Loosing weight = Loosing friends

There really should be grammar police around here.

Technically spelling police.

But seriously.

*LOSE

Am I the only person who lost without a huge lifestyle shift? I just ate fewer calories and work out when I have free time. I still went out with my friends and take the same stuff -- just less of it OR planned the rest of my day around indulging. I didn't cut off social activities to work out -- either getting up early or pulling a double a day I had nothing else to do.

I just.... I don't get how you lose friends unless you are being jerky about it.

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Am I the only person who lost without a huge lifestyle shift? I just ate fewer calories and work out when I have free time. I still went out with my friends and take the same stuff -- just less of it OR planned the rest of my day around indulging. I didn't cut off social activities to work out -- either getting up early or pulling a double a day I had nothing else to do.

I just.... I don't get how you lose friends unless you are being jerky about it.

how much did you lose? No seriously.

I lost 150 pounds....150 pounds! That is a person.

most of my friends pre loss were extremely overweight. Everything they did surrounded around food.

They wanted to take their kids to a coffee play place or a mall play place so they could have a coffee and danish while watching them play, I wanted to go to the park so we could be in the sun and play!

They wanted to take them to the movies I wanted to go bowling.

I wanted my child to be raised in a world where everything didn't revolve around food. I wanted to live in a world where everything didn't revolve around food.

and my friends? They wanted to be around food. Meetings/play dates/ consisted of going to one of our houses and sitting with coffee and cakes....evenings away from the kids consisted of wine dates with more cake...

there was always cake....

and when I wasn't interested, they got mad.

I had no problem being at their place and being around cake, I had no problem going to play places as long as it wasn't ALL the time...i did want to occasionally hit a park....

but wanting to do that was "changing them"

and I think my loss made them jealous, it was a slap in the face that made what they weren't doing something THEY weren't doing. As long as we were all fat, they could pretend life was just like that....there was nothing to be helped for it....

then someone helped themselves change that and all of the sudden they were confronted with that. It didn't go over well.

That's all I know

I love a good party. Dump the old friends they are jealous of your accomplishments. You don't need friends like that. Stay true and stay positive.

Am I the only person who lost without a huge lifestyle shift? I just ate fewer calories and work out when I have free time. I still went out with my friends and take the same stuff -- just less of it OR planned the rest of my day around indulging. I didn't cut off social activities to work out -- either getting up early or pulling a double a day I had nothing else to do.

I just.... I don't get how you lose friends unless you are being jerky about it.

how much did you lose? No seriously.

I lost 150 pounds....150 pounds! That is a person.

most of my friends pre loss were extremely overweight. Everything they did surrounded around food.

They wanted to take their kids to a coffee play place or a mall play place so they could have a coffee and danish while watching them play, I wanted to go to the park so we could be in the sun and play!

They wanted to take them to the movies I wanted to go bowling.

I wanted my child to be raised in a world where everything didn't revolve around food. I wanted to live in a world where everything didn't revolve around food.

and my friends? They wanted to be around food. Meetings/play dates/ consisted of going to one of our houses and sitting with coffee and cakes....evenings away from the kids consisted of wine dates with more cake...

there was always cake....

and when I wasn't interested, they got mad.

I had no problem being at their place and being around cake, I had no problem going to play places as long as it wasn't ALL the time...i did want to occasionally hit a park....

but wanting to do that was "changing them"

and I think my loss made them jealous, it was a slap in the face that made what they weren't doing something THEY weren't doing. As long as we were all fat, they could pretend life was just like that....there was nothing to be helped for it....

then someone helped themselves change that and all of the sudden they were confronted with that. It didn't go over well.

That's all I know

Solid ^this.

Be HAPPY.

If "friends" aren't happy for your happiness, then don't allow them to be part of your life.

Edit: Please repeat 2nd grade for grammar / spelling before posting a thread again.

It's one thing to joke about a spelling error, it's another to post something like this. Not cool.

As i was always the sickest (not the heaviest, but not the smallest either) I think a lot of my friends are loving that im stronger and feel better. but on the same note, i think sometimes they dislike when i push for healthier foods they dont want. they have never gotten mad at me, and actually starting to make changes themselves.

I don't think I really lost any friends, but I had a few friends that I drifted apart from because my priorities changed. I was no longer a homebody who didn't want to go out or do anything. I'm sure there were a few friends who were jealous but they never said anything directly to me or made snide comments in my presence. I know several had a hard time accepting I was no longer their "fat friend" and they had to accept that were now the "biggest gal" in our group of friends.

As I became for confident and comfortable with who I was, I made a lot of new friends with similar interests and goals. So in the end, my true friends are still around and I have many more friends than I had before losing the weight.

Be HAPPY.

If "friends" aren't happy for your happiness, then don't allow them to be part of your life.

Edit: Please repeat 2nd grade for grammar / spelling before posting a thread again.

It's one thing to joke about a spelling error, it's another to post something like this. Not cool.

No, why would I be mad? It's actually against forum guidelines. Why take a strike for it?

It was a joke, but thanks for reporting me.

Given how quick the MFP community is to report the most benign of spelling and grammar corrections, and given that your correction was one of the more harsh I've seen in my years here, I have no doubt that there were dozens of reports filed.

Be HAPPY.

If "friends" aren't happy for your happiness, then don't allow them to be part of your life.

Edit: Please repeat 2nd grade for grammar / spelling before posting a thread again.

It's one thing to joke about a spelling error, it's another to post something like this. Not cool.

No, why would I be mad? It's actually against forum guidelines. Why take a strike for it?

It was a joke, but thanks for reporting me.

Given how quick the MFP community is to report the most benign of spelling and grammar corrections, and given that your correction was one of the more harsh I've seen in my years here, I have no doubt that there were dozens of reports filed.

Um, yeah, basically this. It was more of a heads up than anything.