Angry FB Friends

StPattysGrl
StPattysGrl Posts: 74
edited September 22 in Health and Weight Loss
Not sure what folder to post this but....

Anyone have the experience of posting your MFP updates on your Facebook page... and then having a friend get pissed off at you about it?

Totally just went through that with a nasty comment on my "Completed Food Diary" status on my FB page tonight. Sad :(

I've decided to not allow my updates here to post on FB. Lesson learned!
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  • PrincessPudgy
    PrincessPudgy Posts: 59
    Why are they angry about it?! Surely they could just hit the "x" and select "hide all updated from "my fitness pal"" if it bothered them so much.

    In my opinion it's kind of rude that they're angry that you wanted to share your success with them.
  • TaneeisFitforLife
    TaneeisFitforLife Posts: 433
    Sounds like your friend is jealous :X

    I've never had a friend on FB say something nasty about my weight loss stuff...they have all been my cheerleaders :) If they did be mean I'd jump all over them lol maybe that's why?
  • newman84
    newman84 Posts: 234 Member
    wow that sucks, my friends always say nice things when it posts mine.
  • poodlepaws
    poodlepaws Posts: 269 Member
    I blocked my MFP updates on FB just because I use exact numbers here and don't over there. I don't think they all need to know my current stat's since some of them are thin and don't need to know what I'm so embarrassed about.
    Anyway, that was more than kinda rude and just plain MEAN!
  • lukasmac
    lukasmac Posts: 216 Member
    yikes, sorry to hear, but keep it up... who needs FB anyway when you have MFP :)
  • azlady7
    azlady7 Posts: 471 Member
    Why are they angry about it?! Surely they could just hit the "x" and select "hide all updated from "my fitness pal"" if it bothered them so much.

    In my opinion it's kind of rude that they're angry that you wanted to share your success with them.

    totally agree! add some of us and we will be more than happy to support you here and there!
  • softlyspoken68
    softlyspoken68 Posts: 78
    Pretty sad how they're acting
    Jealousy is evil
    i don't put mine because i didn't want my friends there knowing all my details...:)
  • softlyspoken68
    softlyspoken68 Posts: 78
    i agree...add me anytime
    tami manry self
  • AdrianneD
    AdrianneD Posts: 1
    Do not be discouraged by those who are not as strong as you, I post mine on facebook because it serves as a motivation to not give up. That person is only thinking about themselves not giving you praise for your hard work. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK :)
  • cmw9696
    cmw9696 Posts: 123
    I don't post to facebook, because frankly, they don't want or need to know. In reality, they are not in the same place as the people on MFP.

    Everyone here has a common goal of eating and exercising, getting healthy, etc.
  • StPattysGrl
    StPattysGrl Posts: 74
    Thanks for all of the responses! This "friend" is a pretty grumpy friend and totally not surprising that she would make a snide comment. She basically said she's annoyed by these posts, is happy for me blah blah blah, but would still prefer if I'd stop posting about it.

    I've decided I'm going to keep all MFP updates... MFP exclusive :)
  • MadiCole
    MadiCole Posts: 13
    I keep my FB and MFP separate for this exact reason. I think many of my friends would be spiteful, and others would be just plain nosy. I honestly prefer keeping my weight loss to myself though. I've had quite a few people try to influence me to change things about my "healthy living" that I just don't agree with, so MFP is like a private getaway for me.
  • StPattysGrl
    StPattysGrl Posts: 74
    I had kept it so that only when I completed a food diary, that would be the only update that posted on FB. None of my other MFP updates would go on FB. So it was a once a night thing. I didn't want to bombard people with MFP, but at the same time I hoped maybe some of my other friends might be encouraged to join me in my efforts. But I've changed my settings now though.
  • WonderNoodle
    WonderNoodle Posts: 549
    i get sick of farmville post so i hide them. i don't take it out against the people playing. i agree that it sounds more like somebody who isn't jealous and upset that your sucess may be reminding them that they "aren't".

    i have a family member who trys to sabatoge those of us trying so that they aren't left behind. they don't want to lose. well, don't. but i DO.

    i'd post a reply, telling them to simply click the X and hide mfp if it bothers them.

    WE are here to support you! :drinker:
  • blel0906
    blel0906 Posts: 89
    I don't have the two accounts connected...I have a variety of people on my facebook, friends, old friends, former co workers, relatives and a few farmville strangers ...They do not need to know what I'm doing...thus far I've been keeping my efforts private. Something about telling people your going on a diet and your suddenly under attack...everyone's an expert, someone trys to turn it into a competition, an heaven forbid you slip up...NO THANK YOU...I like this site because for the most part we all have the same goal...some people have made it some people are still stuggling, The WTG's are sincere and I love getting advice from others that have gone through or are going through what I am.

    Although I can't imagine why someone would get nasty with you over it...I've had friends post they dropped x amount of lbs or started running etc and I just give them the like and if I really don't care i just ignore and move on to other posts...
  • WonderNoodle
    WonderNoodle Posts: 549
    I don't post to facebook, because frankly, they don't want or need to know. In reality, they are not in the same place as the people on MFP.

