One Night Stand - Liberating or shameful?
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Just no, we all have a Build in moral compass, we all have it..yet clearly some peoples have been demagnetised.
We are meant to find a partner and be loyal and love them and show them respect pretty simple how can you do that in one nite... Don't do it, be happy within yourself learn to love yourself and then your find a nice guy whom will share his world with yours
Only have time for one love in this short life so make it special all grow old and be lonely bed hoping
But hey just one guys thoughts what do I no just some guy
I think we are ment to do a lot more in the life then "find a partner and be loyal" Also, why do we only have time for one love in this short life? I have been fortunate enough to love many people! I feel most strongly about my partner now and I have chosen to be with only him now. However I am super glad I have a past and have met many others I cared for.
Everyone has their own views of course!
In that short text you have changed my view thank you
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Okay okay, maybe liberating and shameful aren't the correct terms to use in regards to the topic. It wasn't an implication towards my personal preferences either, purely curiosity. The circumstances may vary but I assumed it would apply to SINGLE people and whether the idea of it is appealing or appalling. Apologies in advance if anyone takes offense ..0
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Just no, we all have a Build in moral compass, we all have it..yet clearly some peoples have been demagnetised.
We are meant to find a partner and be loyal and love them and show them respect pretty simple how can you do that in one nite... Don't do it, be happy within yourself learn to love yourself and then your find a nice guy whom will share his world with yours
Only have time for one love in this short life so make it special all grow old and be lonely bed hoping
But hey just one guys thoughts what do I no just some guy
Sex means different things to different people. That doesn't make them wrong nor immoral.0 -
shamefully liberating0
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Prior to the hubby I was unashamed and defiantly pro... never broke a heart on a one nighter. Have lots of friends who would never had indulged, I am hoping to not loose my memory and have a smile on my face in my nursing home... quite a few decent memories0
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But hey just one guys thoughts what do I no just some guy
Exactly. Apparently not the difference between "know" and "no" or "right" and "rite". Also, sex is not a moral issue unless you're discussing consent.
Oh dear, hope you can accept my deepest apologies, for my senselessness and my lack of education in the text, but suffering from dyslexia (which is one hard word to spell when one is haha) I hope you can look past this and be able to live and over come my mistakes
So anyway I would take a guess to say your one of them whom believe it's liberating then?...
I don't find it either. Which you would know if you'd read my comment. I think it's a person's decision and depends on the context. For some people it's enjoyable and fun and for others it isn't so great. I enjoy casual sex (I haven't had a one night stand since college) but I also find it to be a different kind of sex (not better or worse) from sex with a romantic partner. See? Neither glorifying nor shaming people who have one night stands. Whoda thunk there'd be a view that isn't black or white!?0 -
I'm an old fashioned girl so it wouldn't be something I would engage in.
I am not sure it is all that safe either - strangers and diseases etc.
Um, you do know that there's this neat invention called condoms, right? And this other neat thing called "STD testing" that many adults do?0 -
Oh and the priest said for him it was love at first sight...for her she simply asked what his name was over breakfast... my granny did not know where to look...still in love 10 years laterPrior to the hubby I was unashamed and defiantly pro... never broke a heart on a one nighter. Have lots of friends who would never had indulged, I am hoping to not loose my memory and have a smile on my face in my nursing home... quite a few decent memories0 -
Just no, we all have a Build in moral compass, we all have it..yet clearly some peoples have been demagnetised.
We are meant to find a partner and be loyal and love them and show them respect pretty simple how can you do that in one nite... Don't do it, be happy within yourself learn to love yourself and then your find a nice guy whom will share his world with yours
Only have time for one love in this short life so make it special all grow old and be lonely bed hoping
But hey just one guys thoughts what do I no just some guy
Sex means different things to different people. That doesn't make them wrong nor immoral.
Indeed and above is what I believe.. I don't open a packet of chips and let everyone put there hands in there I don't put toothpaste on my tooth brush then brush a few hundred others first with it ... It's simple I think your not going to be happy bed hoping0 -
No. Casual sex is just...ick. This is how STDs get spread like wildfire. I was raised and still believe that sex is meant to be with someone you deeply love and care about.
Here's the way I see it:
Nothing really BAD will ever happen to anyone by holding out for someone you truly love, yet whole hosts of horrible, life-changing (and possibly life-ruining) things can happen from passing yourself around like a joint. Just something to think about.0 -
Potentially dangerous.
Also, to quote a movie: "You see how picky I am about my shoes and they only go on my feet."0 -
Not my cup of tea in the least bit. Call me old fashioned but you better be the bee's knees for anything remotely physical to happen, and if that's the case I'd assume we'd be together.That being said though, to each her own:)0
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I cant have sex without mental connection. Just wont work. Now if we can have a mental connection on the first date, sure we can have sex, and afterward, we can properly break up, if it were to remain a one-nighter.0
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Just no, we all have a Build in moral compass, we all have it..yet clearly some peoples have been demagnetised.
