Dating to Marriage

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  • NavyKnightAh13
    NavyKnightAh13 Posts: 1,394 Member
    Up to the couple really.

    My husband and I were together a year before getting engaged, was engaged for 2 years before tying the knot, and are coming up on our 3 year wedding anniversary in Sept, and have been together a total of almost 6 years (started dating in 2008, got engaged in 2009, got married in 2011 and had our son in 2012).
  • umachanxo
    umachanxo Posts: 926 Member
    I think it really depends on the couple. My in laws have been together for 28 years and they're not married, but still happy.
    My husband and I got engaged about 3 years after we started dating. We've been married 2 years in April :)
  • mooglysmom
    mooglysmom Posts: 319 Member
    You can't set a time limit on a relationship. It either works, or it doesn't. If either party isn't sure, then its probably not the right time or person.

    My husband and I have been together nearly 16 years. High school sweethearts. We dated for 5 years before we got married, but we both knew right away that we wanted to be with the other.

    Long term commitments don't exactly equal marriage. But, again, that's something both parties have to decide on.
  • TheSlorax
    TheSlorax Posts: 2,401 Member
    TIL that my cat is the reason I'm single


    That *kitten*

    IKR? And apparently less attractive. Who knew?

    Damn... I guess I need to find out what my new number is. No way I can be a 7 when I own a cat.
  • brevislux
    brevislux Posts: 1,093 Member
    It depends on so many things. My cousin and his girlfriend have been together since they were 15. They're now 31 and it doesn't seem like they're planning to marry, and maybe they never would. I don't think it actually matters - they love each other and they aren't any less of a couple than anyone else.

    My boyfriend and I have been together for less than a year, but we have a shared household and I'm emotionally ready for marriage and I know for sure we'll be together for life. But wedding business isn't really on my mind at the moment - I have much more urgent things to do. Maybe we would get married and maybe not. All in all, I don't think it matters if it happens in six months, six years or never.
  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
    I am up early drinking coffee with my two cats. I am watching a HALLMARK Movie about weddings. Just curious..what is the normal length of time people are together before getting engaged? If someone waits 3years--is something wrong?

    Two cats is likely to be perceived as problematic. Most men that I have spoken to about women who own cats believe cat ownership is a red flag. It does not enhance your attractiveness to potential partners, it reduces it in many cases.

    3 years of being a couple before tying the knot isn’t an abnormally long time.
    I was engaged for 11yrs and then I finally broke it off. I couldn't love him the way he needed loved. He was only my friend. Then I met a guy and he proposed to me after 3 months. Then 3 months later we were married. Then 3 months later we divorced. Then after some time I started dating my boyfriend (well...now ex-boyfriend). We dated 3yrs and no engagement. Im 37 almost 38. I don't have kids. I feel my clock ticking. I just feel it shouldn't take a person 3+ years to decide if the relationship is a forever relationship.

    I think a big part of the reason that you feel 3 years is a long time is because of your age. If you were 27 about to turn 28, you would be less concerned about it.

    Also, with a divorce, shouldn’t you be more hesitant about marrying again? At this point, it isn’t like you haven’t been married and you feel like you need to be married for a sense of accomplishment. There are people who get to 37 and have never been married.

    It seems like the 11 year relationship was the crucial relationship.

    I can't tell if you actually BELIEVE the stuff you post or if you're just the world's worst troll. Laughable, man. Just plain laughable.
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    I dated my ex for three months before we moved in together, 10 months before we got married. I don't regret it, but probably would go with a longer dating/living together time frame next time.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Damn, I have two cats. It all makes sense now.
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
    Damn, I have two cats. It all makes sense now.

    Pu$$ies getting in the way of pu$$y. Who knew.
  • dayone987
    dayone987 Posts: 645 Member
    Dated 3 months, engaged for 2 months, married 31 years:smile:
  • PinkyFett
    PinkyFett Posts: 842 Member
    5+ years, 2 kids for me. Still a mistake since he waited until after we're married to cheat on me. Oh well, live and learn.
  • lilred806
    lilred806 Posts: 195 Member
    I met my husband when i was 17 he waited two years before we got engaged then we were engaged for 2 years. So when we got married we had been together for 4 years. We have now been married 12 years. My parents dated for a few months when my grandmother said the two should just go get married already. There was no official engagement and they have been married 42 years. I once had a psychology professor say people should know each other at least 5 years before getting married. He said it took at least that long to get to know someone. He also believed people should live together before marriage. So I don't think there is a right or wrong just what works for a couples relationship.
  • krawhitham
    krawhitham Posts: 831 Member
    3 years definitely isn't bad! especially in this economy, you have to be financially secure before you get married and have a family. it's so expensive. and then there are weirdos like me and my boyfriend who have been together for almost two years, we've talked about marriage but neither of us are really jumping on planning a wedding anytime soon. it's a headache and a piece of paper isn't what defines our relationship.
  • bearkisses
    bearkisses Posts: 1,252 Member
    i waited 7, i got fidgety near the end, and waiting was worth it, it really gave us time to work on our relationship
  • GlitterrMagpie
    GlitterrMagpie Posts: 302 Member

    Two cats is likely to be perceived as problematic. Most men that I have spoken to about women who own cats believe cat ownership is a red flag. It does not enhance your attractiveness to potential partners, it reduces it in many cases.

    This only applies to men who hate cats and I'm guessing she wouldn't want to marry one of those.
  • mmartinez_az
    mmartinez_az Posts: 580
    Dont get married, the break ups are worse.Get married and if it does not workout than its goverment paper work, hate, time consuming etc. Break up without being married you pack your crap and say "see ya", and get on with your life.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I asked my wife to marry me on our second date. We got married 18 months later and have been married almost 22 years. There was no question that she was the perfect woman for me. There is no question today that I was right then.

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