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Sounds to me like your husband should help a little more in either the afternoon or the morning so you can get in some work out time without the kiddo around!

It may be easier at night -- but why can't he give your daughter a bath? Something like that -- so you can take a good at least 25-30 min chunk out of that time to do some exercise?

Or if you cooked -- he could clean the dishes and put away the leftovers?

I definitely think having him help with some things would free up some time for you to do what you want!

OR you could try to have lunches and whatnot done the night before, and that way in the morning when you wake up you can workout, then shower, then leave for work like normal...

just throwing some suggestions out there!

I would agree also with previous posters in that you should perhaps ask your husband for more support/contribution to the housework side of things. You both obviously work outside of the home so it would be more fair on you for him to say wash the dishes or bath your daughter. In a completely unfeminist way of looking at things, and I don't mean this coarsely, but he has a lot to gain from your being more healthy/losing weight. Not only a wife who loves herself and looks and feels better but also someone who is not at so much of a risk of burning out in a few years' time. Hip Hop Abs has some work outs which are only like 25 mins long so if he bathed and put your daughter to bed that would be a similar time frame. I know he's is ready for a rest after coming in from work but so to also are you - you get up earlier than he, make his meals and still manage to work a full day whilst being a mummy too. I don't want to sound as if I'm making your husband into a monster (I understand traditional male-female roles as was brought up in that way and I actually like playing the role of house wife at points too to be honest) because I'm not but I think it will be helpful for you to have a word with him. If this is not something you are happy about (or you like your roles at present or if you know he wouldn't be up for bathing or any of that jazz) I would suggest to cook a long meal (if that makes sense) and then use the time it's in the cooker to do a quickie workout. I think home workouts are going to be your secret to sucess! Good luck!

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This blog post has a lot of meal prep suggestions for prepping ahead of time and freezing pre-made meals to save time during the week.

Even though my kids are grown and gone, I do work full time as does hubby. And it seems I am busier than before. We all have the same amount of time in a day and it's up to us to manage it to our benefit.

One thing that has worked for us and I believe another person had posted similar - but I prepare most of our meals on Sunday afternoon. If the baby is a year and a half and will still take naps, that could be a perfect time to get the food prep/cooking done. I shop on Friday nights or early Saturday so I have everything I need. I will grill/cook 6-8 chicken breasts or pork. Cut up into bite size pieces and use for our lunch meals (salads and pasta combos). I chop and grill our roasted veggies for the week on Sunday as well as prepare a pot of quinoa, beans, pasta and/or rice (all are refrigerator friendly and quick to reheat). These are the most time consuming items. I portion out lunches so they are grab and go each day (so be sure to buy enough containers or use old product containers).

Another option is to look into preparing frozen meals. There are a lot of options out there. Even for the two of us, I will often make larger batches to freeze for those days when you just don't have the time.

Slow cookers - have everything prepared to dump and go in the morning (use the liners or spray inside very well).

If you like fish as your protein, having your veggies and grains already cooked helps tremendously. Frozen tilapia only takes 10 mins to grill or bake and salmon not much longer. I don't get home until late on workout days, so it's wonderful to only have to heat something up quickly...reduces "grazing".

With regard to exercise - Are you able to workout on your lunch hour at work? Can your sitter keep the baby 30 more minutes? Is there a gym where they have daycare?

It wasn't easy when mine were little either, but they did get used to mommy's exercise time. I incorporated the baby with my "step" videos way back in the day. Is hubby able to help with the little one more? Maybe pick her up a couple of nights a week so you can have your exercise time? Hubby could possibly help with the clean up of the kitchen while you take care of the baby or vice versa. You are a team and you will need his support to succeed, but there are some very good options being presented. I hope something works for you. Good luck!

could your sitter watch your daughter for an extra hour or so a couple times a week so you can get a workout in? or when it gets warmer, take her for walks with you? it's definitely a challenge to find time for yourself, but you are important and worth it! :flowerforyou:

I sang "Head, shoulders, knees and toes" with my kids while doing the movements. Find some games and activities you can do with your daughter like putting her in a laundry basket and pushing her around on the floor. A workout can also be silly dancing in the living room to a Sesame Street tape. I also try to plan my meals so I do my shopping and much of my prep on the weekend (maybe hubby can help with daughter). This makes a world of difference and frees up a ton of time during the week.

Sounds to me like your husband should help a little more in either the afternoon or the morning so you can get in some work out time without the kiddo around!

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It may be easier at night -- but why can't he give your daughter a bath? Something like that -- so you can take a good at least 25-30 min chunk out of that time to do some exercise?

We used to argue over how who take care of the kids. Bath time was always a hoot and whoever needed the stress reliever for the day got to do it.

Or if you cooked -- he could clean the dishes and put away the leftovers?

We do that now - great way to share duties and allow each other some down time.

I definitely think having him help with some things would free up some time for you to do what you want!

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Weight loss, diet, whatever, esp with a family IS a family event. I don't know how one person could do it and not include or be supported by the others.

Incorporate your daughter into your exercise. Dance with her. Pick her up and toss her around. Do pushups with her. Race with her. Make it fun for her, and it will be fun for you AND you'll be moving and exercising. Bonus - togetherness and calorie burning!

Side note: Get yourself a small trampoline/rebounder and put it in your family room. I get up at 4:30 every morning and start a day very much like yours, except my kids are older and my hubby helps a little more. We are all busy. But at the end of the day, if we have time to sit down and watch TV, I bounce on the trampoline/run/twist/whatever - just to move. If I can't make it to the gym, I'm at least moving thanks to the trampoline - AND I get to move while my mind is elsewhere. LOL!. And my kids love to use the trampoline too.

