Define cheating......

iddqd and/or idkfa

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For me there is no such thing as harmless flirting. If you're flirting with someone else whether you have intentions to act or not I still consider that disrespectful. If you need to flirt with other people to satisfy some kind of need you have then you have no business being in a committed relationship. Having a friendly conversation with someone is fine, but if you add flirting to the equation, to me that says that you have no respect for the person you are with, because what may be harmless to you may come off as an invitation to the person you are flirting with.

flirting is about making someone feel good... there is absolutely such a thing as harmless flirting.

I do it all the time- everyone has a good time and we all walk away smiling.

I know guys who confuse being NICE with flirting- it's not my job to sort that out for you "what may be harmless to me may come off as an invitation"???

walking down the street looking good may come as an invitation to some people- that's just WAY to easy to get carried away- it's not my job to cage my words to met your potential misinterpretations. GTFO.

I never said it was your job to do anything. In my relationship, I would def have an issue with my bf flirting with anybody, period. No matter if he felt it was harmless. To me it isn't harmless. What I mean by it comes off as an invitation is if you flirt with someone unless you actually say to that person "I have no intention of going anywhere with this" there's a good chance that they will think you do. And if they know you are in a relationship, that makes it even more insulting. There are plenty of people in this world who get off by feeling like they've won over someone else's s/o. And at least for me, like I said, if your s/o wouldn't want you doing it, and you still think it's ok bc it's "harmless" you have no business being in a relationship in the first place. If it's harmless and it means nothing then it's not so important that you can't stop doing it. So yes I'm sure for plenty of people there is such thing as harmless flirting, but to me there is not. It doesn't really matter to me if it's just to make you feel good - why do you need someone else to make you feel good? Come home to mama, I got everything you need to make you feel good, and if I don't maybe we need to have a conversation. Just how I feel about it. To each their own.

Anything you wouldnt want your spouse to do with someone else. I like harmless flirtation, but anything beyond that is out of my comfort zone.

So sleeping with multiple women doesn't qualify . . . Duly noted

Also, there are a lot of things that would really really piss me off / upset me that I still wouldn't define as "cheating".

This.

To me, cheating is a sexual act that doesn't 'involve' me.

Flirting may piss may or may not make me mad, but I wouldn't consider it cheating.

Deliberately looking at options outside of your current relationship to fulfill your needs. If your SO and doing it for you and you decide to stay while looking outside of your relationship, I don't doubt that anyone will say this isn't cheating.

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"But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." - Jesus

Since when is my gardener an expert on cheating?

hahahahah

I'm still a little upset that nobody asked Bill Clinton. Anybody got his number?

I'm still a little upset that nobody asked Bill Clinton. Anybody got his number?

Are you trying to cheat on me with bill clinton?

Define cheating.

when your inards are stirring from someone else,

When you have to double check who you are sending that text to before you hit the send button.... youre doing something naughty.