We are meant to find a partner and be loyal and love them and show them respect pretty simple how can you do that in one nite... Don't do it, be happy within yourself learn to love yourself and then your find a nice guy whom will share his world with yours
Only have time for one love in this short life so make it special all grow old and be lonely bed hoping
But hey just one guys thoughts what do I no just some guy
Sex means different things to different people. That doesn't make them wrong nor immoral.
Indeed and above is what I believe.. I don't open a packet of chips and let everyone put there hands in there I don't put toothpaste on my tooth brush then brush a few hundred others first with it ... It's simple I think your not going to be happy bed hoping
You don't share chips? That's not nice!
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I'm an old fashioned girl so it wouldn't be something I would engage in.
I am not sure it is all that safe either - strangers and diseases etc.
Um, you do know that there's this neat invention called condoms, right? And this other neat thing called "STD testing" that many adults do?
A friend of mine got pregnant on a one night stand and that was with a condom so they aren't 100% safe.
Like I said it isn't something that I would engage in. I don't judge people that do as it isn't any of my business.0 -
I'm an old fashioned girl so it wouldn't be something I would engage in.
I am not sure it is all that safe either - strangers and diseases etc.
Um, you do know that there's this neat invention called condoms, right? And this other neat thing called "STD testing" that many adults do?
No need to be snarky just because she disagrees. Condoms are not 100% effective and unless people are walking around with their STD testing results in their pocket, you have to take their word for it.0 -
Nothing really BAD will ever happen to anyone by holding out for someone you truly love, yet whole hosts of horrible, life-changing (and possibly life-ruining) things can happen from passing yourself around like a joint. Just something to think about.
Same could be said for getting in a car and going to the movies. Just take precautions and nothing bad need happen.
However, to each their own.0 -
No. Casual sex is just...ick. This is how STDs get spread like wildfire. I was raised and still believe that sex is meant to be with someone you deeply love and care about.
Here's the way I see it:
Nothing really BAD will ever happen to anyone by holding out for someone you truly love, yet whole hosts of horrible, life-changing (and possibly life-ruining) things can happen from passing yourself around like a joint. Just something to think about.
I can think of one thing. Fewer and ****tier orgasms. Orgasms, fun, and variety > the small risk of STI's and pregnancy from using a condom. In my own personal opinion.
Also, I think close-minded judgmental people are...just ick. You can have your own opinions and do what you want with your own body without being disgustingly judgmental.0 -
I'm an old fashioned girl so it wouldn't be something I would engage in.
I am not sure it is all that safe either - strangers and diseases etc.
Um, you do know that there's this neat invention called condoms, right? And this other neat thing called "STD testing" that many adults do?
A friend of mine got pregnant on a one night stand and that was with a condom so they aren't 100% safe.
Like I said it isn't something that I would engage in. I don't judge people that do as it isn't any of my business.
Of course, condoms are not 100%, but you kind of made it sound like one night stands automatically mean that someone's gonna get a disease or pregnant.0 -
I'm an old fashioned girl so it wouldn't be something I would engage in.
I am not sure it is all that safe either - strangers and diseases etc.
Um, you do know that there's this neat invention called condoms, right? And this other neat thing called "STD testing" that many adults do?
A friend of mine got pregnant on a one night stand and that was with a condom so they aren't 100% safe.
Like I said it isn't something that I would engage in. I don't judge people that do as it isn't any of my business.
You're right. That's why people should use back-up protection (such as the pill, IUD, or ring) or use plan-B if there's a condom malfunction. Sex education, y'all!0 -
One night stands are what you make them. Personally, I've never liked the socially engineered attachment of shame to having sex. If it is your view that sex should be reserved for married or committed partners, I'm not saying it is completely wrong. It is just not a view to which I subscribe.
Two consenting adults doing what they want to do? I say, where is the shame in that?
As to "liberating", personally I'm not sure. Is there something liberating about two consenting adults enjoying sexual intercourse> Okay. I suppose if you attach that feeling to it, then there is something liberating about it. Again, it is what you make of it.
The biggest thing I feel is not projecting your preconceived attachments onto the other person. In other words, if you think sex = love, or love = sex, or sex = [insert idea here], be careful. Your partner(s) in sex may not feel the same about it as you do...0 -
I'm an old fashioned girl so it wouldn't be something I would engage in.
I am not sure it is all that safe either - strangers and diseases etc.
Um, you do know that there's this neat invention called condoms, right? And this other neat thing called "STD testing" that many adults do?
A friend of mine got pregnant on a one night stand and that was with a condom so they aren't 100% safe.
Like I said it isn't something that I would engage in. I don't judge people that do as it isn't any of my business.
You're right. That's why people should use back-up protection (such as the pill, IUD, or ring) or use plan-B if there's a condom malfunction. Sex education, y'all!
Plan-B efficiency is surprisingly low, according to my doctor.0 -
I have no issues with them. Two consenting adults having some fun? Go for it. Be safe about it.
But my boyfriend is against it.
Also...
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I'm an old fashioned girl so it wouldn't be something I would engage in.
