Am I overweight?

I do not think that you look overweight. Then again you are not naked in the pics lol and clothes can hide alot. I think you look great so you need to do what you want for yourself and no one else


and FYI... when I asked my fiance if he thought I should loose some weight he said.. "yea you could loose some pounds, but only if you want too. I think you are beautiful just the way you are no matter what." And when I ask him how I look in certain outfit and its not a positive answer.. I take that as constructive criticizm and find something else. This has happened with two outfits so far and when I put them on again after I lost some weight.. his reaction was priceless

I respected his opinion and am thankfull that he can be honest with me.

All men should learn to be brutally honest with their women..no matter what.

You look like your healthy, but you could definitely drop a few pounds and still be healthy. If you want to drop a few, then go for it. Some people tell me I'm crazy when I say I'm cutting fat, but I'm no where close to where I really want to be (6-pack abs, <10% body fat). Just because you aren't really overweight by most standards doesn't mean you can't drop some lbs if you decide it's worth it for both the health and aesthetic benefits. The worries only come when you have an unrealistic, unhealthy view of yourself. That's the red flag we look for when suggesting people don't lose weight.

I agree with what the guys are saying too. I love my wife, and she looks amazing. That being said, if she drops a few more lbs (literally just a few, any more than that would be too much), then that would be great too. If she were to ask me if, in my opinion, she should lose weight, I would say that she should only do it if it's what she wants, because she doesn't need to change herself for me.

Hi there,
I think you are quite similar to myself. I am 5ft 5 and started off on this site at 140lbs.

You look good in your pictures but clothes can be deceiving. Some outfits make me look slim but when I am infront of the mirror in my underwear I don't look as good and I noticed my fatty areas (for me its my tummy).

I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and although he is honest with me, he is reluctant to say I'm fat when I ask him! I ask him alot for his opinion of what I'm wearing and I can now tell by his reaction of what he's really thinking - if it's really nice I know I look good, but if it's just ok I know I need to change!

When you don't have too much to lose, a small amount of weight loss can make all the difference. I have lost 4 lbs so far and feel alot better in myself. I too want to get down to around 130lbs. However, not having much to lose means it's harder for those lbs to come off so don't be dis-heartened if it's taking a while. With careful eating and a little exercise, you'll start seeing results.

Alot of people tell me I don't look like I need to lose weight (as most people above have said to you) but for me I want to look better and feel better about myself. Good luck!!

In your bottom picture I can see a little of your left earlobe that you've been trying to keep hidden under your hair, and dearie I am sorry but it DOES look a little flabby. Don't take offense, I mean that only in a constructive way. With myfitnesspal you'll be flaunting your earrings again in no time! ;-)

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You should be a comedian :flowerforyou:

Um OK...her BF is not telling the truth?! Maybe I read that wrong, but it seems an odd thing to say, lol. He said that she looks good and does not look overweight!

No, you read that correct. No boyfriend is going to tell his girlfriend she is overweight. That is setting himself up for disaster. Does he think she looks good? Absolutely. Does he think she looks over weight? You will never know. However, judging from her photo and height/weight, yes she is over weight. Is she obese? Absolutely not. Hence, that said it is up to her on how she feels about the way she looks and feels.

Come on people there is no need to candy coat it here. She has her boyfriend for that. We are all here on this site to lose weight and/or get fit. We should at least be able to tell each other the honest truth.

I agree with you man!! People on these sites now days are so thin-skinned that everything a person says is offensive to others.

You are right - we are here to get fit and lose weight.

I think she is a bit overweight, no need to really "lose weight", but some exercise to tone up will make the Original Poster look smaller and she will be fit - which to me is the epitome of looking and feeling healthy.

I do not think that you look overweight. Then again you are not naked in the pics lol and clothes can hide alot. I think you look great so you need to do what you want for yourself and no one else


and FYI... when I asked my fiance if he thought I should loose some weight he said.. "yea you could loose some pounds, but only if you want too. I think you are beautiful just the way you are no matter what." And when I ask him how I look in certain outfit and its not a positive answer.. I take that as constructive criticizm and find something else. This has happened with two outfits so far and when I put them on again after I lost some weight.. his reaction was priceless

I respected his opinion and am thankfull that he can be honest with me.

All men should learn to be brutally honest with their women..no matter what.

I agree - My husband is the same way!!!

It has happened a couple of times with outfits I put on and he said to me............"You are not the size I was when I first met you and what you have on does NOT look good on you at your current weight. If you want to wear those types of clothes again and have them look good on you, you know what you need to do for yourself."

My husband has loved me when I weighed 125 pounds and he still loved me unconditionally when I weighed 265 - and he continues to love me the same every where in between.

There are nice ways to go about how you say something to someone about their weight. If a woman is asking a question about how she looks for what thier man's opinion is of an outfit or weight in general.. then yes be honest.

However if a man wants to be an *kitten* about it.. then that is a different story. That is not what I am referring too. And honestly if a woman asks if she looks ok or if they need to loose pounds and thier man is honest and says how he feels and the woman doesn't like the answer.. she has no one else to blame but herself for asking the question.

Um OK...her BF is not telling the truth?! Maybe I read that wrong, but it seems an odd thing to say, lol. He said that she looks good and does not look overweight!

No, you read that correct. No boyfriend is going to tell his girlfriend she is overweight. That is setting himself up for disaster. Does he think she looks good? Absolutely. Does he think she looks over weight? You will never know. However, judging from her photo and height/weight, yes she is over weight. Is she obese? Absolutely not. Hence, that said it is up to her on how she feels about the way she looks and feels.

Come on people there is no need to candy coat it here. She has her boyfriend for that. We are all here on this site to lose weight and/or get fit. We should at least be able to tell each other the honest truth.

Dang, I found the one man out there that DID tell me I was overweight!! He was straight up honest that I had gained quite a lot of weight and while he wasn't thrilled about it, he understood. We were having LOTS of home-life and medical issues. As for the OP, I agree that your BF is most likely not going to tell you what he really thinks as he wants to avoid arguements and hurt feelings. But ultimately, the decision is yours to make if you want to lose weight or not. Only you have that power.

BMI calculators tell me I'm overweight and I'm sure I must be overweight, but my boyfriend says he thinks I look really good and he doesn't think I look overweight. He has normal taste in looks and doesn't prefer overweight women or anything.

Do I look overweight? I'm about 5'4 and 148 pounds.

Your BF is not going to tell you the truth. Unless the truth is the truth. Yes, you are over weight. The real question is: are you happy with the way you look and feel?

well put and more so are you eating healthy and getting regular excercise. We can look great and not be healthy, look at all the ppl out in the world that are not over weight on the scale but eat like crap or starve themselves to wear a dress to an event.

In the end it's how feel about ourselves not how others see us.:flowerforyou:

My sister, knowing she needed to lose weight, went to see her doctor. She had a physical, to find out all her important info, sugar, cholesterol, thyroid function, that kind of stuff, and then she told the Dr. how much weight she wanted to lose. Her Dr. said that she needed to lose it slowly, and after she had lost half of her goal, to come back, and have another physical. The Dr. said tha bmi for one person, is not the same for the next because of bone structure/mass and muscle mass. So what is a healthy weight for one lady that is 5'4, may not be the same as another lady that is 5'4. I suggest seeing your dr, having a physical, and then deciding am I really overweight and unhealthy? If your overweight and healthy, then don't lose any weight, if that is what makes you happy. I believe, that a man that loves his woman, will not care if she's overweight, he loves her unconditionally, that's the way it should be. So, overweight of not, he loves you just the way you are. Poor guys, sometimes they have no chance. In my opinion, you look great.