Parents who have lost a child.

Sweet love, go to Facebook and find the page Remembering Anne Reese. There you will find the most inspirational mother who lost her little 3 year old on Christmas Eve 2012 to a tragic swingset collapsing on her. Our hearts and prayers are with you and your family that you find the comfort you need. Through Amy, we have all found more faith in life. Through the loss of Anne Reese, we found our faith in God again.

https://www.facebook.com/RememberingAnnReese

I have never lost a child...but my youngest (also named Riley) was a near miss. We were in and out of hospitals with him for six months. He wasn't gaining weight...so frail...so tiny...he lived, but I cried over that baby every day - praying for him to be strong, and to get through this. I was terrified that I would lose him. My heart goes out to you - the suddenness is terrible.

I lost my mom to cancer when I was sixteen, and as someone else said - that was nothing compared to the crippling fear of losing my baby. The biggest things I can say - for grief in general - others have said also...remember your little boy. He's got to be so confused right now, and scared...and keep your husband close...turn to each other instead of shutting each other out. He comes the closest to understanding what you feel right now. Forgive yourselves...there was nothing you could have done differently. We have to trust in doctors because they have had the training we don't. They did the best they could...so did you.

As people move on with their lives, or try to say helpful things - that aren't helpful at all...speak up. Most of them really want to help you - to do the right thing, but if they've not been in your shoes, they don't know. Some won't say anything because they don't know what to say...some will say the wrong things. All would be happy if you told them what you need. Speak up...

Grief is weird - the intensity goes away after a while, but then it can hit you out of nowhere ten or twenty years later. The pain fresh and raw like it just happened yesterday. With my mom, I have learned to appreciate this grief when it resurfaces...it keeps her alive to me. Every time the pain hits me, I remember what an amazing mother I had, and how much I love her still.

I won't say be strong - I'll say be whatever you need to be...just put one foot in front of the other, lean on those you can and in time, it will get a bit easier to get up and move through your days.

"Sorry for your loss" and "my condolences" just don't seem to fit. I have not been through this kind of experience with family, so I truly cannot even fathom what you are going through. I can honestly say my heart aches for you and I wish there were something I could do to help. I have known others that have lost a child. One did not allow for anyone to try and help, they rejected and pushed family/friends away for decades and only more recently has attempted to begin healing and moving past it. It is hard to be on the outside of this and feel incapable of helping.

I can't provide advice and I'm not sure if comforting words will even help. All I can say is allow yourself to embrace the present and move past it at some point. Don't let any tragedy ruin your life and your family. You family and friends (and some of us strangers on here!) love you and will do anything they can to support you; allow them to do this!

Holy ssss. I'm so sorry.

Have you seen the film Rabbit Hole?

My 19 month old son is my world. I cannot imagine the pain and emptiness losing a child leaves in your heart. To everyone in this thread - my heart goes out to you. I believe in God and Heaven, and I know your children play and laugh without pain and illness or injury in Heaven. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry for your loss. I have performed CPR on someone who did not make. Please do not blame yourself. You did everything you could do and there is no way you could of done anything more. It took me a long tome to realize that.

Please do get help for your whole family including your son. Try to remember that your daughters life, no matter how short, is still important and meaningful. I am making a donation to my favorite children’s charity in Baby Julie name. I hope that other will as well, and perhaps your family’s loss will be able to provide a miracle to another family. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

Your family is in my prayers...