order. In line, we exchanged pleasantries, which was nice, and I was looking forward to sitting down so we could chat. Once we sat down, it got very quiet. I'm pretty shy, so I felt awkward having to get the conversational ball rolling. I asked some questions, all of which were answered in one or two words. He asked a couple of weird questions that didn't lead to much conversation. After we finished our smoothies, he suggested we walk across the parking lot to the pet store. I thought that might be fun since we both loved animals, and maybe things would go better. We walked around the pet store for a little bit, all the while I'm still working my tail off to try to make conversation.

    We walked back to our cars, he gave me a hug, and suggested we get together to go bowling sometime soon. I got back in my car and thought to myself that he was a nice guy, but not super interesting in person. It felt like the date had lasted for hours.

    It was 7:45.
  • bluesy8899
    bluesy8899 Posts: 68 Member
    Last guy I dated from OL site sniffed my hair like Hannibal Lecter...couldn't get away fast enough.


    OMG! LOL, you win!
  • ThePlight
    ThePlight Posts: 3,593 Member
    Haha, what a loser @op. He totally doesn't deserve you, he was only trying to be slick and not spend money. Good on ya to not see him ;)
  • MyJourney1960
    MyJourney1960 Posts: 1,133 Member
    well this was a bad date but i was soooo desperate to get married again (i had just been divorced, now i was a single mom, three year old son, and feeling pretty bad about myself) that i just went along with this instead of telling the jerk to take a hike.

    And this was pre-cell phones/internet etc.

    so here goes:
    A mutual acquaintance of sorts set us up. (tI didn't actuallyknow the acquaintance, we had spoken on the phone a few times, but she was a friend of a good friend and she knew OF this guy, i guess she didn't know him well). she told me that he was stable financially, had a good job and a car and apartment (I didn't really care but this plays in later), and that he was divorced, no children.

    so we make up to meet at a place near my house. he is late because he takes the bus. fine, i said there is a nice little place to sit down that street, he said "oh let's take a walk first". (I know, alarms should have gone off here). we walk a ways, and he turns into theis little park. "oh let's sit here a minute". and then i swear he does that yawn/stretch/oh my arm is around you maneouver that guys do in seventh grade. i pushed him off and said it's late. he whined and tried to convince to have S3x now. oh and it's late and maybe he can sleep over. on the couch. so he left. and stupid me decided to give him another chance. so he is really really late and i had gone home. he shows up at my house and asks me if he can sleep over because it's really late and now he has to take a bus home. i told him to leave.

    Then i called the woman who set us up - she told me that he is divorced, he told me that he is a widower. so she investigated a bit and told me that he and his wife had "some issues" (duh) and they got divorced and she died a few years later from cancer so he tells people he is a widower because he thinks it makes him more attractive to women. And he does have a car and money but he takes the bus to dates because he doesn't want the women to think he is rich. what a toad. and he didn't even buy me a frikkin' cup of coffee!
  • Brit_tompkins
    Brit_tompkins Posts: 2 Member
    You are so right about POF! I would be curious if anyone had a good experience on that website.

    My first "date" on POF was terrible too. I wasn't looking for anything too serious so I felt okay with meeting at a local country dance bar. He was way late and I was SWING DANCING (not sexual or touching at all!) with someone when this POF guy (I had only talked to a few weeks over POF emails) came in. He immediately was extremely upset and was yelling at me. Finger in my face. Calling me trash. He even said "and your teeth aren't even perfect!" (I had braces, they are pretty darn straight!) The story gets better because a man I barely knew came up to me pulled on my arm and said "Britney! Why are you out at a bar on YOUR night with the KIDS! I can't believe you would do this. We have 5 children together!" The POF guy got dumb founded but somehow became interested in me??. I didn't speak to him again.

    He apologized a year later via POF. Hahaha.
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member
    isnt POF basically a classier website than craigslist casual encounters?
  • TamTastic
    TamTastic Posts: 19,224 Member
    I never had bad dates really. Just bad experiences from that point on.

    Though, finding out one of the dates I went on was arrested for arson soon after has to stand out!! :huh:
  • TamTastic
    TamTastic Posts: 19,224 Member
    Though online dating made me more jaded about dating than anything else! haha! Omg, the players, and weirdos. :laugh:

    I would say "Well I'm a real, cool person and I'm on there..there has to be others like me right??" I think there are but they hightail it off REAL fast!!! :laugh:
  • askeates
    askeates Posts: 1,490 Member
    I don't feel quite as bad as I did before.... Glad to know (kind of) that there are other stories out there just as bad if not worse than my experience with online dating.

    So after 20 years of being with my ex-hubby, and the divorce was done, I decided lets give dating a shot. I went out with a couple guys from my town that I had known for a while. Too much history with both of them, good friends, etc. So another friend suggested OK Cupid. I had sworn I would never do it, but as a laugh gave it a shot.