Sounds like hubby needs to help a bit more. If he wants to sit down and relax, then make that daddy daughter time for 30 mins. Have them read a book, color, etc, something he can do sitting down that's not going to involve chasing her everywhere.

Also, when I was growing up both my parents worked, and my dad has a pretty physical job. The rule in our house has always been whoever cooks it, the rest clean it up. If my mom cooks, my dad cleaned the dished up. If he got home early and cooked, she cleaned it up. Now that I'm an adult but still live at home, I pull that trick out of my bag sometimes too. If I cook, they clean it up! :laugh:

If this were me, and it was once...I sat down with my husband and told him my personal goals for well being and how important it is to me. We then worked it out together how I could accomplish my goals and he his. Supporting each other and being open about what we each want for ourselves and our family keeps us connected. I joined the local Y because they offer up to 2 hours free child care and they also have late & early classes. I had to get over feeling guilty taking the kids to the Y at 6:30 at night or leaving them with him so I could get to a 7:00pm pilates class. And he had to get used to the "MYO" nights (make your own) that I incorporated into our weekly meals twice a week. This allows me to make a great big salad full of my favorites and not worry about him, and he can make his meat and potatoes and not worry about me. If you can manage 2 workouts during the week and then shoot for 2 more on the weekend, you would be working out on a very consistent basis. I'm not going to lie, there are nights when it is -20 out and the last thing I want to do is go to the gym to work out, but I motivate myself and go knowing that the workout helps not just my body, but my mind- I always feel better! And if earlier is better for you, it's only 2 days during the week that you would be getting up before the sun (start small). You might find that you really love the peace and calm that time of the day provides and increase your workouts during the work week. Good luck- you will find a way!

Fantastic! Are there more wonderful women like you in your State that are available? Actually, I'm only kidding. I'm happily married, but my sarcasm is intended to imply that your hubby might be able to pick up some of your tasks. In my case, I settled for doing all the laundry. Come to think of it, it was after I had a few drinks when I agreed to that. :-)

good luck!

I feel the same.....my baby is 4 months old and some days she wakes me up at 4am! Both my husband and I work full time and while my job is a office job where I am at a desk all day my husband is a construction worker and so he is usually exhausted by the end of the day which I totally understand. I am dealing with winter now and cannot wait until it is nice enough that I can take my baby outside for a walk....she literally has been cooped up inside ever since she was born in October!! Good luck to you!!

My husband gives me 30 minutes 3 days a week to work out. I've seen some nice results from that, and he doesn't mind doing it. It shouldn't be asking to much from your husband to expect the same.

Have you even asked him to watch the kid while you work out? I only ask because my husband would readily give me more time if I wanted it, but I feel like I take advantage of him if I do.

My husband gives me 30 minutes 3 days a week to work out. I've seen some nice results from that, and he doesn't mind doing it. It shouldn't be asking to much from your husband to expect the same.

Have you even asked him to watch the kid while you work out? I only ask because my husband would readily give me more time if I wanted it, but I feel like I take advantage of him if I do.

Wow, are you serious? He "gives" you a whole 90 minutes a week, huh?

Me and my husband both work out of the home (me part-time). Intuitively, we also take care of our 3 young children TOGETHER. I probably do a bit more around the house but only because some things bother me more and because I'm home 2 days more than him.

I don't understand some of these comments. Having a family is a partnership. If you are the breadwinner of the family that doesn't mean your duties are exclusively to foot the bill. Are the woman taking on everything by choice or are the men expecting everything to be done?

Thank you for posting this. I feel like I am taking on family responsibilities from 5am-11pm some days and wonder how other mothers actually do it. This was really helpful to read through. I think the take home message is meal prep and a good working PARTNERSHIP with your partner. For some odd reason I am a strong minded, confident woman in all aspects of life but when it comes to "women's" work I fall so miserably short of sticking up for myself. I wish you all the best of luck with this because hearing your concerns and others observations justify my own inner knowledge that I just need to stick up for myself at home more often too.

When I read your first post asking how can you find more time, my initial answer was: You can't! There are only 24 hours in each day and you have to sleep for a minimum of 6 of them. When everything else is already being allocated you don't have 30 minutes to do a damn thing except collapse. Then again, as many pointed out, it may not be a matter of you finding that 25th hour in the day, but of you reclaiming 30-60 minutes throughout the day. Also, in our position of feeling overwhelmed by the daily expectations and being under-supported by our hubbies (who we still love!) it might get our exercise commitment and our partner's willing help to start small. Maybe think of it as a success if you two can coordinate efforts for 3 days a week of Mom/Gym time. That would still be a physical fitness accomplishment for a lot of adults, myself included.

Sorry for the long winded "I hear ya!" but this was really what I needed to hear. The only real advice I can offer is I found some free apps for my kindle: 10 minute workouts for arms, abs, butt, legs, and cardio. If I go to bed at 11:30pm or midnight it doesn't make much difference. 10 minutes is almost so quick there is NO excuse and can be fit in if the kids scream all day and the husband does nothing. Anything you ignore for 10 minutes (dishes, etc.) will not matter and the best thing: THESE APPS REALLY WORK!!! I am shocked to say that I am actually sore the next day from these every time I do them. These help me stay motivated because I can do them consistently which is an accomplishment, and because when I feel them the next day I don't think it was a waste of my time. Maybe you could find some short interval freebie workouts to try at home. I play with the kids too but it just doesn't feel as satisfying as some intentionally dedicated me time.

GOOD LUCK! You could friend me if you want. I would love to know how you progress with this hurdle.