need help as husband brings alot of bad food!
wriri7_x
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Since getting married I've put on weight as my husband is constantly bringing bad food, sweets, chochs, crisps, cakes, you name it ! I always say I wont eat them but i end up eating them! how can i stop myself eating the crap he brings. and yes i've asked him to stop but he doesnt and hes skinny as hell too!!! ufair.
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Since getting married I've put on weight as my husband is constantly bringing bad food, sweets, chochs, crisps, cakes, you name it ! I always say I wont eat them but i end up eating them! how can i stop myself eating the crap he brings. and yes i've asked him to stop but he doesnt and hes skinny as hell too!!! ufair.
I think it is going to be up to you to control yourself and work on some strategies to not go over your calories.0 -
If my husband brings anything home I throw it out. BAM! Problem solved!0
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Only you can make the choice on whether or not to put something in your mouth. Buy more healthy food for yourself and stick to that. Maybe as a compromise, ask your husband not to have these trigger foods out in the open. If you don't see it, you won't want to eat it. OR have ONE SERVING SIZE of the foods he bring and ONLY THAT. However, if bingeing is an issue for you, out of sigh and out of mind is the better approach.0
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How do you stop eating "the crap"? You make a decision that you will not eat it, and you follow thru. Simple as that.0
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I still buy some snack for my kids, I just don't eat them. But it doesn't stop them from eating my healthy snacks,lol0
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how can you stop yourself? just have some willpower. just say no.
i smoked for years. it sucked having to quit. i liked smoking, but i started to like exercise more. so i stopped smoking pretty much cold turkey. ii would slip up and have a cigarette and i'd feel horrible. but little by little my slip ups started being fewer and further between. 'll admit that i still occaisonally cave in and have a social cigarette. i had one last thursday. but my last one before that was two months ago.
so think of it like quitting smoking. you have to take control of your actions and cut it out. go cold turkey or ween yourself off. allow your self a bite of the junk and then leave the room. whatever it takes.0 -
Simpy...do not eat it. He's not forcing you to eat it. You have to make the commitment. Don't blame him, cuz' you ate the junk food or that he brought it home. It's all will power. You can do this. Show him that you don't need it and that you have the will power to refuse.0
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Ultimately what goes into your mouth is up to you, even if he didn't bring home those items you would have to still make the decision when you go out.
That being said, it sucks that he actually sticks temptation in your face.0 -
My husband often buys snacks for himself and our daughter that I have a hard time resisting. I don't ban them from our home, but I do ask him to keep them off of the counters and out of sight in the pantry. If I don't see them, I'm usually able to resist.
I also make sure to have snacks that I can have readily available, so if they start eating oreos, I have something that I like at the same time.0 -
I just bring it to parties and leave it there.0
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My ex would tell me I was too fat then he would bring home gallons of my favorite ice cream and eat it in front of me. I saw it for what it was: his way of controlling my behavior since he knew I was a compulsive overeater. For that and other reasons, I dumped him and the crap went with him (BTW, I'm not advocating this approach for everyone). I am still a COE and at times get out of control but nothing like before. Maybe if you explained it to him that way, he'll stop.
If he doesn't, how about this alternative worked out by me and my son: Give him a cabinet that can be locked and have him lock the crap in it. If it needs to be refrigerated or frozen, small fridges and freezers are obtainable and some can be locked, then have him lock up his junk food. Seriously, this compromise should make everyone happy. :bigsmile:0 -
Since getting married I've put on weight as my husband is constantly bringing bad food, sweets, chochs, crisps, cakes, you name it ! I always say I wont eat them but i end up eating them! how can i stop myself eating the crap he brings. and yes i've asked him to stop but he doesnt and hes skinny as hell too!!! ufair.
I tell my husband, He HAS to HIDE it. He can eat it, that is fine. But it has to be out of my sight. And I keep the healthier snacks around in view, fruits, yogurt, nuts. I also convince him to get the bad foods I don't like, that he likes. I also let him know, if he doesn't hide or get things I don't like, then I will throw it away, then put soap on top of it, so I'm not tempted.0 -
If my husband brings anything home I throw it out. BAM! Problem solved!
Lol! Don't forget to squirt dishwashing liquid on it so you're not tempted to dig it back out. I've been guilty of that in the past. It used to kill me to know one of the kids put a takeout container in the trash that had a perfectly good enchilada in it. I used to grab the container and go into the bathroom so she didn't know I lied when I said I didn't want her leftovers. Talk about messed up in the head! My other sneaky trick was to tell the kids to put their plates on the counter and I'd scrape the food off when I did the dishes. Then I'd tiptoe into the kitchen and scrape the food off right into my mouth. Ugh. I'm embarrassed to even admit that now.0 -
If my husband brings anything home I throw it out. BAM! Problem solved!
