has your s/o

Yes. But he's told me he doesn't get jealous because he thinks it's a stupid emotion so I like it when I see him acting a little jealous! lol He's told me I better not get skinny & leave him. Unfortunately, I understand where he's coming from as I've had 3 friends do this to their husbands. We had to have a long talk about this being about my health. I told him he needs to worry about that like I do. I'm not going anywhere but my health could take me away so accept that I'm serious about dropping the weight this time.

Mine does ask if I found a really fit guy on here :laugh: there is tons. I am not interested....I love him.

My STBEH came home one day and told me if I didn't lose weight, he was leaving me. I lost the weight and asked for a divorce. He is now a complete jerk about the fact that I lost the weight, tells me I'm just out to fool my next ex-husband, and that my "frail little body" makes him sick. Mind you, I was only a size 8 when he delivered his "lose weight" ultimatum. The majority of my weight loss occurred before I met him- I was a size 0 when we met, then I had our daughter, and didn't get the weight off fast enough for his liking. His new girlfriend's legs are the size of my arms... he likes the sickly anorexic look. Good riddance- I'd rather be healthy!!!

OMG What a d!ck.. You deserve so much more than that.

The other day he told me that he didn't have as far to go to get into shape for vacation as I did. However in the last few months I've lost while he's gained. I think there's a bit of denial about his own physique there, but not jealousy. He also thinks he's still at 12% body fat when I'd guess about 15%.

My husband is looking to lose 15 pounds so he's very supportive especially since me counting calories means I'm already counting his as well, since I do all the cooking.

My Dave struggles with the healthy breakfasts even after six months of starting the day with them.

He has been supportive, he seemed to lose interest in me in the bedroom a bit when my boobs shrank but he's enjoying the hiking, walking and extra badminton I can now play. You are right that you can lead a horse to water (but you can't make it drink). He doesn't take care of his own health, stresses, and nutrition but tolerates my healthy cooking because I try to make it varied and interesting.

He knows that when I weigh the same as him I will be in my healthy range so we muck about with the scales sometimes which is fun. He holds one of our cats when I'm not looking and I think he's put 7lbs on! He doesn't like that our grocery bill is higher due to the good quality free range meat, responsibly sourced fish and organic veg but I feel there's no point doing half a job!

Yep, we had some issues, but he got over it. I guess its a big change when someone starts doing something like that and he was worried about the women getting bulky myths and that.

My spouse isn't supportive, and refuses to do anything physically herself. We both lost weight through MFP in 2011 (she lost more than me!), but due to an injury, she stopped. We both 'fell off the wagon' and gained all our weight back. She hasn't done a thing since. She used to guilt me into not working out, since I was taking time away from the family in the evening.. last February I finally said that I was doing it with or without her. 291 days later, I'm still here. I'm down 58 pounds currently, but down 110 pounds from my heaviest weight. She, however, has gained approximately 100ish pounds.. she still refuses to do anything, giving me every excuse in the book. At least now she doesn't guilt me too much about the workouts, but I primarily work out BEFORE work (at 2:30am) while the family is asleep.

If you have a supportive spouse/person, don't take that for granted. If you're with someone that isn't supportive, or tries to bring you down, know that you CAN still acheive your goals, even with their negativity.

Just remember- nobody can do this for you BUT YOU. Supportive people or not.

No

Nope - she loves it!

My spouse isn't supportive, and refuses to do anything physically herself. We both lost weight through MFP in 2011 (she lost more than me!), but due to an injury, she stopped. We both 'fell off the wagon' and gained all our weight back. She hasn't done a thing since. She used to guilt me into not working out, since I was taking time away from the family in the evening.. last February I finally said that I was doing it with or without her. 291 days later, I'm still here. I'm down 58 pounds currently, but down 110 pounds from my heaviest weight. She, however, has gained approximately 100ish pounds.. she still refuses to do anything, giving me every excuse in the book. At least now she doesn't guilt me too much about the workouts, but I primarily work out BEFORE work (at 2:30am) while the family is asleep.

If you have a supportive spouse/person, don't take that for granted. If you're with someone that isn't supportive, or tries to bring you down, know that you CAN still acheive your goals, even with their negativity.

Just remember- nobody can do this for you BUT YOU. Supportive people or not.

This story (but not your picture!) sounds like a guy I know - same fact pattern. Except when he got thin he decided he was gay and left his overweight wife and his child for that lifestyle. So I think weight loss has an effect on people in a variety of ways!

^^^This^^^ :smokin:

Maybe a little… I got cocky when I did a show and it tore us apart, turned into a bit of a monster. But I've learned (the hard way), never again.

Ever showed jealousy towards you after you started your fitness journey? Or wanted you to stop for any reason?

yup. he thinks its dumb because "I don't need to lose weight"

Nope, he comes to the gym with me and eats all of the new healthy concoctions I make in the kitchen. He is super supportive!