really annoyed

Tune them out. Once you're good at it, you won't even hear the "blah blah blah". People are such downers when someone else accomplishes something that they themselves cannot do. Keep up the good work! :flowerforyou:

So I have been working reallllllllly hard to get to where I am now and I still am working hard to get to my weight loss goal. My mother and sister who have never spent a day in their lives trying to lose weight are constantly telling me how I need to do this. Also despite the fact that over the past few years I've lost the body weight of a whole person every time they see me they say that there is no visible difference. AHHHHH I know it's crap because im probably the most critical person of myself and even I can see it ....but it's discouraging. ...just needed to vent it out .

Family can be the toughest critics. You'll probably find they are jealous of your determination to stick at something. You usually find it's the people closest that sabatoge us. They want you to change but are scared you will leave them behind.

Be proud of your achievement.

Violet, I do not know your family situation, or if your mother or sister are overweight, but it seems like they may just be jealous. Even if they aren't overweight, they may be jealous of your perseverance and strong will to make yourself healthier.

Don't let them get you down. The best action, if you have a good relationship with them, would be to ask them why they feel they need to bring you down. I am one for talking through things, though. Some families like to bury things down deep.

Don't get down on yourself. You have done an amazing job!

Aww I'm sorry OP it's tough if people aren't experiencing what you're going through but just think about the end result and keep doing what you think is best for you. -hugs- :flowerforyou:

Your mom and sister suck. Sorry you have to deal with that.

I agree with this statement. Shed the dead weight and your weight will fall right off. Good luck and stay strong.

My goodness. 300lbs - 161lbs?? You should be SO proud of yourself. I would suggest that you post your progress pictures on here if you were comfortable enough. The MFP community would FOR SURE be able to tell how much you've accomplished. But, ultimately, it is more important that you can acknowledge it for yourself. Technically, that should be sufficient. Ugh... But I do know what it's like not to have that support. Especially from family. Chin up, darling. You are doing AMAZING.

I don't know if they're overweight. And I know this is a snarky thing to do. But take a picture of yourself standing next to them. Then a year later take another one. Show them both pictures. If they're like my family, in that year, they gained 10 lbs, while you lost 30 lbs.

Maybe they'll start asking YOU for advice.

But in any case, you look at those pictures yourself to keep yourself motivated. And ignore them.

Congratulations on your weight loss! Your hard work is paying off! You've improved your health, your looks,and discovered lots of cool stuff about yourself along the way.
About your family- I totally understand. You must be my long lost sister. I always wanted a sweet supportive mother like I read about in books, saw on TV, witnessed at my friend's house. It never happened and never will. Don't talk to them about your diet, your exercise, or your weight loss. They are using it as a passive aggressive tool. Don't take the bait.
oh and by the way, I know I will never have the Mom I wanted, but I can be the right kind of mom to my kids- and it is wonderful!
Be proud- You've done a Great Job!

Thanks everyone!!! Before I joined this site I was close to 300 pounds ... When I joined I was about 180 ...currently 161 ... I just always feel like today will be the day they will be like WOW ... but I appreciate all of the support!!

They are your family...not much that you can do about that. Just find a way that you can deal with it. Maybe you could sit down and tell them how you feel. If that doesn't work...just say..."Sure...thanks for your input"...then go about what you are and have been doing...taking care of yourself.

My mom always takes the time to tell me how fat I am, so honestly I am used to it. Once I accepted I can never please her, or anyone else life became a lot easier. I ignore her most of the time, say something sarcastic or better yet say something shocking and that works to keep people quiet

Jealousy is a *****...even people who are supposed to love you unconditionally can be guilty of this. You have done fabulous!!!!

So I have been working reallllllllly hard to get to where I am now and I still am working hard to get to my weight loss goal. My mother and sister who have never spent a day in their lives trying to lose weight are constantly telling me how I need to do this. Also despite the fact that over the past few years I've lost the body weight of a whole person every time they see me they say that there is no visible difference. AHHHHH I know it's crap because im probably the most critical person of myself and even I can see it ....but it's discouraging. ...just needed to vent it out .

Family can be the toughest critics. You'll probably find they are jealous of your determination to stick at something. You usually find it's the people closest that sabatoge us. They want you to change but are scared you will leave them behind.

Be proud of your achievement.

This. Exactly.

Why ARE the people we're close to so scared we'll leave them behind? Leave them behind for what, and who?? I don't get it.

I'm on a "mental illness" kick now, having recently discovered many in my family are afflicted with personality disorders. Of course, one cannot make any diagnoses over the internet but it sounds like they have some mental issues, possibly illness. I know my narcissistic personality disordered parents act the way you're describing.

I recently set firm boundaries with them (call before you visit, we will be phoning you once a week, not multiple times a day, etc). They didn't like my 'rules' so they stopped coming around altogether. Prior to that, they'd show up, not say a word about my weight loss (of about 90 pounds at that time) but go on and on about how pretty my neighbor is and so on. It's called, EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION, look it up. To me, their refusal to acknowledge your stunning weight loss is a form of emotional manipulation.

Anyway, no way one wouldn't notice going from 300 pounds to 161. That's freaking amazing and many congratulations to you!!!