Warning: This is a rant

You're not dating Nutellabrah, are you? :huh:

1. I would not take advice on form from someone who goes to the gym once a month.

2. Stop going to the gym with him, go alone.

3. You don't need to tell him what you're doing. Start squatting, get dat *kitten*, and when he cops a feel just say "yeah honey, that treadmill's doing wonders"

4. He is kinda right about googling/youtubing. Watch tons of videos until you get the idea then go ahead and do it. Start with the bar until you're comfortable with your form, then up your weights. If really unsure, ask someone who looks like they know what they're doing for some pointers. Most people will gladly help.

5. I recommend Starting strength or Stronglifts as a routine. They are easy to follow and effective.

He was right in one thing though, the internet is a wonderful place to get information if you go to the appropriate sources.

My husband is a lifter, but because of timing circumstances, we didn't get to work out together except maybe once a month. I learned almost everything by watching videos and just mimicking the more seasoned lifters in the gym. Most people learn it by just going and doing it.

That could backfire if you're a beginner without much knowledge though. For example, an experienced lifter could be doing a body-part split routine with several isolation exercises. It would be a mistake for a beginner to mimic such a routine.

Being informed can save you a lot of trial and error.

what?

leave the boyfriend alone


if you want to do something learn it yourself.

There are plenty of videos on form AND groups here that will do form checks etc.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/10118-eat-train-progress

You're not dating Nutellabrah, are you? :huh:

Marry me

I do! I do!

He was right in one thing though, the internet is a wonderful place to get information if you go to the appropriate sources.

My husband is a lifter, but because of timing circumstances, we didn't get to work out together except maybe once a month. I learned almost everything by watching videos and just mimicking the more seasoned lifters in the gym. Most people learn it by just going and doing it.

That could backfire if you're a beginner without much knowledge though. For example, an experienced lifter could be doing a body-part split routine with several isolation exercises. It would be a mistake for a beginner to mimic such a routine.

Being informed can save you a lot of trial and error.

There was the part where I suggested she pick up a couple books and watch a ton of videos. Obviously she's not going to mimic a routine in its entirety. Watching other people perform the exercises she wants to perform, however....There is a distinction, you know. If she wants to learn to squat, for example, she's not going to mimic the guy doing bent over rows.

But not really sure I care that much. The otherwise sound advice in here is being ignored, and the only focus seems to be that people think OP's boyfriend is a jerk.

OP, why come on the internet and go on for a couple paragraphs about what a jerk your boyfriend is if you don't want people to agree with you? There's plenty of sound advice here. Either take it or not. I'm not interested in giving any more pointers.

And he is your boyfriend why?

Just because he won't help me at the gym, doesn't mean he's a terrible person. Jesus *kitten* everybody...

Exactly what were you expecting people to say?

You're right. This is the internet. Silly me. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I mean, if you don't want people thinking your boyfriend is a science eschewing brah, maybe throw in a compliment for two his way when you rag on him on the internet beyond "he had a nice body".

I don't get all the abuse that guy is taking.

So he's ignorant about the finer details of fitness and lifting - so what? 99% of the population are the exact same way. He's not a douche because he isn't able to teach, or because he believes some widely-believed, albeit false, myths.

If he was actively trying to discourage you, I'd be a little more sympathetic to some of the vitriol, but eh - he believes he has your best interests at heart from the sounds of it.