Which one is harder?

I say being a parent but I'm told that my husband and I get along way better than most couples and I've seen this too.

I have no idea, I've never been either (thankfully, for me).
Me and my boyfriend are going on 10 years together, it's not broken, so we're not fixing it.

Being a parent - most definitely! And I have a wonderful daughter!

I don't know, but I can say wither is easier than both!

married

i think they are equally hard in their own ways.....i know that is a cop out but it is true...

you dont really have a choice being a parent...you are and you deal with it.....you love your kids unconditionally even if it is a struggle daily to like them LOL....

i guess being married is harder because you HAVE to make it work if you want it to.....you dont HAVE to make it but if being a part of a pair is what you want than you have to do what it takes, compromise, make concessions, give in to shiat you dont want to just to keep the peace..

perfect example.....
my husband has been picking our 2 kids up twice a week from aftercare/daycare so i can go running right from work for 45 mins or less......it has been working out fine as far as i knew....but last night i walk into a whole frigging screaming crying yelling banging and slamming mess......he picked up the kids, brought them home and then went "back to" work upstairs (he works from home)....my 3 yr old was giving him a hard time from downstairs, she got into some toys and made a huge crashing sound and he spilled coffee all over a huge pile of pictures from when i was a kid trying to get to her to make sure she was okay....well of course he was yelling and screaming at her because he was frustrated because he just wanted to finish his work....i walked into the whole big mess...she was crying telling me daddy yelled at her, he was screaming and yelling upstairs and banging shiat around supposedly trying to clean up the mess ( i honestly think he made the mess just then being an a*s and slamming stuff around but whatever)....after calming her down, i of course said i would stop running on monday and wednesday nights to make his life easier when all he has to do is get the kids at 550ish and bring them home and deal with them until i get home at 615ish...he just has to put his work on hold for 35mins or so from the time he leaves to get them until when i walk in the door...then he can finish if he needs to while i tend to them...he would get more done and be "less" stressed without the worry of what are they doing downstairs while he's upstairs.....he said no dont change your schedule but it is very stressful for me to know that chaos is going on at home when i'm out running but on the flip side i should be able to have my time without feeling guilty about it.....

okay i decided - being a wife is harder - i think we have to have WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY more give and take....

I have a terrific husband but I think being married is harder than being a parent.

I think, too me at least, that biological grasp between my son and I is just overwhelming and makes everything easier. Even my husband has said he would choose our son over me if it came down to it!

I will tell you, I applaud my boyfriend for thinking he wants kids, but I don't think he could handle it.
And, I'm not willing to pick up the slack, which I know I would.

I could see it now... me, pick up kid from daycare after work, get dinner made, kid fed, kid to bed at a decent hour, clean dishes, sit down for two seconds, go to bed, and do it all again tomorrow. No way in hellz am I signing up for that.

I like my career, I like my hobbies, I like my freedom.

i would say definatly being a PARENT bc most days my husband acts like a child anyway ...

:laugh: Jill

Definitely being a parent - mainly when they get older and are teens or young adults. Under 10 easy! But when they get older your life is filled with worry and battling them on issues. I mean some teens are GREAT - but some like to push their limits.

Marriage: Bad marriage is DIFFICULT but Good Marraige - LOVE IT! I was married before and what misery it brought. But now that i have met a GREAT partner I so need him there is no way I could be without him. Sure at times he can give me a headache - but for the most part - he's my best friend. And there for me when I have those difficult times with my grown kids..well 18 & up.

My boyfriend cooks, he used to be a chef. But, I could just see him becoming so overwhelmed and thusly paralyzed to the point of inaction. I know dogs are different than kids, but he barely takes care of our dog, that is not to say he doesn't love her and give her affection and he is happy she's with us. But, he has no idea what brand of food she eats, how much she eats, what her schedule is, where her vet is. It's scary how oblivious he is. Of course, if he were ever curious and asked, I'd tell him anything he wanted to know. It's just, he doesn't want to know because he knows I'll deal with all that stuff, so I guess it's partly my fault? I'm not angry about it though, I love being a dog owner, this is what I signed up for when we adopted our dog. It's just an observation. I happen to come from the place if it's your responsibility (like our dog and non-future kids would be), you should show an interest and engage yourself.

Gabriel Garcia Marquez said it best, and I believe it applies to my boyfriend "If men gave birth, they'd be less inconsiderate."

Though, he's not incosiderate so much as he's oblivious, which can often be mistaken for being inconsiderate.

parenting

I would say bein a parent cause marriage is a 50/50 thing so u can give but so much and u should get it in return but bein a parent u have to live for the kids for a long time and make sure u teach them well so they can become great adults. A husband can go and u can find another but u will always have that child in ur life.