How are some parents parents?

I have kids just to sell them on the black market...do you know how much white babies are going for these days?!

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The level of stupid is strong in this planet. That's all.

OMG, sounds like it is a miracle she can dress herself in the morning.

You have to have a license to run a business, drive a car or be a nail technician. There is no training required for parenthood.

Note: I am not advocating gov't intervention before having children. There are millions of good parents out there!! Me being one of them, ha!!

In my work I have come across a lot of people who don't get what many other people call common sense. Think about what underlying knowledge or skill that leads you to the conclusion that not paying attention as you push a stroller is more important than a text. Most of us would say we value the life of our kids. But think deeper, there is a system of prioritizing mental and physical activities and demands that you learned as you grew up, or did not and learned out in the cruel world. The point is, this was ingrained in you from someone or some circumstances. Not everyone is exposed to the same people and circumstances and then where are they going to learn it? is it their fault that they did not have the privileged that many others of us have had? Not mentally prioritizing the safety of children of a text from Michael is not the same as not valuing the life of those kids. It works out differently in the brain.
The judgement that many of us pass on those we see as stupid or unfit or whatever other label we use is nothing more than a reflection of our privilege. Who are we to decide whether someone else should or could procreate.
Also, we don't know if this person has untreated ADHD, or is in an abusive relationship or what.

For the record, I am not saying its OK to neglect children for the sake of a text. But ask yourself why you are posting, and why we are passing judgement, your motives aren't for the sake of the children either.

Meh.

You're example isn't horrible...

We all can lack good judgement as parents sometimes. Learn a lot from hindsight. It doesn't mean we aren't good parents.

just like leaving your kids in the car even 'briefly'.

The stats are high here; literally one kid every hour is dying as it's <40 degrees!

Stupidity.

I ask this question often.

You wouldn't believe what I see on a daily basis. Moms bring their kids to Court to "see Daddy," "Wave to Daddy" Daddy is the one chained up with an orange jumpsuit on. Disgusting

For the record, I am not saying its OK to neglect children for the sake of a text. But ask yourself why you are posting, and why we are passing judgement, your motives aren't for the sake of the children either.

I posted it because I was appalled that a text was that important vs ensuring her children were safe. I observed it and gave my opinion. Whether or not you agree it was asinine or not doesn't change my opinion of it since if it were my own kids, I'd have waited to at least stop in a safer area before texting back.

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From what I've seen of ninerbuff over the last year or so I totally believe he was doing it because of those children that were being totally neglected. She could have killed them and he tried to help. You are so wrong.

The judgement that many of us pass on those we see as stupid or unfit or whatever other label we use is nothing more than a reflection of our privilege. Who are we to decide whether someone else should or could procreate.
Also, we don't know if this person has untreated ADHD, or is in an abusive relationship or what.

For the record, I am not saying its OK to neglect children for the sake of a text. But ask yourself why you are posting, and why we are passing judgement, your motives aren't for the sake of the children either.

here comes the PC brigade...

The children should come first. If She has ADHD then get on medication, if in an abusive relationship....well guess what there is help out there and you don't need to risk your childrens lives because of that either. FFS.

I'll admit I have texted someone while pushing my sons pram - but in places like public parks, or stopped at the side of the indoor shopping centre etc. Never near a road or anything of the likes.

I wouldn't say the girl was neglecting her children based on that sole piece of information, and maybe it was a completely one-off isolated incident and it was unfortunate to happen at that moment in time, but I would say she needs to be more careful.

One incident like that does not mean she doesn't care about her children; doesn't do her utmost to ensure their safety and well-being: it doesn't mean she is a terrible parent. What it does mean is that she needs to have a look at her priorities at given times, and rearrange them.

First of all it happened. And then second of all she responded by defending her actions.

Thankfully ninerbuff was there to save her children. And I'm sure it was unsettling to see and experience that, to say the least. It's not "privileged judgement" to talk about that (in response to the other poster that said so), not by any stretch. What if he had not been there to save her children! Think about that. His "motives" were for saving the children.

I don't think it's any different from texting and driving. And there are PSA's about that. You can't be focused on texting while in motion and not encounter potential disaster. I've seen people walk right in front of my car doing that, fall over top my baby stroller. And videos of people falling into fountains. It's funny when it's just a person falling in a fountain. Not funny when it's children falling into traffic.

If aimed at me I completely agree. Thankfully someone was there to help, and god forbid she was alone. However, that one incident may be the only incident she's ever had, or will ever have, and that alone cannot justify people saying she shouldn't be a parent, is neglectful etc.

Being on a phone while pushing a stroller takes just as much attention as talking on a phone, talking to someone else etc - just as it does in a car.

She isn't a neglectful parent, she isn't a bad parent (and based on that one incident I don't see why she shouldn't be a parent) but she does need to become a more careful, prioritised person in general - even if she weren't pushing a stroller, she may have wandered into busy traffic alone because she was texting.