Only we know what its like.

I've encountered this from my dad. I'm a daddy's girl and I know what his unfortunate view of women is, but it still hurts when he is so quick to put me down. My boyfriend made a comment about me losing 30 lbs in 3 months and that my dad should offer me a grand to lose a hundred in a year. He offered this to my brother who is over 400 lbs and my brother turned him down. My dad's response was, it's only been three months. Not good job or I can tell how hard she's been working. Just "it's only been three months," as though he's saying just wait...she'll fail like she always does.

So for you, and everyone else out there that is working hard, I'm proud of you!! You're doing great and keep it up!!

I know that feeling. I think its the negative comments that have made me stop with eating right and exercising. I get depressed easily and with no one to support you or praise you, its even harder. I am trying, though! I started last week and I lost a pound ! We'll see how this week goes.

Congrats on your weight loss and for making the decision to get healthy! When I first started my friends and family weren't outright negative but they were scepitcal. If I were you, I'd talk to your supportive friend more often than the people in your life who are being negative.

Just think how good it will feel to tell them about your progress one month or six months from now. They're gonna have to eat their words!!

Keep up the good work!!

congrats on ure weight loss... just think ure getting closer to ure goal!!! WAY TO GO AND IM VERY PROUD OF YOU!!!!

You're right that nobody else really understands until they have to deal with it personally. I think about this all the time.

I will see articles online about people who've lost a lot of weight and have completely transformed their lives. It's so inspiring until you go to leave a positive comment and all you see is, "I don't know why we're congratulating them for taking responsibility for their health like we all have to do. They shouldn't have let themselves get so fat! More people need to learn this and do it and then we won't have such high rates of obesity in this country. It's not that hard! Get off your *kitten* and put down the fork!" and variations of comments like it. It's devastating. I saw it today on a link from CNN (via Facebook) about a woman who lost 200 pounds and the comments are hideous!

I'm sorry you experienced such negativity from the people you were expecting positive comments from. Use it as fuel for your journey. Your motivation can include looking forward to the day when those same people are praising your accomplishment!

When I first announced I was joining WW (again), exactly 4 years ago this week, my brother rolled his eyes and said "here we go again". I'll give him that I had announced many plans to lose weight in the past and none of it ever worked but it still hurt my feelings and pissed me off at the time. He was supposed to be supportive, not a jerk!

But instead of letting it get me down, I turned it into motivation to keep going when times got tough. I was sure as hell going to prove him wrong - and although it became less and less about proving him wrong along the way, I still did!

Its easy to do something for 1 or 2 weeks.. When you get to week 10 then you start telling your family and friends
but guess what they will tell you how great you look.

no my family is supportive and I really don't have friends to be negative towards me, but forget them I think its great that you lost that much, I can barely lose 2 pounds in a week, some people just don't understand how hard it is

I think it's probably because most people would recognize that 4 lbs in a week sounds like some fad unsafe unsustainable diet, the type that rarely last.

And that would normally be the case.

Count the fact that at least 2 lbs of that 4 was likely glucose based water weight (which will come right back on when you go to maintenance), and another lb could have been sodium retained water, and if you told people it looks like you lost 1 to 2 lbs of fat, you might have gotten different response.

Then again, depends on how many people in those folks lives they've seen fail during or at end, including their own. Or if you have history of doing this of course.

IMO that shouldn't matter.

But that's why you make the decision to do it, and you keep it to yourself. Who cares what you've said and/or done in the past.

Ohh please, ignore them. Four pounds is a HUGE deal. I was so excited when I lost my first four pounds that it took everything in my husband's power to keep me from walking around the house naked. The most important thing about your 4 pound loss, is that it is a great place to start if you want to lose 5 pounds. =0))))

Keep coming back to these boards and reporting your successes. Get the support from the folks here and watch how strong you gradually become in your confidence and hope.

And then when the naysayers "out there" in the real world start in with their negativity, you'll realize how little you care about their opinion anymore, and might even find yourself learning how to draw healthy boundaries with people who aren't safe to tell, or even confronting a few of your good friends and family with a kind and gentle, "hey...I could really use your support here - could you do that for me?".

Positivity breeds strength. Surround yourself with it. You'll find it here. Congrats on your first loss!

I know that feeling. I think its the negative comments that have made me stop with eating right and exercising. I get depressed easily and with no one to support you or praise you, its even harder. I am trying, though! I started last week and I lost a pound ! We'll see how this week goes.

Find some friends on this site who will cheer you on. There are many people who would be happy to help. If you haven't already, you might want to post in the 'Introduce Yourself' forum. There you can tell a little about yourself to find friends that are like minded.

Best of luck to you!

First of all, well done on a fantastic fist week. 4 lb is a fantastic result.

I got a similar thing when I started, however my wife and kids fully supported me. They understood more than anyone how much effort I was putting in and how much of a total lifestyle change I was gong through.

I had comments like, you always lose a lot at the start and things like that.

4 lbs is a lot of fat!!
Well done and KEEP GOING!!

I don't generally share my weight loss intentions. I have yo-yoed so I don't want to tell another story about getting it right this time around. I also know that some people will try to sabotage your efforts lol :noway: