Am I the only one who HATES comments on my loss?

I know what you mean. As a woman, you just always get so many unsolicited comments about your looks. Whether it's positive or negative, it makes me feel uncomfortable, too. Like it's my duty to look a certain way.

So true.

When family or friends comment on it, I do appreciate it but I have NO idea what to say..

"You've lost loads of weight!" .. thanks? They are just stating.. so do I respond with I know or thanks or what, I still don't know, probably over thinking it.
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If someone says they can tell that I've lost, I don't mind it at all.. but when someone asks me what I'm doing to lose weight, I want to crawl in a hole and hide. I'm not exactly sure why it bothers me so much.. because I'm just eating better and getting more exercise. I guess it's the humiliation of someone wanting to know why I'm not as fat as I was?

I have one annoying person that I work with that used to frequently make snide rude and unkind comments about my weight. Thankfully I have lost enough that she has now had to shut the heck up! Some of my other co-workers do comment on the newer version of me, but they do so nicely.

I actually do not mind the positive feedback, but I did this for me not for the praise of others. I think is it hard to truly be happy if you are always trying to live up to the expectations of everyone else.

I am an introvert by nature. I don't like people up in my business.
I'm sensitive about this too. I'm proud if they notice (and a couple did - but in a respectful not up in my kool-aid kind of way that I appreciated). I warned them that I'm not comfortable about the crazy attention (that some love - and that's ok) and didn't want to talk about it or I'd start feeling weird about it and stop. They understood. Others probably wouldn't. Others would project their extrovert selves onto me and make it into a "thing."

One of my own reasons is that I am absolutely not doing anything strict - and the moment folks think you are "dieting" they just know you are suffering, martyring yourself and living by some strict rules. Then one day you eat a snickers bar in their presence and the knowing glances go around "Oh, she must be done with that diet now so that didn't work either" or they feel like since you are on a diet your decisions are now up for public debate - and they are not. My decisions are mine.

OR they feel like they need to help you end this craziness and start offering you EVERYTHING to eat.

I only have hubster, 2 coworkers, my BFF and one aunt that know. The aunt and coworkers caught on. The BFF is doing something diety all the time so she shares hers and I listen. She is doing well with looser rules lately though. Hubster - well he's just around too much to not know. He asks what to put on my plate and then measure is out for me if he's cooking. Good boy.

Also, Plexus is going around my workplace like a spring cold. I don't want them up in my kool-aid especially. Of course, some will assume I must be doing Plexus - I hate that idea too!

When I realized that it's not really any of my business what others think about me, my diet or my weight, it became easier to let some comments roll off my back. It became much easier to do that when I realized I really don't care what others (strangers, random co-workers, non-preferred family members, random "friends") think about me, my diet or my weight. As long as my hubby thinks I'm hot, my kids are proud of me, my mom is impressed with my weight loss and my sister thinks I'm awesome, that's all that matters.

I tried Weight Watchers meetings and one time, probably a fluke with water or something, I registered an 11 lbs loss and I was so embarrassed when they told everyone. I'm not sure why but I felt like I just wanted to blend in still and I was fairly new and only knew one friend there. I also didn't know they would announce someone's loss out to everyone so that didn't help either. I didn't last long at meetings, lol.

It used to bother me when I was overweight...I think that I thought maybe it was a comment on "how fat I used to be." I realize now that it probably wasn't as negative as I thought.

I try not to comment on people's weight loss now; mostly, b/c I don't know if they are still sensitive about their weight. However if I know it is someone that isn't sensitive about it OR I know has been working out really hard, I'll say something. It is coming from a positive place.

I've even made comments to strangers at the gym...all have been received well, b/c it is a gym setting...and everyone there is obviously trying to lose weight/get into better shape/etc. It actually seems more authentic when a stranger (like a person at the gym that you see everyday, but don't know) says something. I've had strangers at the gym make comments; it is more motivating. I think that is what MOST people are doing.

I can't stand when people comment on my weight loss. Or ask about what I'm eating etc.

I can't quite put my finger on why it bothers me so much. I really feel like it's none of their business. I feel embarreshed if they mention my weight, and almost angry if they ask what I'm eating, like I'm being judged or held accountable to them or something.

Anyone else feel like this?

EDIT: In real life. People who know me.

I have a love/hate feeling about it. I like that my hard work is being noticed; yet inside I still have a tendency to think " Oh, I'm successful! I can let up now!" But I have a long way to go so I have to fight that off. Another thing (deep inside) my emotional baggage doesn't want me to be attractive in any way! I have a deep need to not be noticed.

I don't have any opinion at all on comments about your weight loss.

I don't even know you.

What an odd question . . .

Do you think the comments in the real world put to much pressure? That's what I feel . If I gain some back because of a bad week then I'm conscious of their comments.

On here I love the support it's very uplifting. I guess the difference is most people here are on the same journey.

Yeah! The nerve of some people, thinkin' they can just walk around complimenting people! Keep it to yourselves, jerks!!

lol:flowerforyou:

I love when people notice. It lets me know that even though I don't see the change, other people do. And it's nice to be noticed for doing something good once in a while.

I'm not crazy about the comments either. Especially at work. If someone pays me a quick compliment it doesn't bother me, but the ongoing commentary (is THAT all you're having for lunch?) is irritating.

That said, if anyone were to ever show genuine interest in advice on eating or workout regimen I don't mind offering up what works for me. But in my experience when people have asked me that question, they are usually looking for some fad diet or quick fix for an answer.

Sometimes yes. While I like that they are noticing my loss in my head im screaming 'nooooo im a work in progress dont look at me till I am done!' lol