How does your spouse support you?
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My spouse is letting my do a competition in a city 5 hours way on June 1st. She is due June 4th.0
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My husband couldn't care less if I go for a run/bike ride - nor does he care how far or how fast. Nor does he care if I'm sticking to my training plan, or if I've managed to lift a new weight. Sometimes, I'm not even sure he notices I'm gone (to workout). He refuses to eat half the food I make, and constantly has the nerve to eat cookies and chips and stuff right in front of me. He doesn't give a rats @ss about how much protein something has, or whether it has 2 calories or 2 million.
But he is the most supportive husband I could ever ask for. He moved half his crap in the basement so I could have a gym (which he then bought a TV for). He bought me a bike and went for a first ride with me last summer - because it's something he has wanted us to do together but I was never able to. When I complain that my compression shorts are too big and wrinkly, he says "that's because there's nothing left to compress". I've had a terrible time "seeing" the smaller me and have a hard time telling if clothes fit and/or look appropriate. He answers honestly every single day. He helped me make my redneck squat racks even though he has no idea what they are for. When I was nervous and uncomfortable at a pool party over the summer, he told me people were staring because I'm hot.
He doesn't care about my workout plan, he doesn't care what I eat, but he supports me in every way that actually matters (to me).
I absolutely love this! Your husband sounds a lot like my fiance... absolutely will have your back, forever
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My wife is the single most supportive human being walking this planet. She is beyond incredible, and I am beyond blessed to have her.
She knows how miserable I was with the state and look of my obese body, and she's cheered me on all along. And while she was keenly attracted to me even at my heaviest, when I wondered how any woman could be, lately she really can't keep her eyes, and her hands, off me and she often tells me how sexy and "beautiful" she thinks her man is.
And this is all taking into account that her own journey hasn't been as successful. She's been struggling a lot. It's not always easy for a spouse to cheer you on, and watch you lose so much weight, while they've been battling to strip weight off for years to little success. Also my aggressive, single minded pursuit of fat loss has altered how often we have our couple-eating-bonding times over lots of tasty, high calorie food, eaten freely. My wife LOVES food and eating, while I don't share that same passion. So we have much less of our old throw downs, and that was hard for her to accept initially.
But this woman is the very definition of an incredible spouse and human being. Wouldn't want anyone else but her to walk by my side on this, and every, journey.0 -
Mine tolerates eating dinner at 21:00 on weekdays so I have time to get a workout after work. Oh, he has to make dinner too and writes down the weight of all the ingredients so I can log it.0
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Financially -> everything
He supports any activity that I want to do.
He deals with my crazy diet.
He watches the kids when I want to run.
He likes it when I buy crap I don't need for working out.
He always says "good for you" after I exercise.
He doesn't mind all the money I spend when I sign up for races.
He bought me my dumbell and barbell weights.
He gave me my heart rate monitor.
He encouraged me to sign up for the 10 mile race in October (which I did) and the 1/2 in November (which I may do).
He says he is proud of me.
Best guy ever.0 -
On days when I'm feeling fat, he'll eat half my donut so I dont have to log all of it.
He has promised to honestly tell me if my butt starts to get big.
He has actually swatted a cookie out of my hand before. It went flying out of my hand across the kitchen. It was hilarious because it was so unexpected.
True love, I tell ya!0 -
My husband is very supportive! He goes to the gym with me and we work out together. He encourages me to go to the gym. He asks, "Are you going to work out today?" If I don't feel like working out he tells me I need to.
He does a lot of the cooking in our house and he tries to cook things that work well with my plan. He does a lot of fish because he knows I love it and it's healthy and low in calories.
He compliments me when he noticed I've lost weight.
My DD also encourages me to go to the gym and eat healthy.
Maybe there's no good answer to this question, but how can I take comments like this from my BF as "supportive" and not that he's saying I look fat and wants me to lose weight. I am feeling insecure at the moment. Any words of wisdom??0 -
Mine tells me I'm sexy and rubs my legs so hard I almost cry. It hurts SO GOOD.0
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My husband is awesome!
He cooks dinner most nights (I'm supposed to cook one weekend night and I don't think I have yet since he's been home LOL), taking into consideration my calories, weighs everything out for me.
