I am seriously starting to hate my husband, help!

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  • laurenk182004
    laurenk182004 Posts: 1,882 Member
    Well, dinner is off :( We got into a huge fight and now we're not doing much talking at all, let alone conversing over a romantic dinner. We're both just pretending nothing happened, but avoiding eachother as well. This is how it always happend, and I just wind up letting it go until the next time, and then it happens all over again. I am so tired of it! I still have no idea what to do. He is so hard to talk to, he just gets angry and leaves for a couple hours, and then gets mad if I bring it up again...grrr, not fun
  • sgtinvincible
    sgtinvincible Posts: 2,559
    I missed the original post Lauren, and it seemed like you didn't want anyone else to know, so I haven't read the responses to find out.

    I just want you to know that I love you like a little sister, and that I'm here to talk if you ever need it.

    Hugs.jpg
  • natalie424
    natalie424 Posts: 320
    Lauren, I am so sorry that you are having such a difficult time. I am keeping you in my thoughts. :flowerforyou:
  • littlebird
    littlebird Posts: 14
    You will be ok. Really. I haven't been on here long, but from your post you sound like a very strong, capable person. You will be ok. That's important to remember.

    I watched my MIL go through a LOT in the years that I knew her. I did not understand it at the time, but I saw her care for my FIL lovingly, daily. As if he were a child, but with the utmost respect. I was incredulous. I had never seen or heard of anyone honor their husband in such a way.

    Read Ephesians 5:22 and 23 in the New Testament. Pray! Do your part, but do not worry about him fulfilling his part. He won't right away. The LORD will restore what the locust has eaten.

    Bless you in your time of troubles.
  • Healthier_Me
    Healthier_Me Posts: 5,600 Member
    Well, dinner is off :( We got into a huge fight and now we're not doing much talking at all, let alone conversing over a romantic dinner. We're both just pretending nothing happened, but avoiding eachother as well. This is how it always happend, and I just wind up letting it go until the next time, and then it happens all over again. I am so tired of it! I still have no idea what to do. He is so hard to talk to, he just gets angry and leaves for a couple hours, and then gets mad if I bring it up again...grrr, not fun
    I'm sorry it didn't work out honey:cry: You've done all you can so now it's time for him to do his part.... just my 2 cents *shrugs*

    I'm always logged on to my myspace IM (hidden) so if you wanna talk or just went, type away sweets.

    Love you to pieces.
    Just take care of yourself and Taylor.
    HUGGERZ

    ~Jo Jo:flowerforyou:
  • Healthier_Me
    Healthier_Me Posts: 5,600 Member
    Read Ephesians 5:22 and 23 in the New Testament. Pray! Do your part, but do not worry about him fulfilling his part. He won't right away. The LORD will restore what the locust has eaten.

    Bless you in your time of troubles.

    I love this and I thank you.


    ~Joanna:flowerforyou:
  • laurenk182004
    laurenk182004 Posts: 1,882 Member
    Well...we did wind up going to dinner afterall...late, but we went. We were having a nice time and pleasant conversation, so I didn't bring anything up. It sucks because it doesn't seem like there is EVER a good time to talk about the drinking thing. If I bring it up he gets aggravated...so I never bring it up until; all of a sudden something ignorant flies out of my mouth and we fight and yada yada yada. So, I don't know. I mean...sometimes I feel like we are just living seperate lives and I'm a lonely single mom, which is ridiculous I know. Maybe things will get better again when he is home full time in the fall. It's weird though, alot of the time even while he is home I feel like we're roomates, or I'm his freakin nanny or something. Anyways...I guess what I'm saying is things will either get worse or get better, I really feel like I am trying as hard as I possibly can, and I'm doing my part to keep our marriage intact. I have no intention of leaving him at this point, but he needs to start doing his part too and trying a little harder to be a good husband and friend. I'm sorry I erupted this all over everyone today, I was just a wreck this morning and feeling depressed and a little irrational, and I needed my MFP buddies to make me feel better. You guys helped me so much today. Thankyou again everyone from the bottom of my heart :heart: Love you guys!
  • rosabella
    rosabella Posts: 194 Member
    In my prayers. :heart:
  • jlwhelan1
    jlwhelan1 Posts: 664
    After having just (barely) come through a bunch of stuff with my DH of a dozen years I feel for you.
    I don't know that I have any advice other than to listen to your heart. Figure out clearly in your mind what you want. Communicate clearly and (if at all possible) calmly what you want, need, and expect from a spouse. We are still hashing through things after six months, but its much much much better.

