The day after - who should contact who?
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It's true, the games are there.
And the cool thing is that you can choose not to play them.
I choose to not play games at all after the age of about 24 / 25. If I wanted to buy a girl flowers on the first date that's exactly what I did. If I wanted to call the next day I did. If I wanted to buy her dinner before I slept with her I did. The worst that happened is I weeded out girls who were simply not right for me and found more who were and I had a great time with.
I guess if you only want to get laid then games are fine. If you want a decent relationship then I say start as you mean to go on....0 -
I really don't think you should call. Men like to pursue. If he wants to see you again he'll call you.0
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It's true, the games are there.
And the cool thing is that you can choose not to play them.
I choose to not play games at all after the age of about 24 / 25. If I wanted to buy a girl flowers on the first date that's exactly what I did. If I wanted to call the next day I did. If I wanted to buy her dinner before I slept with her I did. The worst that happened is I weeded out girls who were simply not right for me and found more who were and I had a great time with.
I guess if you only want to get laid then games are fine. If you want a decent relationship then I say start as you mean to go on....
Thank you. This is called being a grown-up.0 -
If you like him and want to see him again, then call. If he gets freaked out by that then there is a very definite signal that that's someone you don't need in your life. Don't start planning your wedding or asking him whether he wants to come home with you next Christmas already, but keep the communication open and if he's a decent guy (or girl if it's the other way round) then you can work out whether you want the same thing. If not, then you still had a night of good sexytime and you haven't lost anything....
Except maybe your favourite bra, that's always to be avoided.0 -
After our first time, I got up in the morning and made him a full English breakfast in bed. We are getting married in 4 months. :laugh:0
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I really don't think you should call. Men like to pursue. If he wants to see you again he'll call you.
Gah. Perpetuating the games.0 -
games are for children.
do what feels right to you.
life is too short to always worry about how others will perceive you.0 -
lmaooooo @ option 2.. something tells me if you text that you're pretty scott free on them pursuing you haha so its a good out!I text / call the next morning because I feel like it's pretty freaking rude not to
even if it's just "hey thanks for a great time last night"
or "hey, last night was fun, but you should probably be aware that they're shipping me out today. I can't reveal much but... aliens."
wait no don't use that second one0 -
So really now. What are the rules?
Is this really a topic for discussion??? I mean we are all adults... If someone has issues with this then I worry about how our society is doing downhill fast. *SMH0 -
i try not to call cause most of those russians on the website charge like $4.95 + a minute0
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Who cares? Not me; I've been married almost 34 years! And what, pray tell, has this to do with fitness or weight loss? Maybe you should take this to Facebook........0
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Who cares? Not me; I've been married almost 34 years! And what, pray tell, has this to do with fitness or weight loss? Maybe you should take this to Facebook........
You must be new around here. This is the chit-chat section. Maybe you should stick to the other sections. :flowerforyou:0 -
If I like the guy and actually want to continue the relationship, be it romantic or just a casual situation, I will call or text the next day, unless he beats me to it. Honestly I don't care if it makes me seem "needy". So what? I have needs. If the guy doesn't want to fulfill them, he won't reply. A good guy won't care if you called first.0
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So really now. What are the rules?
Is this really a topic for discussion??? I mean we are all adults... If someone has issues with this then I worry about how our society is doing downhill fast. *SMH
It's a mess.
If it were easy, everyone would be happily married and no one would ever get divorced.
And for what it's worth, I will fight to hold onto my relationship because I sure as hell don't want to date again!0 -
Don't text first.
Never text first.0 -
The rule is this:
You're 35, not 19. Assuming he isn't 19 either, then text/call whenever.0 -
guys do like to persue, and women do want to be wanted. but guys also like to be wanted. and women also like the chase. if it was fun, and you'd like to have sex again, does it really matter who texts who first?0
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I usually do not get texts from a woman unless she is a littleCall me old fashioned... but a text? No way.
Sex or a good date deserves a phone call if there is an interest in seeing someone again. No interest? No call. End of story.If you want to call, call. Don't play games and you will find someone else who doesn't play games, eventually.0 -
Maybe its just me.........but I don't **** just anything so I dont have to worry about this.......
sad, that I am a guy saying this....
seriously....0 -
the rules change, depending on which game you're playing.
if it's "just for fun," typically the first person who wants another round makes contact.
if it's something more emotionally attached, like you were talking (not just flirting, but actually talking) beforehand, then just stick to the same routine.
and women seem to be famous for being fickle, so don't worry about seeming "clingy" now, you can always seem "detached" later.0
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