    Everyone here has a common goal of eating and exercising, getting healthy, etc.

    well said! i do post to fb so that my family (the supportive ones) can keep me in check.
  • toots99
    toots99 Posts: 3,794 Member
    I don't post to facebook, because frankly, they don't want or need to know. In reality, they are not in the same place as the people on MFP.

    Everyone here has a common goal of eating and exercising, getting healthy, etc.

    Same here.
  • sandra80
    sandra80 Posts: 308 Member
    i set up so only the announcements of how much i lost get published there. they don't need to know everytime i complete my food diary or add an exercise.
  • WonderNoodle
    WonderNoodle Posts: 549
    ..but, i've got 5 of my fb friends to start using mfp because they were encouraged by my posts. :flowerforyou:
  • rckola911
    rckola911 Posts: 24 Member
    your friend sounds like a *****. someone like that should not even be your friend. I agree though all that stuff is better listed here with us like minded people.
  • StPattysGrl
    StPattysGrl Posts: 74
    I'll just call it a "newbie lesson learned". I wasn't trying to rub it in anyones face... which is why I changed my settings to only show that a food diary had been completed. I thought that was harmless enough. But lesson learned.... no more FB updates from here on out.
  • kewkdb
    kewkdb Posts: 207 Member
    I don't publish my MFP to Facebook because it's pretty spammy and really does annoy people. It's akin to all those stupid game updates like Mafia Wars and Farmville. If you have blocked those, like I and many others, then you would block someones MFP updates as well.
  • theresnoeggs
    theresnoeggs Posts: 188 Member
    I understand some dont want to see it, but for me it helps keep me accountable...
  • HappyTemple
    HappyTemple Posts: 57
    Wow, your "friend" sounds like a cranky old bat who is either jealous or just plain bad. I vote for "thinning out the herd" on your FB friends list! Who needs that kind of negative feedback? Shouldn't friends be supportive and happy for our successes?
  • kewkdb
    kewkdb Posts: 207 Member
    Wow, your "friend" sounds like a cranky old bat who is either jealous or just plain bad. I vote for "thinning out the herd" on your FB friends list! Who needs that kind of negative feedback? Shouldn't friends be supportive and happy for our successes?

    When you have a lot of friends and you all of them are spamming your facebook with these applications it gets extremely annoying because it blocks out the real information that you want to read.

    I do agree that the negative feedback was unnecessary. However, it was likely due to the lack of understanding how facebook works. IE they can simply block it from posting to their wall.
  • KarenJean81
    KarenJean81 Posts: 117 Member
    I dont have my mfp and fb connected, but I do occasionally post my progress to facebook. II've had mainly encouraging feedback with one or two nasty comments. I decided to consider any and all reasons why this should be before acting. One friend, is no longer on my list,(its a constant negativity I decided I dont need) and the other as it turns out was rather hormonal, (just found out shes 4 months) and later apologized. I'd suggest considering what can have made them respond that way before reacting.
  • TrainingWithTonya
    TrainingWithTonya Posts: 1,741 Member
    Thanks for all of the responses! This "friend" is a pretty grumpy friend and totally not surprising that she would make a snide comment. She basically said she's annoyed by these posts, is happy for me blah blah blah, but would still prefer if I'd stop posting about it.

    I've decided I'm going to keep all MFP updates... MFP exclusive :)

    Maybe I'm a b!¿<# but I would post them more often just to tick her off. She has the option of blocking all MFP posts from her own newsfeed and has absolutely no right to dictate what you post to your own FB wall.
  • Lyadeia
    Lyadeia Posts: 4,603 Member
    Thanks for all of the responses! This "friend" is a pretty grumpy friend and totally not surprising that she would make a snide comment. She basically said she's annoyed by these posts, is happy for me blah blah blah, but would still prefer if I'd stop posting about it.

    I've decided I'm going to keep all MFP updates... MFP exclusive :)

    Maybe I'm a b!¿<# but I would post them more often just to tick her off. She has the option of blocking all MFP posts from her own newsfeed and has absolutely no right to dictate what you post to your own FB wall.

    Haha, I was thinking that too.

    I am personally proud of all my successes and couldn't care less what the haters have to say. They can deal with it, cause at least I am not calling them up and bragging in their ears or something.

    I say keep doing what you are doing, cause your jealous friend can do something else other than whine about it to you...it's easy to ignore posts!!!
  • claribeln02
    claribeln02 Posts: 39
    Sounds like a jealous friend who might not really be your friend. Maybe you should block that person from your "friends list"..
  • harleygirl6363
    harleygirl6363 Posts: 426 Member
    First I want to say that person doesnt sound like a friend at all. A true friend would cheer you on and support you in your life change. So sorry this happened. Second I only allowed MFP to post my weight loss to my status maybe update it on here to what you would like to update on there. If someone can not accept you for what you are doing its a sad day of jealousy for sure. Add me on FB if you would like I will support your journey Jessika Hettich Good luck on the weight loss
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