I know this is stupid but..

That's why I'm gay. :laugh: No, women can be just as bad.

I'd say, still take the compliment. Stay positiive. You'll find him eventually.

That's why I'm gay. :laugh: No, women can be just as bad.

Ain't that the truth!! :laugh:

Ok, so he's an *kitten*. So what? That doesn't make you unatractive or undesirable.
You're going to meet lots of *kitten* in your life

The world is full of jerks who only want to make themselves feel good. I "dated" too many to count only because my self worth was also tied to how the opposite sex felt about me. It took a special kind of *kitten*, that is now in prison, to show me that I had to love myself before a REAL man could love me. It took time, and yes, I am still young, but I found the man I believed was created for me. And you will, also. Take the compliment, use it to remind yourself that you are beautiful and desirable, and that one day, your soul mate will find you. Just love yourself and the rest will come.

Coming from a guy's standpoint, this fella you mentioned is just one loser out of many that you will encounter in your lifetime. Just know that there are some of us guys who were raised the right way and taught chivalry. Unfortunately, there are ALOT of bad weeds out there that hide the good ones. Keep your head up, you'll find a good guy... whether it's soon or a few years down the road.

The world is full of jerks who only want to make themselves feel good. I "dated" too many to count only because my self worth was also tied to how the opposite sex felt about me. It took a special kind of *kitten*, that is now in prison, to show me that I had to love myself before a REAL man could love me. It took time, and yes, I am still young, but I found the man I believed was created for me. And you will, also. Take the compliment, use it to remind yourself that you are beautiful and desirable, and that one day, your soul mate will find you. Just love yourself and the rest will come.

This^^^

I've got a few more years under my belt than you do so listen up: He was a jerk before he met you. He was a jerk the night he came over and guess what??? He's still a jerk as I write this.You were just his most recent addition. Really, be grateful you found out so quickly and didn't waste any more of your time. What I'm trying to say is that there are a lot of creeps out there and you are going to run into them. The best advice I can give you is to immediately remove yourself from the vicinity of any jerks as soon as you figure out what/who they are.

On how to prevent this from happening in the future:

1. Own your own space. You invited an unknown quantity (said jerk) into your space and received an unexpected outcome. Never ask someone you've just met into a personal space, mentally, physically, or emotionally. Go out for coffee, meet at the library or a bar, but never bring someone to your home turf (work or home) until you know what/who you are dealing with. Trust me, actually knowing takes a lot longer than you would think.

2. Protect your heart as you would your stuff. You wouldn't leave you phone or some clothing around for anyone to do what they wanted.

3. Ditto your self esteem and self respect.

4. Guy hitting on you??? Fine, that's nice but you have goals to achieve and stuff you want to do with your life. IF he's really interested he will persist. If he's just out to up his numbers he'll move on.

Sound like I've been there and done that???? You betcha!! I was stomped on, mistreated, and disrespected until I finally figured out that I didn't really need a guy and that I could take care of myself. Around age 26 I got it. I learned to be happy with myself. Eventually, at 35, I married the most wonderful guy on the planet. He's not fabulously wealthy, he doesn't look like Brad Pitt (although he is pretty cute) but respects me and treats me like a queen and that, THAT RIGHT THERE is what you really need from a man.

Dude thought you are hot. Apart from popular stereotype pimps does not hit on everything what moves... just the hot stuff. Why not accept a compliment? You will feel like crap if you will focus on crap. It's totally your fault that you feel bad, not his, you choose it by focusing on wrong things. It's so easy to turn around!

Advice from an old lady. If you don't value yourself neither will others. Hold your head up, look people in the eyes and smile. Life flies by, look at everything as an adventure.

You are not old :laugh: :flowerforyou:

There are jerks out there. But there are a lot of great guys too.

Just move on. Not worth losing too much sleep over.

ahh don't worry about it, at least you know he's a jerk NOW instead of developing feelings for him and finding out later. Try not to tie your self esteem to how men react to you. He gave you a compliment, nothing more and nothing less. I know it sounds cheesy and overdone but do things to boost your own self confidence (working out, hobbies, dancing, anything you enjoy!) and your confidence will shine towards others..which makes you more desirable.

Obviously he gave you a compliment for a reason, guys do NOT go out of their way to give compliments.. EVER. Keep your head up, confidence is a very attractive trait!!!!

Ummm....that's not true at all. Some of us give compliments all the time. The difference? Guys who actually LIKE women will value them, give compliments and make them feel special.

OP, there are plenty of jerks out there. He's not the first one you've met and he won't be the last. Just ignore him and know that you are better than that.

Obviously he gave you a compliment for a reason, guys do NOT go out of their way to give compliments.. EVER. Keep your head up, confidence is a very attractive trait!!!!

Um, have you ever been around men before?

Obviously he gave you a compliment for a reason, guys do NOT go out of their way to give compliments.. EVER. Keep your head up, confidence is a very attractive trait!!!!

Um, have you ever been around men before?

Ahahaha!

I love you.