    I got a couple pings fairly quick, chatted with them a bit... when I told them I was a recently divorced single mom just looking for some companionship and nothing serious, and nothing based on just sex that scared them away! (SHOCKER).

    One of them actually came back a few days later saying that he still wanted to get together since we seemed to have a lot in common. Both experienced bad break ups, had children, had been in accidents and have disabilities. He sent me pics of him, I sent him pics of me. The hurdle was that he was about an hour and a half away. Not a big deal, it's workable... At the time my oldest daughter and I were sharing a car (hers had been totalled), and the only times he could actually meet were times she was working so it was going to be rough. He finally said he would come to see me.... I thought, hmmmm sounds like a nice idea, single woman just really starting to date again after 20 years, get to stay close to home in familar territory! I reminded him that I was still not going to be taking him home with me.... there would be nothing more than a first meeting and talking. He was great with that.

    So we agreed on a nice little pub close enough for me to go get my daughter when she was done working, laid back atmosphere and has great micro-brews (I'm not a beer drinker, but he loves the micro-brews). So we met. I got there first, chatted with some friends I'd seen, they left just as he was coming in. I was a bit surprised, he looked VERY different from his photo's, not really a big deal, but he had spent a great deal of time talking about how he is very into fitness, blah, blah, blah. You couldn't tell from looking at him. He told me my pictures didn't do me justice (yea, whatever, again blah, blah, blah).

    So we sit down and start talking about his drive down, and he says oh yea I have been down this way before just not quite this far, visiting a friend. A lot of small talk, blah, blah, blah. Suddenly he says, "so I know you're not into beer, but I brought this really great brew that a friend of mine makes for you to try." I'm thinking, this isn't going to end well.... I had been getting the feeling that he was up to something, and I had started just wanting to leave. I figured worst case, it's a good excuse to part ways. I went to the ladies room, and on the way grabbed another friend that was a bartender there and asked him to lookout for me and call another friend that is a police officer (he happened to be on duty). So we go outside, luckily he had parked very close to the pub so my friend was able to keep an easy lookout. I left my door open thinking I need to be able to get the hell out quick if necessary.

    He gets this cooler out of the back seat and pulls out some plastic glasses. As he is doing this, my daughter calls (Thank God). I had turned slightly away as I talked to her, but I heard something I could not quite place, and saw him messing with the glasses out of the corner of my eye. I turned back and he had poured 2 glasses of this brew. The one he had looked ok, normal head, nothing spectacular. The glass he handed me was a slightly different color and had a rather large head on it.

    I told him I had to go pick up my daughter, but it had been great to meet him.... he says that I HAVE to try the brew before I leave, he really thinks I'd love it. So, I tip it and act like I'd had some and in reality I got a little on my upper lip so I could see if there was a strange taste (other then the fact it was beer). He wants to follow me to get my daughter and then home. I politely reminded him that I had already told him I wasn't taking him home before he ever said he was coming, and he BLEW!!!! Started calling me all sorts of names, grabbing at me.... I tried getting out of the car and he pulled me back down. about this time my police friend pulled into the parking lot, he is not a small man, and started coming towards us. I was able to get out of the car, and this *kitten* proceeds to burn rubber out of the parking lot calling me all sorts of additional names! Needless to say, my OK Cupid account was closed that night....

    Oh, about an hour after I got home, I got a text from him saying that it wasn't a wasted trip he went to his "friends" house on the way back home and got what he was after.

    That was the WORST, there have been a few other bad ones, but nothing that bad again.....
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I don't feel quite as bad as I did before.... Glad to know (kind of) that there are other stories out there just as bad if not worse than my experience with online dating.

    So after 20 years of being with my ex-hubby, and the divorce was done, I decided lets give dating a shot. I went out with a couple guys from my town that I had known for a while. Too much history with both of them, good friends, etc. So another friend suggested OK Cupid. I had sworn I would never do it, but as a laugh gave it a shot.

    I got a couple pings fairly quick, chatted with them a bit... when I told them I was a recently divorced single mom just looking for some companionship and nothing serious, and nothing based on just sex that scared them away! (SHOCKER).

    One of them actually came back a few days later saying that he still wanted to get together since we seemed to have a lot in common. Both experienced bad break ups, had children, had been in accidents and have disabilities. He sent me pics of him, I sent him pics of me. The hurdle was that he was about an hour and a half away. Not a big deal, it's workable... At the time my oldest daughter and I were sharing a car (hers had been totalled), and the only times he could actually meet were times she was working so it was going to be rough. He finally said he would come to see me.... I thought, hmmmm sounds like a nice idea, single woman just really starting to date again after 20 years, get to stay close to home in familar territory! I reminded him that I was still not going to be taking him home with me.... there would be nothing more than a first meeting and talking. He was great with that.

