Am I the only one who HATES comments on my loss?

I feel the same way. It's none of their damn business. On here it's different because we are all generally here for the same reason and know what we are striving for in this aspect of our lives. I think the best thing to say is just "you look good" and leave it at that. For me, this is personal, and I don't need people coming up to me in real life commenting about my weight.

I can't stand when people comment on my weight loss. Or ask about what I'm eating etc.

I can't quite put my finger on why it bothers me so much. I really feel like it's none of their business. I feel embarreshed if they mention my weight, and almost angry if they ask what I'm eating, like I'm being judged or held accountable to them or something.

Anyone else feel like this?

EDIT: In real life. People who know me.

I feel the same. I hate it when people I only kind of know comment on my weight or how I eat. I never comment on how much they weigh or what they eat, so why do they feel the need to comment me?

Yes, sometimes people should learn to filter their comments. After all you weren't soliciting their replies.

I'm with you, OP.

When I saw my mom last weekend, she told me it looked like I had lost weight. I tried to brush it off and change the subject, but she wouldn't let it go, and I ended up being sucked into a ten minute conversation about how I'm trying to watch my calories and exercise more. I hated every moment of it.

To be perfectly honest, I think it's my old friend 'fear of failure' creeping up again. I don't want people to know that I'm trying to lose weight, because I don't want them to see me if I don't succeed or if I lose the weight and gain it back again.

That is my mother as well. And a co-worker who will not take a hint that I'm not interested in talking about my body.

I don't mind it being mentioned in passing but I don't enjoy it when somebody makes a big production about it and starts drilling me; that feels a little invasive. So yeah, I completely understand where you are coming from.

When I'm visiting my mom, every time I get up from a chair she goes "Oh, don't sit back down, I want to keep looking at you properly!" etc. And it's even worse if my grandma is around, she will clap on my stomach, and keep asking about how many carbs I'm eating.

I absolutely hate this... Depending on who it is I tend to turn the question around when they ask, especially if they do it in a way that I feel is inappropriate. It can be kinda fun and most people get the point pretty quickly, you can ignore their question and ask them; "Have you been ill?, you're looking tired and old.", "Have you changed your hair?, I liked it better before.", "Are you using more makeup? it makes you look much older.", " That's a nice outfit, it's great that you have the confidence to not worry about style."
Sometimes people are dense and you have to get their attention.

I found that my frustration with those comments came from the fact that I felt people were so obsessed with it that it was the only thing they would talk to me about. Also, at some point, I was annoyed that by losing weight I was closer to fitting into society's ideals and people complimented that outside aspect not knowing what all it was taking to lose the weight. I was so hungry all the time and killing myself at the gym...but all they saw was "thinner is better - yay!" Looking back, everybody meant well and was truly supporting me in my journey...and the more I talked to others about what I was eating or workouts I did, the more it solidified those things in my life and kept me honest about my overall plan, so it wasn't all bad.

I really find it very encouraging and I will take all I can get while I am still losing/changing (one on one - I would hate to have a group of people staring at and commenting on my body! Eek!) .

I find the "what are you doing to lose weight?" question to be a weird one, because I don't think people really want to hear it. It seems like a kneejerk question with an obvious answer, like asking someone how they feel after the death of a loved one. They ask it because they feel they have to, so I just say generically "eating better and moving more". If they follow up with "what are you eating?" or "what are you doing for exercise?", I know they really are interested and I will get into detail. A great majority of the time they don't.

I don't like it when my co-worker calls me "skinny" like a nickname, but that is just because I'm not skinny. I am skinnier than I was, but she might as well call me Chinese, because that describes me as well as skinny does. I don't have room in my "hate bucket" for that though. It's just mildly uncomfortable.

When my eating disorder wasn't exactly flourishing yet, I hated them, because they negated me as a human being. Mostly they'd be formulated as "Wow, glad you lost some weight. You were beginning to look very bad indeed." or "My, you really looked fat before." Every compliment indicated that before, I looked horrible, but never knew. So, what if I look horrible now, and they're just holding their tongue? That's why I hated them.

I like when people ask me, I take it as a compliment...and I like to help people, just part of my nature, so I enjoy talking about what I do that helps. :flowerforyou:

I tend to feel uncomfortable with *any* body-related comments, unless they're general (like "you look great today") or unless someone mentions it briefly and leaves it at that. Closer friends would have more leeway than coworkers or strangers.

I'd try just saying "thanks" and changing the subject (may not work with the really persistent ones). Persistent strangers would probably get my "funny, I don't remember asking you a question" and icy straight face. Yes, I can be a bit b****y sometimes. :bigsmile:

It's kind of like people walking up and touching someone's pregnant belly.

I may feel differently once I'm totally hot and insisting that everyone knows it, lol. :laugh:

I kinda dislike it because I'd rather have people saying "you killed it" after I log that I lifted for 90 minutes instead. I'd rather focus more on the Fitness part then the dieting personally.

It's tricky, really, because while I know that these comments are meant to be encouraging and complimentary, it just serves to remind me of how heavy I was. I'm 23 pounds down since November, I have 37 to go, and sometimes I wish I could just assume a whole new identity when I reach my goal so people won't mentally compare me with who I was. Also, I wonder if people who comment on how much weight I've lost would also tell a recovering alcoholic "Great job on passing up the booze at Cindy's wedding!"

For me (in real life) I think people telling me I look good or whatever is a bit like them saying "You looked ****e before".

This.

Plus people never want to hear "eat less, move more". They want to hear you have the "magic" pill.

(In my best Tommy Chong voice) Hey man.... Don't bogart that pill.