Physical chemistry or emotional connection

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  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    I have found that sex can lead to incredible emotional connection.

    Which isn't going to happen without a strong physical attraction.

    or roofies

    Ha! I almost typed that, except the topic was long term.
  • SugarBaby71
    SugarBaby71 Posts: 3,630 Member
    I believe in the triple combination... intelligence, emotional and physical,... fairly equally important.
  • sassypants0923
    sassypants0923 Posts: 7,188 Member
    It can go either way
    Physical first then emotional
    Or vise versa
    Ya just never know and either one can be fun and fulfilling
  • trojan_bb
    trojan_bb Posts: 699 Member
    the physical connection is what draws me in..the emotional connection is what keeps me there.

    yup.
  • rockinchick221976
    rockinchick221976 Posts: 346 Member
    There needs to be a physical connection first, then comes the emotional connection afterwards.
  • erinbartholomew5
    erinbartholomew5 Posts: 44 Member
    Same here.
  • sassypants0923
    sassypants0923 Posts: 7,188 Member
    There needs to be a physical connection first, then comes the emotional connection afterwards.

    Not it you meet online.... :)
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,984 Member
    Steak and a BJ. Yep, can't wait for March 14th.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
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    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    There needs to be a physical connection first, then comes the emotional connection afterwards.

    Not it you meet online.... :)

    I dunno, still physical, IMO. People have photos up.
  • kristarablue2
    kristarablue2 Posts: 386 Member
    Emotional connection because once that connection is established much of the time physical chemistry comes with it, but I don't think you can really separate the two. In saying that I am rarely attracted to someone without an emotional connection.
  • MysteriousMerlin
    MysteriousMerlin Posts: 2,270 Member
    Definitely emotional connection. Eye candy is delicious for a while, but unfulfilling in the long run.
  • MysteriousLdy
    MysteriousLdy Posts: 306 Member
    I believe in the triple combination... intelligence, emotional and physical,... fairly equally important.

    Second that

    Without intelligence,everything to talk about doesnt excite anymore
    Without witty remarks between two,life is bored and stagnant
    Without emotional feelings, no chemistry between two will exist
    Without physical touch, umm..all above seems useless right?
  • ryall70
    ryall70 Posts: 519 Member
    Excellent point Mysterious :-)
  • handyrunner
    handyrunner Posts: 32,662 Member
    There needs to be a physical connection first, then comes the emotional connection afterwards.

    Not it you meet online.... :)

    I dunno, still physical, IMO. People have photos up.
    this
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    Steak and a BJ. Yep, can't wait for March 14th.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
    I honestly feel bad for you having to wait until then :(
    -flowerforyousir-
  • SephiraRose
    SephiraRose Posts: 766 Member
    Your relationship is way hotter when you have both.
  • sunstarz80
    sunstarz80 Posts: 43 Member
    Definitely both. I've had some start off with the physical drawing me in and others where it's someone I wouldn't have gotten involved with if I hadn't given them the time to get to know them first.
  • ballert1
    ballert1 Posts: 98 Member
    A physical connection can keep a bad thing going for a very long time, and that is a wolf in she eps clothing. however no relationship(other than friends) really can succeed on just an emotional connection. If I am not turned on by you physically, How can I want to be with you exclusively...?
  • rockinchick221976
    rockinchick221976 Posts: 346 Member
    A physical connection can keep a bad thing going for a very long time, and that is a wolf in she eps clothing. however no relationship(other than friends) really can succeed on just an emotional connection. If I am not turned on by you physically, How can I want to be with you exclusively...?
    This :smile:
  • 4realrose8
    4realrose8 Posts: 117 Member
    Neither. Physical chemistry can fizzle, especially as time passes, beauty fades, wrinkles deepen and pounds creep on. Emotions can turn on a dime and can be shallow, too.

    What's most important is a spiritual connection, one that is hard fought. The ability to make a commitment, to be willing to forgive wrongs 7x70 times, and realize that loving a human being means loving a person with inherent flaws.

    Sometimes we think the grass is greener on the other side, but really, we just need to aerate, water, fertilize and tend to our own lawns.
  • MysteriousLdy
    MysteriousLdy Posts: 306 Member
    Neither. Physical chemistry can fizzle, especially as time passes, beauty fades, wrinkles deepen and pounds creep on. Emotions can turn on a dime and can be shallow, too.

    What's most important is a spiritual connection, one that is hard fought. The ability to make a commitment, to be willing to forgive wrongs 7x70 times, and realize that loving a human being means loving a person with inherent flaws.

    Sometimes we think the grass is greener on the other side, but really, we just need to aerate, water, fertilize and tend to our own lawns.

    Physical appearance may change from time to time as well as emotional attraction toward the loved ones.

    There is no guarantee that person who you have strong physical and chemistry attraction now, may stay stronger after 10-15years or more.

    What is important is the togetherness, acceptance of each other flaws, compromising with each other, say sorry whenever it is needed, communication and understanding.

    Well it all depends on how you all see to it and want it to go..for a relationship , with or without responsibilities.
  • SavageAbbey
    SavageAbbey Posts: 79
    Emotional connection. I interpret this as being in love and caring a great deal for one another.

    Physical chemistry is important but for me personally I need the emotional connection more.
  • mank32
    mank32 Posts: 1,323 Member
    i'm incapable of experiencing physical chemistry in the absense of some kind of emotional connection.
    TLDR: both
  • Inner_Goddess
    Inner_Goddess Posts: 1,146 Member
    I want it all. There are days when the emotional is lacking and I need the physical to get beyond the emotional issues and flat out, there has to be an intellectual connection. I dated a beautiful man, there was an emotional connection and a physical one, but he bored me and I just couldn't get over it. I want the man who challenges me to see beyond what is in front of me, to challenge me to be a better individual and lover.
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  • _AlabamaSlamma_
    _AlabamaSlamma_ Posts: 216
    GAWD I hated Physical Chem. in college. Hardest class I ever took. I'll take emotional connection any day.
  • tula1980
    tula1980 Posts: 54
    Physical connection is an emotional form of bonding, they are one and the same thing. All aspects of physical contact reinforce the emotional bond between two people. It's why we mate for non-reproductive purposes, to reinforce those bonds.

    You can have the best partner in the word, funny, kind, humerus, great parent etc but if you have mis-matched physical bonding needs or levels of attraction then one or both of you is going to suffer emotionally.
  • creativerick
    creativerick Posts: 270 Member
    Physical chemistry. It's necessary for life.
  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
    Neither. Desperation and low self esteem.
  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,128 Member
    Neither. Desperation and low self esteem.

    I second this.

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