    Going to talk to someone or joining a group will help you with all that you have to sort through.

    I don't know ya but I'm sending you a big ol hug and hoping your journey to healing the marriage is brief and smooth.
  • age1389
    age1389 Posts: 1,160 Member
    I really hope things work out for the best:flowerforyou:


    -Adrienne:heart:
  • BreaNix
    BreaNix Posts: 205 Member
    I don't have any great advice but I am thinking of you and sending positive vibes your way.

    hugs :flowerforyou:
  • sculley
    sculley Posts: 2,012 Member
    I really don't want to say this sweetie but I felt disgusted with my soon to be ex husband and everything your saying was us not too long ago i dont want to say that and jinx you or tell you a divorce is in your future but all i can tell you is what happened to me. like i am saying it might not be the case with you so please dont get upset or freak.

    I felt like you and constantly found myself crying all the time and i just wasnt good for my son like that and as he got alittle older he started telling us to stop when we were arguing and now with our divorce it's hard on my lil man. I just sooooo wish I would have gotten out of it sooner instead of waiting for a change or fighting about it it never getting resolve and then it happens again not too much later down the road. I am not telling you to do anything rash

    love ya and just dont like seeing you unhappy.
  • lina1131
    lina1131 Posts: 2,246 Member
    I'm glad that you at least got to have a nice dinner with him. I will keep you in my thoughts and I hope you two can work together to make your relationship happy. :heart:
  • GinaB30
    GinaB30 Posts: 725 Member
    Read Ephesians 5:22 and 23 in the New Testament. Pray! Do your part, but do not worry about him fulfilling his part. He won't right away. The LORD will restore what the locust has eaten.

    Bless you in your time of troubles.

    I love this and I thank you.


    ~Joanna:flowerforyou:

    That is GREAT advice =o))))
  • greysweatshirt
    greysweatshirt Posts: 411
    Just a suggestion from my personal experience.

    I tend to be the same as you..I get annoyed or upset by something but I don't want to bring it up, so I let it go, and let it go, and let it go. Even though it's in the back of my mind, I let it go again. Eventually, something will *SNAP* and I blow up big time! Large fight insues. Usually the large fight isn't over the main problem, it's over something non-related, but the feelings stem from the original feelings.

    I strongly urge you to talk about whatever is bothering you, even if things seem to be "going well" for now, or it annoys him to bring it up. Eventually, you will blow up at him about something, whether it's this or something else. It won't be easy, trust me, been there, done that. But you'll feel much better if you can get it off your chest.

    Best of luck with whatever you do.
  • ali106
    ali106 Posts: 3,754 Member
    hey Lauren my sweet!!!

    hugs and thinking of you girly!

    sending you a pm honey!
    :flowerforyou: Ali
  • SoupNazi
    SoupNazi Posts: 4,229 Member
    It sucks because it doesn't seem like there is EVER a good time to talk about the drinking thing. If I bring it up he gets aggravated...so I never bring it up until; all of a sudden something ignorant flies out of my mouth and we fight and yada yada yada. So, I don't know. I mean...sometimes I feel like we are just living seperate lives and I'm a lonely single mom, which is ridiculous I know.

    Oh Lauren....I have been living this also for 9 +years. I just ignore it because he gets mad at me also. I feel like I have kept quiet for so long, that we now are more like room mates and nothing else. Please don't let this happen to you. You can do something to stop it now before it gets to the sad , resentful marriage mine has become.
    I realize, now that my son is older, that it is REALLY not a good thing because he is starting to understand what is going on and it hurts him so much. This is his role model, sadly. You don't want Taylor to get old enough to see this.
    My prayers are with you, Lauren. When you need the courage to stand up to the issues, just look at that lil ones sweet face.:heart:
  • AJCM
    AJCM Posts: 2,169 Member
    It's all been said, but just wanted to say I'm sorry for what you're going through. Post anytime - we're all here for each other!
    :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
  • Healthier_Me
    Healthier_Me Posts: 5,600 Member
    Just want to let you know that I'm here for you and I love you and I appreciate you and I'm very proud of you and.... and.... and....... that's all:ohwell:

    ~Jo Jo:flowerforyou:
  • laurenk182004
    laurenk182004 Posts: 1,882 Member
    Awww, you guys are all so sweet. Gonna make me cry somemore!
    Sounazi-I know you are right....I just worry that if I push too hard he'll leave and that's not what I want :(
    I love you all!!!!
    :love:
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