He encourages me to buy to tools I need/want to be successful (workout DVDs, HRM, shoes, etc.).
Once I am ready, he'll help me use his TRX program.
He loves me just the way I am, but knows I need to get healthy and be happy.
He tells me how proud he is of me when I push through a workout I didn't feel like doing. Or when I meticulously weigh out my food and/or pass up on something I love.
And he gave me the most wonderful incentive once I've reached my goal and maintained for a few months.0 -
My husband is very supportive! He goes to the gym with me and we work out together. He encourages me to go to the gym. He asks, "Are you going to work out today?" If I don't feel like working out he tells me I need to.
He does a lot of the cooking in our house and he tries to cook things that work well with my plan. He does a lot of fish because he knows I love it and it's healthy and low in calories.
He compliments me when he noticed I've lost weight.
My DD also encourages me to go to the gym and eat healthy.
Maybe there's no good answer to this question, but how can I take comments like this from my BF as "supportive" and not that he's saying I look fat and wants me to lose weight. I am feeling insecure at the moment. Any words of wisdom??
If it makes you feel insecure, sit down and talk to him. Either ask him to refrain from making comments (admit that it's you not him that has the issue here) or ask him to encourage you in different ways.0 -
My wife set me up a workout station in the basement with padded carpet and an HD tv so I didn't have to work out in the garage, especially when it was really cold.0
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My husband works out with me at the gym and always asks me if I got my exercises in that morning at home. He's not big on calories but he's learning. But he tells me he's proud of my success and of all my effort. I love him.:smooched:0
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My fiance comes to every one of my many crazy races. Road races, obstacle races, it doesn't matter. He holds my change of clothes and takes pictures for me. He also listens to me go on and on about running and exercise and he actually asks questions and gets involved in the conversation even though he's not really into any of that.
Plus he never complains or gives me any grief for going to workout even on our vacations. And he eats my cooking and gives me compliments on it0 -
Eats what I cook without complaining.
Asks me gently if I plan on going to the gym.
GOt my Bible discussion group to start doing dance games after our Bible discussion.
Loves me chunky loves me thin…tells me I am sexy and beautiful at my best and worst.0 -
My husband and I do not eat the same foods right now for different diatery restrictions, and so while we have been on opposite schedules, he's done a lot of his own grocery shopping on sundays. While we've been kind of having to do our own thing for food, he's been buying me flowers every sunday so I can take them to work and have them on my desk all week long to remind me that he supports and loves me while I'm losing weight. It's his way of saying "You're worth it." He's pretty fantastic.
He also goes to the gym with me, and he hates going to the gym, so I really love that.0 -
by staying fat while I stay thin0
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My husband recently started eating right with me AND working out WITH me! I couldnt ask for more support than that!0
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Um, this one time he told me he was glad I stuck to something for more than a month (speaking about my weightlifting). Lol0
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He supports me in every single way. He is always at the finish line of a race, even the marathons! He is always the first one to say you can do that babe. When I was thinking about doing a triathlon but scared of the swim he said I was the toughest woman he knows and he knew without a doubt I could do it. He tells me he loves me all the time. I've asked him why he never told me I was fat and he said because I loved you no matter your size. I
him more than I can possible express! We've been together for almost 25 years and I love him more every single day 
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My boyfriend has basically gone vegetarian since we started dating (I'm intolerant to meat-- I puke if I eat it) and has been 100% supportive of me eating healthy and he makes healthy dinner with me every night (even on the nights he cooks). And, because I'll eat it if its there, he leaves his cookies/crackers in the car (he's 6'0" and 155lb, so he NEEDS cookies).
We also work out together and recently, he's been helping me adapt foods to take out while skiing/ice climbing that aren't all sugar, but are still high calories (olives, cheese, etc).
And pretty much every chance he gets, he tells me how sexy I look and how skinny I'm looking (even on the days I feel fat). And I guess the best part is that when I'm grumpy and 'hangry', he finds me a healthy snack and doesn't get too upset when I yell at him for no reason.
Also, he's a kinesiologist, so when I have questions about weight loss/exercise he's always got answers for me.
I love him so much
Edit: he even started weighing food when he cooks dinner for us because he knows how much I want this. Even though I know its a huge pain for him.0 -
My husband will gladly take the baby off my hands so I can cook workout or have some time to myself...hes a great father and hardworker, and committed husband!0
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My fiancé is totally supportive! He goes to the gym with me on the weekends, and lets me get up at 5am to have my alone time at the gym during the week (doesn't even grumble when I turn on the lights).
Even though we eat very differently now, as he's gaining/maintaining while I'm losing, we've found a lot of great ways to make our food overlap. We grocery shop together and he buys treats for him that he knows won't tempt me and avoids bringing home junk food he knows I can't resist. When I cook our healthy dinners, I tend to give him double meat and put butter on his veggies for calories/flavor. It looks like we're eating the same things so I don't feel deprived.
Also he's always complimenting me on body parts that are looking good at the moment. (When I gain weight he compliments me too but on the parts that he likes to see grow…)
And the sweetest thing is that even though money is a bit tight at the moment, he encouraged me to shop because he knows how hard I've worked for my new size. I got a new pair of work pants and a new pair of workout pants! Plus we tried on swim suits early just so he could compliment me and told me to start thinking about what style I'll want, stressing that I look good in a bikini. (We're minimalists so one pair of work pants is all I own and we each only buy one swim suit for the year, etc etc– just so you know how big of a deal buying one pair of pants is at our house.)
Always gotta brag on the man for his awesome qualities!:bigsmile:0 -
My boyfriend encourages me with compliments. "Baby I just want you to feel as beautiful as you look." 0
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First, he eats half my sweets so I don't go over my calorie limit each day.
Second, he eats whatever I make for dinner and then thanks me for a good meal, even when it's something he's not too crazy about. (Like all the spinach I make that I love!)
Third, if he brings home fast food he no longer gets something for me trying to be a nice guy. It took a while for him to understand that I really didn't want it and that he is being a nice guy by not encouraging that bad habit I had.
Fourth, he's started swimming again so I wouldn't have to go alone. This is the only exercise he can do because he is disabled, so we are really helping each other.
And last but not least...He cheers for every pound I lose! Now he is starting to lose too - 10 lbs so far! Hurrah for him, hurrah for us! We can do it together now!
That's really sweet. And your cat is adorable.0 -
My boyfriend is super supportive, I feel pretty lucky. When I'm having an off day he tells me I'm beautiful and reminds me of the progress I've made. I'm lucky that he doesn't care for sweet things and desserts, so we never keep any in the house. If he sees me starting to falter and reach for the junk food, he reminds me gently of all the work I've put in and makes sure I don't overindulge. He also does silly things, like lifting me up and exclaiming each time how it's easier than the last (this is my favourite!). He's a really great motivator, too.0
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He also does silly things, like lifting me up and exclaiming each time how it's easier than the last (this is my favourite!). He's a really great motivator, too.
That is adorable! Someone needs to tell all men about this! Sweetest thing ever!0 -
This is a really sweet thread, great idea OP.0
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My fiancé does whatever he can to support me. He'll eat what I cook, exercise with me, and remind me what I'm working towards if I feel like giving up and throwing in the towel.0
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I agree this is a great thread and a nice contrast to many other posts in this section.
My wife lost about 50 pounds before I met her and has learned to keep it off. She is an inspiration. She's not much of an exerciser, but she has learned to maintain her weight naturally through portion control.
She married me when I was at my fattest. She would encourage me to lose weight for my health and for the sake of the kids, but never made me feel inadequate.
When I did figure out how to lose weight correctly - after many false starts over many years - she was a sounding board and a reference guide. She was the voice of sanity when I'd get overexcited or down. She pretty much does all of the cooking for our family, and she wrote down the recipes of whatever she made, even in the midst of dinnertime with 4 boys.
Now that I'm close to goal and transitioning into maintenance she continues to provide insight and a sympathetic ear. She tolerates all the work and time my older boys and I are spending preparing for high adventure trips - Philmont Scout Ranch this year!
Plus she washes my gym clothes.0
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