Is BYOB acceptable?

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  • MissingMinnesota
    MissingMinnesota Posts: 7,486 Member
    I don't see anything wrong with BYOB especially if you aren't really drinkers.

    However...I did find out it is bad manners to bring a couple of bottles of wine to a dinner party, and take the unopened bottles of wine back home with you. I got deleted from a few people's FB over that little faux pas.

    It's pretty tacky...

    Yup, there's a difference between BYOB and a hostess gift. A dinner party calls for a hostess gift and you don't take it home with you. If it's BYOB, you take it home with you.

    Here's what is weird...I took like 4 bottles for about 6 people or 8 people- two bottles were opened...2 were not. So I took just one back, b/c it was something I had wanted to try and it didn't get opened. So I announced this...everyone seemed cool with it at the time. But apparently it was an issue.

    And as far as the host gift...I haven't thought of it that way, b/c the lady who invited us over...didn't cook a SINGLE thing. Everyone else brought the food, she just provided the space, which I thought was a little strange.

    Shouldn't have annouced you were taking the one bottle. Should have just picked it up as you were leaving and no one would have noticed.
  • _Krys10_
    _Krys10_ Posts: 1,234 Member
    I have a lot of parties and it is always BYOB, I think it is assumed nowadays. I always make sure I have extra beer and mixers for the ones that forget or maybe weren't planning on drinking. If I were invited to a party and it wasn't BYOB on the invite I would still bring my own.
  • MissingMinnesota
    MissingMinnesota Posts: 7,486 Member
    BYOB is usually acceptable but you could just put on the invite "appetizers, soda, and a keg of such and such beer will be provided" that way they will know if the want something other than that they will need to bring it. I would do it that way since it is co-workers and his boss coming.
  • wmstormvet
    wmstormvet Posts: 145
    Sure why not. Just let them know you won't be supplying alcohol so if they want any, you will have the mixers (soda probably).
  • BigBadDougs
    BigBadDougs Posts: 155
    No worries with BYO - it's the Norm here in Ireland. But yeah, you don't take your stuff home at the end of the night. You leave what you don't drink - unless the host is done and you're moving to an after party party, if you know what I mean.
  • teelynn35
    teelynn35 Posts: 239 Member
    My thing is I'm already feeding your *kitten*...im not getting you drunk too. Maybe im just cheap like that..idk



    bahahaha this^ I'm from a small town and ALL of our parties are BYOB. In fact we don't have to say it anymore. It's just too hard to try and please everyone. That person likes Bud, someone else Coors, don't even start on the hard stuff. You could spend hundreds and still not please everyone, so just make sure you have plenty of food to soak up the alcohol quit worrying and have fun!!
  • aribugg
    aribugg Posts: 164 Member
    maybe it's just where im from, but BYOB is normal. and completely acceptable with large crowds. as long as you throw in a bit too, and have a cooler.
  • Teksavvy
    Teksavvy Posts: 133 Member
    I just threw a party. The guests were informed that there was food, water and soda. If they chose to drink something else, bring for themselves and enough to share.
    This worked out to be enough for themselves and the people who "forgot" to bring something.
  • patrickblo13
    patrickblo13 Posts: 831 Member
    Nothing wrong with it. Even with food you could say bring a dish to pass.
  • patrickblo13
    patrickblo13 Posts: 831 Member
    I have a lot of parties and it is always BYOB, I think it is assumed nowadays. I always make sure I have extra beer and mixers for the ones that forget or maybe weren't planning on drinking. If I were invited to a party and it wasn't BYOB on the invite I would still bring my own.

    I like you!
  • Squamation
    Squamation Posts: 522 Member
    Make it a game : Bring your favorite alcoholic drink to share with the birthday Boy.

    Except for a formal occasion like a wedding or something I think BYOB is fine.
  • Oscarinmiami
    Oscarinmiami Posts: 326 Member
    I always provide the food and tell my friends bring what you want to drink....they are fine with it.
  • geebusuk
    geebusuk Posts: 3,348 Member
    In the UK it's generally accepted that the host provides food and mixers, the guests bring booze (and food if they want to, but it's not generally necessary...)

