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    When a girl says "It's okay", "I'm fine" etc etc

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    • Posts: 10,913 Member
      When I say "It's okay", it really IS okay... I don't need to sugarcoat shiz.
      When I say I'm fine, it also means I'm fine.

      -doesn't understand this whole mentality thing because I'm blunt and not about to stop being blunt-
    • Posts: 161
      This seems about right: http://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-fagan/2013/04/what-she-means-when-she-says-im- fine/

      "When a woman says that she is fine, that nothing is wrong, she is doing something that she has always been taught was the right move. She is being chaste with her emotions, playing close to the chest, and not coming across as that hysterical girlfriend that she always knew she could distinguish herself from to earn the pat on the head and the compliment of “not being like those other crazy *****es.” For her to say that she is fine is often a generous act, one that is intended to take the burden of having to decode her problems or even deal with them head-on and place it back on herself. She will either work out her problems internally, or won’t acknowledge them at all."
    • Posts: 895 Member
      If she's an honest, non game-playing girl, she really means it's OK or she's fine.

      If she lies, or plays games, she is upset with you.

      Choose to date the former, not the latter.

      I disagree. I often say "I'm fine" when I'm really not. It isn't a "game" or dishonesty...and I'm certainly not someone you should hit the hills running from.

      Simply put, I don't like to be "that woman".....the nagging, over-emotional, constantly making issues out of everything BISHY type. Sometimes when I say I'm fine it's because I want to see if I can work through my feelings on my own. I want to cool down, make sense of my emotions and put things in perspective before I approach the conversation. I just want to be left alone so when I am ready to talk about it, it can be a calm and collected conversation.
    • Posts: 3
      Depends on the tone of voice and body language. For me if I'm moving my hands or make a face and say "It's okay/ I'm fine." It really is. If you just get an "It's okay/I'm fine" and I shake my head or have a neutral face, I'm pissed off. At that point you should apologize even if you have no clue what you did and back off. If you end up that position try calling the next day and figure out what you did and apologize for real. We girls are kinda crazy, but it makes sense to us!
    • Posts: 107 Member
      We'd probably tell you what as wrong more often if we weren't mocked for being too emotional and hormonal when we did.

      This. And your screw up somehow gets twisted into it being our fault for caring about something. I never used the phrase till I met people I had to say it to if I didn't want an argument.
    • Posts: 182
      you're screwed.

      speaks the truth!
      :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
    • Posts: 287 Member
      If I say "I'm fine" it either means I don't care enough about that person to enter into a conversation about how I actually am or I am actually fine ie when I work colleage says "good morning how are you?" "fine thanks". Don't need to elaborate about how the cat slept on my black pants so I had to iron a new pair this morning which made me late etc etc. But if it is a friend/partner then I will say how I feel.

      But yeah, all depends on the tone.
    • Posts: 81 Member
      She means that whatever you did or said really upset her and she doesn't want to argue about it but she does want you to hold her. Usually she doesn't totally understand why she's upset or she knows she's kind of in the wrong but can't control the fact that she's still mad/upset.
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      Except yes, really. It is a ridiculous generalization based on observations of the lowest denominator of a gender. Just as ridiculous as assuming every angry woman is on her period.

      +1
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    • Posts: 12,344 Member
      Is this the same girl you were going to dump over text a few days ago?
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      Oh, yeah, and every girl totally means the exact same thing every single time she says, "Fine," so, this is a totally legit question.
    • Posts: 10,913 Member
      Is this the same girl you were going to dump over text a few days ago?
      Lololol XD
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    • Posts: 4,846 Member
      First off I don't play word games, tell me straight up what's wrong. I'm not a mind or body reader! I like honesty above all else.
    • Posts: 2,141 Member
      First off I don't play word games, tell me straight up what's wrong. I'm not a mind or body reader! I like honesty above all else.


      Yes, thank you! Where have you been all of my life?!
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      You're being a little dramatic

      So she tries to explain the situation and you call her dramatic but you can't work out why girls shrug things off instead of explaining them to you?
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      Exactly, so who's the issue? Women
      Not really. The one you're "with".
      You say that you broke up with her, yet here you are, allowing her to "work things out" with you, after you "thought" you broke up with her.
      You either do or you don't. Simple.
    • Posts: 425 Member
      I'm not being dramatic, just honest. Just break up with her already. Trust me it is not meant to be. When it is meant to be, you will want to impress her parents. This girl is not the one.
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      Not really. The one you're "with".
      You say that you broke up with her, yet here you are, allowing her to "work things out" with you, after you "thought" you broke up with her.
      You either do or you don't. Simple.

      Give me a space to breath??
    • Posts: 141 Member
      I swapped out "It's fine" or "I'm fine" for "I don't want to talk about this right now" many years ago. If she's angry then perhaps she wants to calm down and/or gain perspective before she deals with the situation.
    • Posts: 2,675 Member
      depends; cannot generalize really about this.
    • Posts: 2,228 Member
      it means trolly mctroll has stuck again.
    • Posts: 270 Member
      why bother trying to understand women anyway

      women understand women and they hate each other
    • Posts: 10,913 Member
      why bother trying to understand women anyway

      women understand women and they hate each other
      Psh, I love me some women and I'm a female.
      -snugs all dem girls-
      B/c yeah.
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      Psh, I love me some women and I'm a female.
      -snugs all dem girls-
      B/c yeah.
      *smooches*
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      Psh, I love me some women and I'm a female.
      -snugs all dem girls-
      B/c yeah.

      LMAO!! :flowerforyou: :drinker:
    • Posts: 1,235 Member
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      love this

      sooo true means we are not fine and your in soooooooooooooo much trouble that running would be a very good idea lol
    • Posts: 10,913 Member
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      love this

      sooo true means we are not fine and your in soooooooooooooo much trouble that running would be a very good idea lol
      Goes to show that everyone's different, and that's totally fine :flowerforyou:
      But when you find someone that's like you.. You hang onto that person and you do not let go.
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