men... own your height, don't lie about it...

Going by your post, it seems like women NEVER lie about their height. Sorry but in my experience it is absolutely not true. i had a arranged marriage, exchange profiles, meet the girl , meet the parents and all that. And if there is one thing I learnt after two dozen such meets: subtract two inches from the height a girl mentions in her profile. And what you get might still be her height with five inch platforms.

So do I list my height with or without shoes?

You're not doing it right.

I totally don't have the legs to pull off THOSE shoes! ... yet.

I'm just under 5"11 .. I have no reason to lie.. pretty damn tall for an Asian.

I've met several men from dating sites, and the number of them who claim to be 6' (and aren't even close) is just astounding. So I guess they don't realize that I can tell they were lying? 5'9" or 5'10" is not 6'. Hell, I'm not even 6' tall myself (just a bit under) so when I show up--in flats, as usual--they look at me like I grew a second head. And of course they make a rude comment about my height after expressing shock at how tall I am. If they lie about something that simple, what else are they lying about?

No thanks. I don't do online dating anymore, but if I did, I'd regard any man who puts 6' in his profile with great suspicion.

I will date shorter men. Well, at least 5'8". But that's only because I'm so tall myself. And just because women have lied about their weight, it doesn't excuse men who lie about their height.

There is some data somewhere that says on dating websites, men lie about their height, by saying they are a little taller than they are.

And women lie about their size, saying they are a little bit smaller than they are.

When I was younger and single, I went on a dating website and told the truth about my height (5ft 8). I was screened out automatically by the women who wanted someone taller. My exceedingly ugly, but 6 foot mate got more attention, just because he was taller.

So, what should I have done? Lied, like everyone else? I didn't, but maybe I should have done.

I presume this is about online dating because unless you are blind it's pretty obvious if someone measures up to your expectations if you meet them in real life.

With regard to online dating I think most men, if they misrepresent their height, do so deliberately - a little white lie. This is because I guess they know if they put down their true height they would get screened out automatically and therefore never get the chance to make a connection. I guess it is playing the odds a bit in the hope that if a lady actually views the profile they may think "hey, this is a really great guy" and that ultimately it won't matter so much if their height isn't quite up to par (pardon the pun) as they have so much else going for them.

So what is the logical conclusion of all of this? The more people know that others lie on internet dating the more they will be encouraged to fabricate the truth to improve their own chances. This in turn pushes out genuine people after a while as they are bored of playing games. What you are left with are the liars, the players and the uninterested eventually...