    Of course, the hosts also have booze to contribute usually, if you do this regularly - that's how you get rid of the last lot of booze that was left after the last party!
    This - frankly a lot of BBQs etc I've been to it's been a case of bringing your own food too, especially when there's a lot of people.

    Getting a Keg does make sense if you can afford it - then you can make it clear there is ONE keg and thus people will have to bring anything else they want.

    Is there a designated driver and a shop that sells booze late not too far away so someone could be sent out on a booze run if needed?
  • nicoleisback
    nicoleisback Posts: 184
    Rather than saying BYO on the invite, you could say what you are providing. For example, I usually go with something like 'finger foods and soft drinks provided'. It says the same thing but doesn't focus on what you are not giving them.

    As for BYO at parties, the only times I expect them to supply alcohol would be at things like weddings. General house parties and birthdays have always been BYO for me.
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    Sure is acceptable. We have friends over fairly often and while we always have at bottle or two of whiskey, vodka, rum, gin, tequila and a few bottles of wine on hand, they usually bring a 6 pack or something else to share.

    My fiance is also a brewer so our bottom shelf of the fridge is pretty much always beer. :laugh:
  • OllyReeves
    OllyReeves Posts: 579 Member
    I don't see why not. It's also a good idea so they can't blame you for over serving them and them getting drunk. Make sure to let them know if they look too drunk and don't have a driver they lose their keys til morning.

    Why would you even want to get involved in that? People are responsible for themselves.

    And how do you decide who 'looks' drunk? I am aware of the law, and if someone told me that they thought I 'looked' drunk and tried to take my keys off me, I would tell them where to get off.....
  • cassylee
    cassylee Posts: 107 Member
    Hi, I am from Australia and it is very common to say byo drinks and then they can choose which type of drinks they want to bring. Our friends have such a wide taste in drinks and alcohol, that we could easily spend $500 getting every drink known to man. So we all happily accept to byo drinks. A lot of restaurants (especially in Brisbane) are now BYO as well.

    So if you are worried about looking cheap. Just say you are having an Aussie party where every one BYO drinks. :drinker:
  • sheepysaccount
    sheepysaccount Posts: 608 Member
    I loooove BYOB, usually you can swap with someone else and be able to try some that you'd never buy because you have no idea if you'd like it :) That being said, the keg is a great idea because it shows you care but aren't really sure what people would like.
  • Go_Mizzou99
    Go_Mizzou99 Posts: 2,628 Member
    I wouldn't mind, others may find it tacky. Perhaps get a pony keg and tell people they can bring what they want outside of that?

    ^^^this^^^
  • sillyvalentine
    sillyvalentine Posts: 460 Member
    In the UK it's generally accepted that the host provides food and mixers, the guests bring booze (and food if they want to, but it's not generally necessary...)

    Of course, the hosts also have booze to contribute usually, if you do this regularly - that's how you get rid of the last lot of booze that was left after the last party!
    This - frankly a lot of BBQs etc I've been to it's been a case of bringing your own food too, especially when there's a lot of people.

    Getting a Keg does make sense if you can afford it - then you can make it clear there is ONE keg and thus people will have to bring anything else they want.

    Is there a designated driver and a shop that sells booze late not too far away so someone could be sent out on a booze run if needed?

    There is a liquor store in town that is open until 12 but it's twice the price of the city.
  • sillyvalentine
    sillyvalentine Posts: 460 Member
    I don't see why not. It's also a good idea so they can't blame you for over serving them and them getting drunk. Make sure to let them know if they look too drunk and don't have a driver they lose their keys til morning.

    Why would you even want to get involved in that? People are responsible for themselves.

    And how do you decide who 'looks' drunk? I am aware of the law, and if someone told me that they thought I 'looked' drunk and tried to take my keys off me, I would tell them where to get off.....

    I agree. I am not buying, I am not serving. I am not responsible for them or their actions. I would offer them a place to sleep but that's all.
  • rambabean
    rambabean Posts: 21 Member
    If I have a party I make sure I clearly state "please BOYB" because there's always someone who wouldn't think to otherwise, and friends have had drama from saying "well we have SOME drinks and mixers" and people then taking the p***. If someone is offended then they're going to be missing out on a good time!

    For ref I'm early twenties and my/ my friends parties are at our parents homes still :)

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