    So we agreed on a nice little pub close enough for me to go get my daughter when she was done working, laid back atmosphere and has great micro-brews (I'm not a beer drinker, but he loves the micro-brews). So we met. I got there first, chatted with some friends I'd seen, they left just as he was coming in. I was a bit surprised, he looked VERY different from his photo's, not really a big deal, but he had spent a great deal of time talking about how he is very into fitness, blah, blah, blah. You couldn't tell from looking at him. He told me my pictures didn't do me justice (yea, whatever, again blah, blah, blah).

    So we sit down and start talking about his drive down, and he says oh yea I have been down this way before just not quite this far, visiting a friend. A lot of small talk, blah, blah, blah. Suddenly he says, "so I know you're not into beer, but I brought this really great brew that a friend of mine makes for you to try." I'm thinking, this isn't going to end well.... I had been getting the feeling that he was up to something, and I had started just wanting to leave. I figured worst case, it's a good excuse to part ways. I went to the ladies room, and on the way grabbed another friend that was a bartender there and asked him to lookout for me and call another friend that is a police officer (he happened to be on duty). So we go outside, luckily he had parked very close to the pub so my friend was able to keep an easy lookout. I left my door open thinking I need to be able to get the hell out quick if necessary.

    He gets this cooler out of the back seat and pulls out some plastic glasses. As he is doing this, my daughter calls (Thank God). I had turned slightly away as I talked to her, but I heard something I could not quite place, and saw him messing with the glasses out of the corner of my eye. I turned back and he had poured 2 glasses of this brew. The one he had looked ok, normal head, nothing spectacular. The glass he handed me was a slightly different color and had a rather large head on it.

    I told him I had to go pick up my daughter, but it had been great to meet him.... he says that I HAVE to try the brew before I leave, he really thinks I'd love it. So, I tip it and act like I'd had some and in reality I got a little on my upper lip so I could see if there was a strange taste (other then the fact it was beer). He wants to follow me to get my daughter and then home. I politely reminded him that I had already told him I wasn't taking him home before he ever said he was coming, and he BLEW!!!! Started calling me all sorts of names, grabbing at me.... I tried getting out of the car and he pulled me back down. about this time my police friend pulled into the parking lot, he is not a small man, and started coming towards us. I was able to get out of the car, and this *kitten* proceeds to burn rubber out of the parking lot calling me all sorts of additional names! Needless to say, my OK Cupid account was closed that night....

    Oh, about an hour after I got home, I got a text from him saying that it wasn't a wasted trip he went to his "friends" house on the way back home and got what he was after.

    That was the WORST, there have been a few other bad ones, but nothing that bad again.....

    OMG! I am soooo glad you were okay!! :-/ That sounds really scary!!!

    I mentioned earlier I met my husband on OK Cupid...lol...but yeah, definitely some crazies out there whether meeting online or irl

    I only had an OK Cupid account for about 10 days. On the second day I messaged my now-husband (the only guy I have EVER initiated first contact with on one of those sites) and the rest is history. He had an OK Cupid account for about 3 years though! He met several pretty cool ladies on the site but none that turned into anything serious. One of the women he met and briefly dated is now a good friend of mine and we recently attended her wedding - to someone she also met on OK Cupid! haha
  • mmm_drop
    mmm_drop Posts: 1,126 Member
    My bad date actually started out with a really good first date!

    This was a couple of years ago and my friends set me up with someone. We went out for dinner and a couple of drinks and to play pool. We had a great night and at the end of the evening when he walked me to my car he tried to kiss me. I respectfully did the head turn and we did a cheek kiss thing. (Hey, I was just trying to be good, for once.)

    He called me two days later and invited me out to dinner. I again met him at the restaurant. (I'm totally weird about people picking me up unless I know them, even if they are a friend of a friend.) At dinner he was really quiet and I couldn't quiet (he was a pretty shy guy), so I just chatted with him about stuff trying to get him to open up again. During dinner I noticed he was putting them back a bit more than the night before and thought maybe he was nervous or something.

    Finally I asked him if everything was okay. He turned red in the face, looked me dead in the eye and said, "I just invited you out to dinner tonight to tell you that I don't want to see you anymore. I'm not even attracted to you because you're more like a guy than most of guys I know. I don't even know what my friends were thinking setting me up with you, but it's very obvious why you're single. What man wants to be with a woman more manly than him?"

    I was taken aback by his comments and at first was just getting raging p!ssed, but instead just stood up, looked at him and said very calmly, "Well, last time we went out you seemed to like my manly ways enough to try and kiss me. You're a douche and I guess the reason I'm still single is because there are too many douches like you out there." I grabbed my coat and left.

    D!CK. But hey, you win some you lose some and if you don't like that I'm a bit of a tomboy, then eff you anyway. :glasses:
  • MityMax96
    MityMax96 Posts: 5,778 Member
    Got no bad date story to post sadly. :cry: :grumble:

    But reading ya'lls sure is fun. :drinker: :drinker: