27 years old ---------> 300 pounds :'-(

JulsiePie
JulsiePie Posts: 166 Member
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I am morbidly obese.

That is so hard to type.....but I need to realize that. I can't pretend that I'm okay or that I'm healthy because I. AM. NOT.

On the way home from our friend's house yesterday, my husband and I were talking about losing weight together and it was a pretty normal conversation...

Me: "We need to lose weight. "
Hubby: "Ya. I am going to cut out sugar and start going to the gym next week."
Me: "I need to stop eating fast food and cut down my portions."

Blah blah blah.....The same conversation we have had over and over again with the same results - nothing.

But then the bomb dropped. He said something he's never said to me before...

"I'm obese, but you're the type of obese that people die from"

He grabbed my hand and I realized, for the first time, that he was really concerned about me and my being around.

For years, I avoided those fears....I wouldn't voice them...I wouldn't even think them, but now, my amazing husband said those words that I needed to hear.

As soon as we got home last night, I made an account and today I logged my food. I went over my calories...did I fail? Maybe to some, but I measured my food today and I ate less - a lot less - than I normally would, so I'm proud of myself.

I would love some support and motivation through this journey...I need to lose more than half of me! It's scary, but it beats the alternative - dying.
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  • deup
    deup Posts: 129 Member
    your welcome to add me if you wish :) always looking for new meal ideas and support :)
  • itsmedosia
    itsmedosia Posts: 20
    Hi there!

    Feel free to add me as your friend. I'm here for you! Ask anything you want.
    :smile:
  • GaryRZ2020
    GaryRZ2020 Posts: 29 Member
    When you went over your calories you did not fail--logging is a good tool to see how you went over your calories and is a good way to help you better stick to your daily goals. I have a lot of weight to lose about 225 pounds. I have learned that this is a journey that takes time-- up to 1 to 2 years depending on your starting weight, but it can be done with persistence.

    Check out CyberEd312's story he made the jouney you can too-- don't give up--even if you go over you calorie limit one day get back on track the next day--you can do it !

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1103164-3-yrs-312lbs-lost-1yr-from-bodylift-and-maintenance
  • rowlandsw
    rowlandsw Posts: 1,166 Member
    Sometimes it takes a big shock like that to get someone motivated. I spend all of high school at 285 pounds then hit 364 before it finally sank in and i'm 35. I don't even want to think if this has knocked any years off me or not. Once you're strongly motivated it also helps with the self control, i'm doing way better than anyone was expecting. Just set small, reachable goals, and you'll do well. Mine on here is 2 lbs a week, then once i lose a bit more weight i will exercise more and my goals will be 2.5 a week.
  • stephross88
    stephross88 Posts: 846 Member
    I started out at 302, got all the way down to about 188 then gained back a lot of what I lost. I am now at 252 as of this morning and am getting back into the swing of losing the weight I already lost once. I would love it if we could offer support for each other:)
  • Pusarah
    Pusarah Posts: 124 Member
    Best of luck on your journey! Sounds like you are off to a great start. I just recently started as well and have a large amount of weight to lose as well!

    I hope you can keep logging in and logging your food and find all the success you want and deserve :)
  • happysummerrunner
    happysummerrunner Posts: 66 Member
    Welcome! Please add me, I'm new-ish and would love more friends. And good for you for getting an account and starting!
  • chesnity3
    chesnity3 Posts: 960 Member
    You can add me, I always love new friends.
  • MissSaturday
    MissSaturday Posts: 784 Member
    feel free to add me.. this site is very useful.. make ggod use of it as i did when started in june last year..
  • JulsiePie
    JulsiePie Posts: 166 Member
    Wow - I can't believe the outpouring of support in this thread and through friend requests already! I feel extremely motivated because I now have more people in my corner!!

    Thanks for your kind words everyone!
  • Giancarlow
    Giancarlow Posts: 6
    I'm a tad younger and a lot worse off than you are. I also need to lose more than half of myself. Don't beat yourself up over going over a single day. The point is you ARE setting down this path. Keep the big picture and your end goal in mind.
  • bajoyba
    bajoyba Posts: 1,153 Member
    Welcome!

    It's a process and a gradual evolution, but if you're patient with yourself, you will get there.

    One thing that has really helped my mindset along the way is the idea that there is no failure. The only way to fail yourself is to give up on yourself. There will be bad days, but they're just bumps in the road, and in the grand scheme of things, they don't matter. Even a small step is still a step in the right direction, and sometimes a step backward can be a learning opportunity.

    Going over your calories is not a failure - especially if you log those calories. I've had days here and there (Thanksgiving!) where I ate almost 1000 calories over my goal, and I still logged it to the best of my ability. And guess what? It didn't matter in the long run. Knowledge is power, and if you know what you're putting into your body, it's much easier to modify. It's all about creating new habits and learning how to make this work for you in a long-term, sustainable way. :smile:
  • Cynner2007
    Cynner2007 Posts: 46 Member
    You are on your way! Maybe take things in baby steps, instead of being overwhelmed by the 50 lbs you want to lose, perhaps break it down to five pound increments. It probably sounds ridiculous but I congratulate myself on each positive step I take towards getting fit and healthy...I completed 48 minutes of cardio? Yay Me! Finished my food diary under calories for the day? You are doing fabulous, Chiquita! I spent so many years running myself down I now need to teach myself to be positive about my successes.
  • boshka74
    boshka74 Posts: 23
    Welcome aboard. Feel free to add me more than happy to add me to friend list we all are here to help each other. We all want to drop the lbs, but remember it was not all gained at once. It will take sometime just know we are all here to support one another.
  • miasmommy21407
    miasmommy21407 Posts: 17 Member
    Feel free to ad me as your friend!! I'm around your age and weight. It's a journey! Also...make sure you know what your BMR is. MFP tends to give you a REALLY low daily calorie goal (1200-1400 in most cases) and that's no way to be successful. I always set my calories manually based on my BMR for a 1-2 pound per week loss which is a healthy loss range. :)
  • eatpaleo
    eatpaleo Posts: 1
    Hey I am definitely here to help if you need it
  • kksoucie
    kksoucie Posts: 18 Member
    Welcome! I am in the same boat too. I am a little older, 32 years old, and I started at 311lbs. The weight is coming off and this site makes it so much easier than I thought it could be. I am at 294 now and it's only been a month and a half. It gets exciting to reach smaller goals along your way to a big one. My husband is very supportive and he has told me that for every 25lbs. I lose he will get me new clothes or a new purse or accessory. He also told me he loves me the way I am no matter what but wants me around for a long time and healthy. Feel free to ad me too! Congrats on finding this site and taking the first step.
  • ChrissyLMel
    ChrissyLMel Posts: 2
    You can and will accomplish your goals! It's as simple as that. Find any healthy way possible to succeed.
  • airangel59
    airangel59 Posts: 1,887 Member
    You took the first step :flowerforyou:

    Mentally set small goals, don't look at the big picture. I was thinking in 5 lb increments when I started. They add up fast. :bigsmile:

    I wish I had gotten on the ball and stuck to it when I was a lot younger (yo yo dieter here in the past, working to make sure history does NOT repeat itself)

    Take it one day, one step, one pound at a time. You will have good days, great days and some not so good days but on those, just pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back on track.

    I found it easier to plan ahead, I'll log my food in advance for the next day or two. I put extra snacks in for late nite so I can adjust thru the day if i eat something I had not planned on or forgot I ate or whatever. When I eat out I check the menu or a similar restaurants menu to get some idea of the calories etc, I put that meal down first and then plan the day around it.

    Weigh & measure your portions and eat mindfully, the weight will come off.
  • StarFall90
    StarFall90 Posts: 133 Member
    You made the biggest step, getting started. I have been on MFP for a month now. I log every single day and I am working hard to lose weight. I started at 364 and I am now 339. Anyone can feel free to add me :)
  • rayleenC13
    rayleenC13 Posts: 3 Member
    Getting started on here is an amazing first step! I am just trying to get back on the bandwagon and we are about at the same place in our journey! Feel free to add me, I think having more people to help keep on going and motivated the better!
  • kendall916
    kendall916 Posts: 4,222 Member
    I don't know if I can say this to everyone on the MFP page but I'll say it anyways. You are a great inspiration! You have my support as you go through this challenge. Remember to take it one step at a time and feel free to add me! -hugs-
  • closertoedge
    closertoedge Posts: 1
    I know exactly how you feel. I'm almost 30 years old and I was 355.5 pounds. As everyone has said and will say, it's a long journey, but it's one worth taking. Sometimes you don't realise at first what you're putting into your body, but as days pass you'll see yourself eating less and less. You haven't failed for going over your calories. It happens. The important thing is to log everything and to realise that no one is perfect but that you'll do better the next day. And when you have those times when you only lose a pound, don't feel bad. Just google what a pound of fat looks like and you'll feel much better.

    Feel free to add me if you like. :)

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  • dancingmuffin
    dancingmuffin Posts: 70 Member
    hey feel free to add me im 24 and started at 300 lbs in december and im down to 264. And welcome to mfp and good luck with your loss
  • auntiemsgr8
    auntiemsgr8 Posts: 483 Member
    Feel free to add me. I am about 1/3 of the way to my goal. Still have over 100 pounds to lose.

    My one, probably most important, piece of advice. Weight everything you eat. Even liquids if you can. Measuring cups can be evil in that they most of the time are incorrect. There is a you tube video about it. The little extra calories you get from measuring vs weighing could make or break your weight loss.

    Best of luck to you and your husband. Not all women would have appreciated what he said but kudos to him for saying it. Did he make an account here too??
  • tiggerhammon
    tiggerhammon Posts: 2,211 Member
    Please add me! I love to help and be supportive.

    It was so hard for me to admit when I hit obese on the charts. So hard, in fact, that I argued with it. I said the scale was stupid, it was wrong, it doesn't take everything into consideration, but I have lots of muscle... But, I noticed, as long as I kept making those excuses, I kept gaining. My reality hit, not with a number on the scale or obese on another scale but when I realized I could not even run one block, when I panted from walking and my knees were killing me. Then, I saw a picture of myself and realized I really was lying to myself - I LOOKED obese!

    I am not trying to lose right now, but give me about 3 months and I will be back at it again. I log on daily and as soon as my baby is born I will be right there with you trying to lose to live :)
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    When you went over your calories you did not fail--logging is a good tool to see how you went over your calories and is a good way to help you better stick to your daily goals.

    This.. it's good to just log for at least a week or so.. see what you're actually taking in and compare those numbers to what you should be taking in. Being aware is the first step.

    And even when you fail, just start over fresh at the next meal. Don't fall into the "Oh I over ate, my diet is now ruined for the next week" mentality.
  • Quasita
    Quasita Posts: 1,530 Member
    I'm a bit older... 31 right now, and when I started, I was 485. My breaking point was when the spinal surgeon told me that while my spine is crumbling due to genetic cause, it would be pointless to do any surgery because my weight would ruin the results.

    My becoming so heavy was a rocky road of eating disorders, self-hate, secret eating and shame, coupled with those around me, who love me, telling me that they love me "squishy" and therefore not really motivating me to make any changes. It finally clicked about 2 years ago that I had to do the changing for ME and not keep waiting for someone to get fed up with my fat for me.

    It's not an easy road by any means. Losing half of ourselves (I'm in this same boat, 485 start, 215 goal, that's over 50% of my initial body weight) is not just about weight, but about changing how we know ourselves. To be successful is to face some of the biggest challenges of our lives... but we're here to struggle together.

    I'm always, always looking for other super-sized people to do this with, because people facing similar challenges are just plain hard to find. Anyone can add me if they want to, just leave a comment in the request for me :)

    Just keep taking steps. Maybe today will just be one step. Maybe that's all you can do right now... but you'll soon find the endurance and strength to take the second, third, fourth... before you know it, you'll have walked a mile in your new shoes.
  • poohbah4
    poohbah4 Posts: 127
    I just recently dropped the "morbidly" from obese. I am now merely obese. If I could do it, you can too. Feel free to friend me if you'd like. You're taking that important first step and I'm with you on the journey. :flowerforyou:
  • CelebrityStatus
    CelebrityStatus Posts: 84 Member
    Feel free to add me! I started January at 305lb... I am now 278 and trending downward.

    If I can do it, so can you!!

    The main thing to remember is that you will fail- lots of times. You will have a day where you eat 1500+ calories in one sitting. You will have a day where it seems like you can never lose the weight, there is SO much of it. You'll have a few of these days. But think of every day as a new day. So you ate crappy yesterday... so what! Today is a brand new day. A new day to create a better you. There are lots of obstacles on the road to success, and you just have to keep persevering through to reach your final destination. I hear this quote all the time on here, but it's so true "Losing weight is not a sprint, it's a marathon." Time and dedication is all it takes :)

    You've got this!

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