Queens girls be cray cray0 -
If my husband brings anything home I throw it out. BAM! Problem solved!
Queens girls be cray cray
A little bit, yeah. But we're super fun!0 -
Make him keep it in his man cave. I struggled with that for years and my husband would always say "well, control yourself" and I'd say, I do - I don't buy it. I think for a short while I started jumping on everything he brought in and snarfing it down until it finally registered (but don't do that - it's fattening). I know how hard that struggle is, so good luck!
Although I do like the throw it away idea!0 -
I think that if you're feeling good about what you're achieving and you're seeing real positive results, you are more likely to look at the bad food your husband brings home and feel empowered to avoid it.
The next time you tell yourself you won't eat it, the easier it will be the time after that.0 -
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Just have to face the facts that he's not the one trying to lose weight and eat better.
I make a full breakfast for my husband while sipping on my protein shake....its tempting, it sucks, but you can't blame him for it. Just keep a lot of healthy snacks around to munch on when you get tempted.0 -
Wow. :noway:0
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If my husband brings anything home I throw it out. BAM! Problem solved!
Lol! Don't forget to squirt dishwashing liquid on it so you're not tempted to dig it back out. I've been guilty of that in the past. It used to kill me to know one of the kids put a takeout container in the trash that had a perfectly good enchilada in it. I used to grab the container and go into the bathroom so she didn't know I lied when I said I didn't want her leftovers. Talk about messed up in the head! My other sneaky trick was to tell the kids to put their plates on the counter and I'd scrape the food off when I did the dishes. Then I'd tiptoe into the kitchen and scrape the food off right into my mouth. Ugh. I'm embarrassed to even admit that now.
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My husband does the same and he didn't believe me that its hard with certain foods for me not to eat them. Well my daughter doesn't eat cookies, he bought Vienna Fingers, one of my favorites, and three days later they were gone and he had none. So he got the message and doesn't buy foods that are my triggers. Or if he does, he hides them from me. He had Oreos one time and hid them in the bedroom so I wouldn't eat them. NO clue where he put them.
Just for the record, he buys stuff for himself then forgets he bought it.
Well what I do to counteract most of the junk is I buy fat free pudding (actually get almond milk pudding now) or jello or anything that will keep from the junk. Its not always perfect and after Halloween I got into the candy a bit, but it really helps.
I also try if I do have junk to limit the amount, one hershey kiss, etc. If you can do that too it helps.
FYI, after holidays when we have cake and cookies left over, if they aren't things he will eat, garbage or bring to work, etc.0 -
Interesting how the answers gravitate to the two extremes: "nobody makes you eat it" and "banish it from the earth" and no one suggested the adult approach - have an open, honest conversation with the person you lay your head next to every night.0
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poor accountability and will in this thread.....sad.
Coupled with the need to control what other people bring into their own house... yes it is very sad... I would be telling some of the women here to get to steppin!
No wonder the divorce rate is so high. Have some self control and stop trying to control your SO...0 -
I just eat it lol I love junk food. I just make sure I can eat some and not go over or if I do I go work it off. If it ends up being a lot and I have to run for 3 hours to make it go away then I will second guess eating that much next time lol. But I'ma junk food junkie so I don't just say no. Lol. I am pretty good about eating okay most of the time but I don't wanna be the girl who is miserable at dinner and bitter Bc everyone else gets to eat the yummy food and I'm over here eating lettuce n carrots Bc I wanna be "skinny". Eff that! I also wanna be happy so I try to find a middle area where I do what I enjoy but try to be conscious of my body.
It's not easy at times but it keeps me from football tackling 6 yr olds for their ice cream cones lol0 -
If my husband brings anything home I throw it out. BAM! Problem solved!
If you are not joking then that is very sad... I feel bad for your husband.0 -
Interesting how the answers gravitate to the two extremes: "nobody makes you eat it" and "banish it from the earth" and no one suggested the adult approach - have an open, honest conversation with the person you lay your head next to every night.
She said that she's spoken to him about it and he brings it home anyway. It sounds like they're at an impasse if he's not willing to budge.
That being said, I admit that I am in the "nobody makes you eat it" camp, since I see that as the healthier approach. You have to learn to deal with life on its terms, I do feel that throwing it out or otherwise banishing it is starting down the slippery slope of becoming controlling and unreasonable.0 -
Interesting how the answers gravitate to the two extremes: "nobody makes you eat it" and "banish it from the earth" and no one suggested the adult approach - have an open, honest conversation with the person you lay your head next to every night.
Nothing extreme about just not eating it and having self control.0 -
I would break up. It is the only way to get thin.0
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Yup. Divorce.
Or self control. Whichever is cheaper and makes you happy.0
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