I am not sure it is all that safe either - strangers and diseases etc.
Um, you do know that there's this neat invention called condoms, right? And this other neat thing called "STD testing" that many adults do?
A friend of mine got pregnant on a one night stand and that was with a condom so they aren't 100% safe.
Like I said it isn't something that I would engage in. I don't judge people that do as it isn't any of my business.
Of course, condoms are not 100%, but you kind of made it sound like one night stands automatically mean that someone's gonna get a disease or pregnant.
I didn't really mean it like that - more that there are potential consequences to consider and that it isn't exactly risk free.0 -
I'm an old fashioned girl so it wouldn't be something I would engage in.
I am not sure it is all that safe either - strangers and diseases etc.
Um, you do know that there's this neat invention called condoms, right? And this other neat thing called "STD testing" that many adults do?
A friend of mine got pregnant on a one night stand and that was with a condom so they aren't 100% safe.
Like I said it isn't something that I would engage in. I don't judge people that do as it isn't any of my business.
You're right. That's why people should use back-up protection (such as the pill, IUD, or ring) or use plan-B if there's a condom malfunction. Sex education, y'all!
Plan-B efficiency is surprisingly low, according to my doctor.
Plan B is up to 89 percent effective when taken within 72 hours. I think you should get a new doctor. A lot of anti-choice wackjobs try to scare people out of using emergency contraception. And honestly, the $40-$50 you might spend on it is a hell of a lot cheaper than the cost of an abortion or baby. Almost nothing is 100% effective, but if you don't want to be pregnant, there aren't any better options short of abortion.0 -
I'm an old fashioned girl so it wouldn't be something I would engage in.
I am not sure it is all that safe either - strangers and diseases etc.
Um, you do know that there's this neat invention called condoms, right? And this other neat thing called "STD testing" that many adults do?
A friend of mine got pregnant on a one night stand and that was with a condom so they aren't 100% safe.
Like I said it isn't something that I would engage in. I don't judge people that do as it isn't any of my business.
You're right. That's why people should use back-up protection (such as the pill, IUD, or ring) or use plan-B if there's a condom malfunction. Sex education, y'all!
Plan-B efficiency is surprisingly low, according to my doctor.
Plan B is up to 89 percent effective when taken within 72 hours. I think you should get a new doctor. A lot of anti-choice wackjobs try to scare people out of using emergency contraception. And honestly, the $40-$50 you might spend on it is a hell of a lot cheaper than the cost of an abortion or baby. Almost nothing is 100% effective, but if you don't want to be pregnant, there aren't any better options short of abortion.
THIS! I would question a doctor's agenda if they spouted such a claim....0 -
As to the question of safety and sex, I think it is hilarious that we become so very serious and induce this awe inspiring fear of the looming specter of STD's, but think nothing of jumping in our cars on an almost daily basis (for most adults). Motor vehicle accidents kill and seriously injure more people in a year than all of the STD's combined...
Car accidents in 20 years: 3 (not always the driver)
Permanent injuries from MVA: 1
STD's in Lifetime: None0 -
what's shameful about it? just be safe and responsible.0
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No. Casual sex is just...ick. This is how STDs get spread like wildfire. I was raised and still believe that sex is meant to be with someone you deeply love and care about.
Here's the way I see it:
Nothing really BAD will ever happen to anyone by holding out for someone you truly love, yet whole hosts of horrible, life-changing (and possibly life-ruining) things can happen from passing yourself around like a joint. Just something to think about.
lol. the same could be said about walking outside, driving a car, riding in an airplane, going in the ocean, living life in general.
you are most illogical, inconsistent, and very close minded. as someone else said, i find that very ...ick.0 -
I'm an old fashioned girl so it wouldn't be something I would engage in.
I am not sure it is all that safe either - strangers and diseases etc.
Um, you do know that there's this neat invention called condoms, right? And this other neat thing called "STD testing" that many adults do?
A friend of mine got pregnant on a one night stand and that was with a condom so they aren't 100% safe.
Like I said it isn't something that I would engage in. I don't judge people that do as it isn't any of my business.
You're right. That's why people should use back-up protection (such as the pill, IUD, or ring) or use plan-B if there's a condom malfunction. Sex education, y'all!
Plan-B efficiency is surprisingly low, according to my doctor.
Plan B is up to 89 percent effective when taken within 72 hours. I think you should get a new doctor. A lot of anti-choice wackjobs try to scare people out of using emergency contraception. And honestly, the $40-$50 you might spend on it is a hell of a lot cheaper than the cost of an abortion or baby. Almost nothing is 100% effective, but if you don't want to be pregnant, there aren't any better options short of abortion.
THIS! I would question a doctor's agenda if they spouted such a claim....
He didn't try to scare me out of using it, simply warned me about the fact that he has seen quite a few ladies get pregnant although they have used the pill. Its efficiency is lowered by a multitude of factors, and a lot of ladies use it incorrectly. I believe there is a limit of times you can use it in a year too..
If other means of contraception fail, by all means, TAKE THE PILL.0
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