Cried for 30 minutes

Burstingintolife
Burstingintolife Posts: 11 Member
in Motivation and Support
Went away on vacation and had a great time with some friends. Felt uneasy about pictures being tagged on facebook, but I'm pretty confident, despite my weight, because there's a lot more to me than how I look... so I was hopeful that all would be fine, felt like my friends would understand what I've been going through. Well, I come home and have a message from a friend of many years, who I haven't seen in a while, but who matters a lot to me. He said just this: "What happened to Corina? Did you eat her?!" And I cried for about 30 minutes. It hurt a lot.
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  • kethra
    kethra Posts: 85 Member
    I'm sorry. Sometimes people don't consider what they say before they say it.

    Don't let it discourage you. Let it become part of your motivation and drive to make him eat his words!
  • qtgonewild
    qtgonewild Posts: 1,930 Member
    well that would be the last contact with that so called friend. what an awful comment.
  • DamianaKitten
    DamianaKitten Posts: 479 Member
    well that would be the last contact with that so called friend. what an awful comment.

    Agreed. You don't need people like that in your life.
  • EmmieBaby
    EmmieBaby Posts: 1,235 Member
    remove her from facebook, she obviously isn't your friend to say something so mean....no one should ever poke fun at someones weight....its just not right.

    that or she is jealous and is probably bigger then you and is making you feel bad for your success =)

    *hugs*
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    well that would be the last contact with that so called friend. what an awful comment.

    Agreed. You don't need people like that in your life.

    +1
  • valentine4
    valentine4 Posts: 233 Member
    What a horrible nasty person. You don't need 'friends' like that.

    Remove her from your fb, karma will look after her :) and do as others mentioned and use her comment as motivation.
  • Amanda_Gx6
    Amanda_Gx6 Posts: 320 Member
    I'm so sorry that is a terribly friend :( don't let it break down your confidence. Delete that frenemy from facebook and if/when she asks why tell her how completely insensitive and discouraging her message was. Your "friend" is a jerk.
  • motivatedmartha
    motivatedmartha Posts: 1,108 Member
    I hope you had a good holiday - ignore -ve comments; after all, it may prove easier for you to lose weight than for your 'friend' to learn good manners! Turn those tears into something +ve and motivational.
  • 2boys111
    2boys111 Posts: 31 Member
    Wow, that is a terribly hurtful thing to say. They aren't a friend to you.

    It takes courage to be ok with being in pictures when you aren't feeling your best. I'm proud of you that you were enjoying your time with your friends and living your life. You are a good person. Your worth isn't measured by your weight struggles. You have wonderful qualities whether you are 130 pounds or 500 pounds. You deserve to have a healthy lifestyle for all the benefits for you.

    I just had to go to my son's school for an event and I hated my outfit, felt uncomfortable, unfashionable etc. But I concentrate on my love for being here to see his play. But I was uncomfortable and couldn't wait til I could get home. So I know. It's hard.

    So seriously forget that jackas* friend. Don't let them get you down. Keep living, keep smiling. *hugs*
  • tamzinb10
    tamzinb10 Posts: 38 Member
    well that would be the last contact with that so called friend. what an awful comment.

    Agreed. You don't need people like that in your life.


    This.
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    A lot of people say / write things before thinking about it.

    I would have replied back with a few f-bombs.
  • 40andFindingFitness
    40andFindingFitness Posts: 497 Member
    well that would be the last contact with that so called friend. what an awful comment.

    Agreed. You don't need people like that in your life.

    +2

    Rude! Some people have verbal diarrhea.
  • cuinboston2014
    cuinboston2014 Posts: 848 Member
    This really makes me mad and I don't know you or him.

    I would totally call him out on it or just defriend him.

    But YOU said that YOU are confident so forget what he said. Do what you need to do to be happy for you. When you get to your goal he'll be eating his words and that will give you so much satisfaction.

    Unfortunately that goes down in my book as one of the cruelest things I've ever heard a friend say.

    Sorry!! Don't let it ruin your day or yourself.
  • polarsjewel
    polarsjewel Posts: 1,725 Member
    What a horrid thing to say! I'm sorry this person was in your life. You deserve better :flowerforyou:
  • mufamuscles
    mufamuscles Posts: 57
    http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/DeleteDeleteDelete.gif
  • Jenni129
    Jenni129 Posts: 692 Member
    Omg!!! I would delete that rude person.
  • knitapeace
    knitapeace Posts: 1,013 Member
    Just remember, that comment tells more about him than it could ever say about you. What a jerk.
  • gdurham2014
    gdurham2014 Posts: 27 Member
    go kick her *kitten*, it will be good exercise, I'm sure a good *kitten* whooping will burn quite a lot of calories
  • MagJam2004
    MagJam2004 Posts: 651 Member
    Bridges are a lot easier to burn than to build.

    Before you take him and toss him into the vast ocean of your justified anger, maybe let him know he upset you. There have been too many times when I have shot from the hip with something realizing too late that what I said had the opposite effect of my intention. If he responds to you with attitude, then yeah, into the fiery lake, but if you all had a relationship with some value I would hesitate before lighting the match. Just my humble opinion.
  • AllonsYtotheTardis
    AllonsYtotheTardis Posts: 16,947 Member
    Went away on vacation and had a great time with some friends. Felt uneasy about pictures being tagged on facebook, but I'm pretty confident, despite my weight, because there's a lot more to me than how I look... so I was hopeful that all would be fine, felt like my friends would understand what I've been going through. Well, I come home and have a message from a friend of many years, who I haven't seen in a while, but who matters a lot to me. He said just this: "What happened to Corina? Did you eat her?!" And I cried for about 30 minutes. It hurt a lot.

    the proper response to that person is "F**K YOU"
  • FP4HSharon
    FP4HSharon Posts: 664 Member
    You said this person "matters a lot to you"....he shouldn't anymore. Anyone who could not only THINK that, but take the time to TYPE it, and hit the send button....this is definitely NOT a person that should "matter" AT ALL to you. That's just outright cruelty, there's no way ANYONE could be that ignorant to think you would take it as anything other than the insult/hurtful comment it was meant to be. And if he tries to contact you later to tell you he was just joking, or whatever excuse he tries, I wouldn't respond. He's probably also bragging to his friends about how funny he is.
  • WhiteRabbit1313
    WhiteRabbit1313 Posts: 1,091 Member
    A lot of people say / write things before thinking about it.

    I would have replied back with a few f-bombs.

    ^^Same here.

    What a d-bag! There is NO REASON to say such a thing to a friend. Your "friend" obviously has issues of their own that they might do well to deal with before speaking to you, again.
  • DirrtyH
    DirrtyH Posts: 664 Member
    I hope you called him out on it.
  • Yomamma45885
    Yomamma45885 Posts: 5
    What a jerk. Don't dignify his remark with an answer. If it's too awkward to unfriend him, I'd just ignore him.
    You need to surround yourself with people who lift you up. It looks like you are doing well on your weight loss
    anyway!
  • pammerz88
    pammerz88 Posts: 58 Member
    well that would be the last contact with that so called friend. what an awful comment.

    I agree!!! Doesn't sound like a very good friend to me!
  • paxbfl
    paxbfl Posts: 391 Member
    Don't let it discourage you. Let it become part of your motivation and drive to make him eat his words!

    ^^^THIS!

    A comment like that would have fueled my workouts for several months. It's one thing to say F*#% YOU, it's another to demonstrate it by your actions.

    I lost 40 pounds in 4 months when I was at my heaviest. You can do it too - and totally look awesome by May.
  • SapiensPisces
    SapiensPisces Posts: 992 Member
    Those comments make the person making them much worse than you. Don't let it get to you. She's been out of your life for a long time, and perhaps it should be permanent now that you know her true character. Surround yourself with good people.
  • AmyZ46
    AmyZ46 Posts: 694 Member
    I 'm sorry that your feeling got hurt -

    I have a few friends that would say that to me . They are jokesters but at the same time would want to wake me up to reality ... I had a freind tell me point blank that I was going to be a blimp again if I kept eating like I was eating ... this was 12 years ago and I had lost 45 lbs -- she was right I gained that 45 lbs + 55 more . She was blunt ( I didn't listen) and she still is a really good friend of mine that I can trust not to let me go out with cloths that are not flattering on me .
    I think of that statement all the time ,It actually motivates me I will not be a blimp again !

    I hope the stupid remark came from a good place and only you know this friend well enough to interpret that . Good luck !
  • Cinnamonstickbella
    Cinnamonstickbella Posts: 7 Member
    I usually do not post but this is worth a comment. I agree people do not always know that what they say can be hurtful. And some comments more than others.

    With that said, I understand your feelings getting hurt bc it too would crush me!

    Put the focus back where it belongs! On your success and who you are as a strong woman!

    Sometimes statements can also be motivating....I know when I hear a comment like that---private tears--then *sometimes* gives me the old "I will show you" attitued.

    Hurtful tho....
  • mccindy72
    mccindy72 Posts: 7,001 Member
    friend shaming/body shaming is never okay. That being said, communicate. Let him know how much he hurt you with his offhand comment, perhaps he honesty didn't think about it before he said it. I have a couple of friends who have a tendency to word vomit sometimes, and I have no problems letting them know if they've crossed a line. If they can't accept that their behavior is not okay with me, I unfriend them. But at least communicate first; at the very least, it will perhaps be a learning experience for him to think before he types.

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